dangerous lips

May 24, 2009 • 9 comments • 1024 views

You know you’re in a good relationship when not only you make each other happy, but you become a better person inside. Dean has really taught me to control what I say to people, and let petty things go.
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I can over-talk sometimes, and share some information which would just get me in trouble. And after one thing comes out, another barrel of words will come out of my mouth. Soon, I’ve dug a hole so deep that I might as well just jump into it voluntarily.
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A girl’s biggest problem is her mouth because we tend to talk without thinking first. Anything that comes into mind, will come out. Not necessarily about others, it could even be about yourself. It’s so funny how ladies will become closer friends solely on the basis of gossiping or chatting about useless things.
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All the “I don’t like her” or “She made out with so and so” or “She was this person’s ex” talks can really backfire one day. Never share too much with somebody or trust anybody with your every secret. I’ve learned this painful lesson 5 years ago.
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The point of this entry is to remind ourselves that the only person you can trust is yourself. Not everyone has your best interest at heart. And don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you. It’s funny that the person you gossip about the most will end up being your friend in the end, and you’ll hate yourself for pre-judging her.
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Dean has taught me not to gossip about people as if they don’t have feelings. Even if you know something about a person (a reaaallllyyyy interesting one), it is not your place to spread it to your friends. I know so many things about the people I am friends with, and the people I’ve fallen out with, but I’ve learned that it’s so much classier to just nod and smile when others are talking bad about the person. Even when you know a lot more dirt about her. Because frankly, it’s none of our business.
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Even when someone talks bad about you to others, don’t fight it. There’s no point getting tangled up in the “he said, she said” web, because you’re not always right yourself. I always confide in my mother about these things, and she always tells me to hold my head high, and just let it go with grace. She reminds me to reflect on my own behaviour, and if what the person is saying is true, then take it as constructive criticism. Never fight back, she says, because it’s not always nice to return the favor. God will do that for you.
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My dad is a little funnier. He just says let these people talk and waste time, while you continue what you do and earn lots of money. Be happy that you’re popular enough for people to talk about you.
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Don’t let people label you as a gossip, because the respect level will just go down the drain from there.
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This is something I remind myself constantly now.