being a mom cool school

dear parents,

I haven’t blogged for 5 days and that’s pretty long for me haha. A lot of things have been going on; we are planning for 2016 so a lot of top management meetings, we are moving into a new place, and you know… those two people named Daniel and Mariam are keeping us busy constantly.

Daniel’s had a week of school already and I’m pretty sure I have already gained the reputation of The All-Over-The-Place Mother with the teachers there hehe. Always “a bit” late to send Daniel and I have already forgotten to pick him up twice. *hides under table* Both times it was because I was in a meeting in the office and I was not keeping track of time. My phone is also always on silent because I can’t stand a lot of notification beeps (I have a gazillion active group chats and emails) so I missed my driver’s “Urmm, Daniel?” messages. God bless his soul for not judging me as I shout at cars driving so slowly when we’re zooming to pick Daniel up.

Still trying to adjust to having a child in school! Been a rough week for both Daniel and I. Separation anxieties on both side, him clutching on to my pants (top, scarf, shoes, handbag, everything) as soon as he sees the school gate, and me crying in the car after I leave him. In front of him, I act all tough because I want to teach him that this is normal so he has to get on with it, but inside my heart breaks into a sea of tiny crying-face emoticons. No working mother can not feel bad about this. The teachers keep consoling me saying that he’s totally fine after I leave and the crying stops after a few seconds when he sees other children (well, I’m pretty sure he’s more excited about the many many toy animals on their shelf. He couldn’t care less about other kids but I won’t tell the teachers that.). When I pick him up, I like to peek first at what he’s doing and he’s totally fine doing all the school activities. But the moment he sees me, he runs to me and starts crying and refuses to say Bye and Thank You to the teachers. I’m hoping this drama will end after a month or so!

On a positive note, Daniel has said repeatedly that he likes school and he gets excited when he wears his school bag (seriously such a cute giraffe bag I wore it a couple times). And I’m feeling so excited when I get a “Dear Parent, ….” announcement text from the school. Dear Parent... fuhhh I’m so grown up guys!! I get Dear Parent texts!

And soon my fridge doors will be covered with these.


“What a beautiful artwork you did there, Daniel!!!”

Lies I tell my children.

being a mom

daniel starts preschool

The day has come.

Daniel starts his first day of pre-school tomorrow at twenty six months old.

I can’t sleep so I made this collage of some of his moments growing up.


I’m not going to cry. I’m not going to cry. I’m not going to cry. I’m not going to cry…

I CRYYYY!!!!!!!!


Everybody’s worried about Daniel crying on his first day of school, but umm I think the bigger issue here is how does security remove a crying/wailing/hyperventilating mom out of play class?

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standard question

Standard question when entering a new place:

Can I have your WiFi password, please?

Today, Dean and I left the kids to do some work on our laptops. The idea was to sit in a corner of a cafe, with our own laptops and excel sheets, and not speaking to each other. You know, quality time. Haha. Ok seriously, our own “me” time but still super clingy that we want each other in less than a metre radius.

So we went to a nice coffee place, ordered our drinks and sat down. Opened our laptops and nodded to each other with smiles that we know meant Love you but don’t talk to me for an hour, thanks.

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The lady came and we asked for the WiFi password. She answered, “Oh sorry we don’t have WiFi here.”

WHAT DON’T BLUFFFFFFF! Everyone needs WiFi these days it should already be a human right, like the whole country should be WiFi-ed already! I obviously knew they had it but don’t want to give to avoid people who buy a cup of coffee and sit for an hour buying nothing else. I.e. people like Dean and myself. Fine, good call on that. *CRY*

Dean and I looked at each other and sighed, “So I guess we have to… talk, then.” Almost 10 years of each other, believe me, we’ve talked enough. #imkiddingireallydolovehim

But in all seriousness, had loads of fun with Dean talking about the weather and stuff. Couldn’t finish our work but fine, we had proper quality time and it was pretty nice.

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titanium square

I’ve never dreamt to own a property outside of Malaysia but with the economy now, you should think outside of Malaysia too to invest. Think of the future! Look no further because Proven Group has launched our property project “Titanium Square” in East Jakarta, Indonesia.

Before you turn away uninterested in a property pitch, you need to understand this; you are not buying to stay because obviously we live here. But you are buying to invest and what Proven is offering is unlike any other and with a guaranteed return more than what the other conservative institutions are offering you.

The project consists of 3 huge towers of apartments, condotel and a shopping mall. One of the towers is converted into a hotel and we’ve partnered with the prestigious Aston Group and those units are being sold for investment to Malaysians.

Why you should buy?

– A guarantee of 10% return per annum

– A guarantee buyback after 5 years by developer at purchase price + 10%

– A free trip to Bali and free stays at any Aston Hotel Group in Indonesia

The units are priced at SGD 139,800 and terms of payment are staggered.





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A lot of the units have been sold to a lot of foreigners, funnily enough! So we’ve decided to give more Malaysians a chance to purchase by opening our doors on Saturday for an Open Day.

Proven Group

Saturday, 26 September 2015

1 to 5pm

27, Medan Setia 1, Plaza Damansara, 50490, Kuala Lumpur

Call Ivy at 012 – 619 9952

Hope to see you this Saturday!

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raya haji day

Swear I thought tomorrow was also a public holiday but it turns out that only Thursday is a Raya Haji public holiday. The FV team was like “Let’s try be different, boss, let’s make Friday a holiday too!” picturing their long weekend by the beach or something, but Dean was like oh no way. Our Raya Aidilfitri break was longer than any other company!

Even with the one day break, Dean and I had a fun day with the kids.

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Hope you had a wonderful Raya Haji with your loved ones. Maybe even more colourful if you are raya-ing in your hometowns where it’s more lively. Wherever you are, drive safe!

Much love from us.

white is the new black

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I came back home clutching them tightly. Please please don’t let Daniel see this. Came in through the front door and zoomed into the kitchen. Put the things on the kitchen counter and quickly arranged one by one into the freezer.

No sound of Daniel yet, so all’s good.

On to my second last one to put into the freezer.

Suddenly, “Ice-cweam?”

I almost jumped at the sound of him because I was so sure he was taking his nap!

I shut the freezer door close. “No no, don’t have,” I went over to kiss him.

He pushed me and pointed to the freezer. “Ice-cweam.”

Ugh. He saw it and I know being the determined boy that he is, I can’t win without a fight. I guess I’ll have no choice but to share. He saw these already.


I heard about Magnum’s White Almond ice-cream and thought FINALLY. I love white chocolate (dark chocolate is my least fav, but Dean loves em) so I was so excited about the launch of these babies. Am also a sucker for everything white, it’s just so elegant, so eating these made me feel like sitting upright and getting my pearls to match.


The crunch from the almond pieces and white chocolate coating, and biting all the way through into the soft creamy ice cream inside… fuhhhh, the perfect cure for hot days we have to go through these days. Crunchy on the outside, soft on the inside… I finished one stick in less than a minute!

You have to try one! They’re available…anywhere, really.


My kind of wheel of Magnum.

I hope they’ll come up with a Magnum mini version of these too! Those are the best for guilt-free days. But till then, I’m taking out a magazine and indulging into these premium sticks on my off-day today. It’s been a rough week so I’m treating myself!


Feeling so happy, managed to do a flatlay too.

Bon appetit, guys!


being a mom

a mom’s survival guide

We usually don’t take both Daniel and Mariam out if it’s just the two of us handling them. It’s always either one (usually Daniel since Mariam is still small), and both if we’re out with our families so there’s a lot of uncles and aunties who can help. But today, Dean and I felt adventurous so we brought both kids out for breakfast.

Start: “Oooohhh we’re going to have so much fun!!” “Yeah, Mommy! I like this, Mommy!” “Brffpttttttt!” “Weeeeeeee the whole family is out together!”

Finish: I was feeling so annoyed at the hot sun, we had to go to the car to put a diaper on the potty-trained Daniel, Mariam was restless and has cried her tears all over my dUCk scarf, Dean and I had to pack our food because we could not even finish it.

I love my children so so much but these are the downsides of bringing them out. I’m just being realistic here, as usual I like to tell it like it is:

Daniel: he is extremely clingy so he refuses to walk and always wants to be carried. So with my handbag, my paperbags of whatever I bought and a 2 year old child, I wonder why I don’t have three hands. He’s also potty trained now so he’ll say “Mommy, Daniel want toilet” and we’ll have to zoom to the nearest toilet. Sometimes he says it a little too frequently just to joke with us because zooming to the toilet and chanting “Dontpeeyetdontpeeyetdontpeeyet” together is just so amusing to him. Once, we ignored his request because we were so sure he was just joking and we ended up wiping the floor of one of the most expensive fine dining restaurants in KL. Only going back there after plastic surgery. So, yes, never take your children’s toilet requests lightly; a lesson for Dean and I.

Mariam: at 6 months, she’s at that very curious stage. Wants to touch everything and puts everything in her mouth. And when you don’t allow it, she’ll cry. LOUD. This was one of my frustrating periods with Daniel too, so I’m back here again with Mariam. They are no longer newborns who lie still angelically, nor are they toddlers who are independent enough to walk. They need to be carried at all times, and sometimes you will question if it’s ok to let your child crawl on the floor (I mean, they vacuum the mall everyday right? I’M KIDDIN!)

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For me also, I feel pressured because I get recognised here and there. And just yesterday, I heard a group of girls whispering “That’s Vivy,” and I had stains all over my scarf from Mariam’s tears and Daniel’s snot. And a lady came up to me showing me my Instagram page and asked “Is this you?” before taking a picture with me, while I was holding a crying Mariam. I feel like I need to look my best all the time when I go out, and it’s doubly hard with two kids around AND the hot weather that leaves me sweating buckets. It’s too easy for moms to just say Screw this, I’m going to wear palazzos and a big shirt and a “tudung bibik”, with no make up on. I don’t blame them and I understand why they’d want to, but PLEASE DON’T LET THAT HAPPEN.

Just because you’re a mom, it doesn’t mean you should lose yourself and your appearance. Yes, it’s hard with the kids pulling your scarf in all directions, and your beautiful clothes get stained. But you have a duty to your husband to look good for him, and more importantly, you have a duty to yourself to look the best you can be with whatever God has given you. It doesn’t matter if you’re a public figure or not, but as women, we should always encourage each other to take care of ourselves and our appearances.

I’m struggling but I find these helpful:

Carseats – plonk the kids there and let them cry if they want to. It’s for their own safety and it leaves your clothes crease-free.

Re-iron and re-apply – when I drop my kids off, I take off my clothes and re-iron them since they would most probably be creased on the way. Have a mini steamer in the office. And go to the toilet to re-apply your most probably melted makeup.

Wake up early – well, earlier than the rest basically. This allows you time to shower and wear your make-up. When the kids are up, settle them first, and then only you wear your clothes right before you all leave the house.

Pick out your clothes the night before – once the chaos in the morning starts, you can’t even think clearly on what to wear for yourself. Hence the ugly shirts and big pants. So pick out your clothes the night before after the kids are asleep, in peace.

 Bra straps – that’s where you should be pinning your scarf. I’ve been asked so many times to do a scarf tutorial but I can’t because it’ll be me in a bra in front of the camera haha. But yes, basically I pin both ends of my dUCk onto my bra strap so you can pull and yank as hard as you want, but it will never come off. Try it!

Instant hijabs – I’m not a fan personally because I like the freedom to style and wrap my dUCks, but I can’t deny the convenience and time saved. So if this is your style, go for it!

Personal grooming – is a must. Shave/wax whatever needs to be off, and nails must be short or manicured at all times. No black stuff at the corners of your nails please, gross.

Sling bags – or basically bags with long straps. Yes, totes and those cute structured bags are nice, but keep them for date nights. When with kids, you’ll want as many arms free as possible.

Dry food only – nothing soupy please. Even if you crave it, imagine yourself covered in spilled soup that you have to wipe. Order dry dishes for yourself; fried rice, chicken chop, sandwiches.

Snacks – bring biscuits and snacks for your kids to chomp on. One biscuit can probably keep them busy for a few minutes. And whatever ok, every minute you can distract them counts.

Sunglasses – the best way to fake fabulosity. Buy five of them!

Hope this will help! If all else fails, JUST STAY HOME. Your kids can watch the outside world from YouTube. Haha.

And for the record, to whoever has three of more kids and still remain fabulous, I SALUTE YOU, YOU ALIEN YOU.