crybaby
December 16, 2009It’s wedding season now for some reason. There’s a wedding every week! And I have a friend who’s excitedly planning her wedding now. So it’s pretty much lace and ribbon talk here.
I love going to weddings (free food helloooo), but I’m such a crybaby sometimes.
I can cry just watching the video montage of any couple (even if they are complete strangers to me *slaps forehead*)…because it’s always made so romantic and backed up by a really nice love song.
But I definitely need a tissue when the parents come on stage to deliver their speech. They’ll say how sad they are to lose a daughter but happy to gain a son bla bla….but you can so hear the sadness in their voices. And you’ll then see the sadness in my eyes.
OMG I’m so embarrassing to take anywhere ok.
When Toots’ sister, Azz, got married and Uncle said “Aku nikahkan kau….”, all I had to do was look at Uncle’s face and there comes the river of tears. Toots, her sisters and I are big crybabies when it comes to weddings. We were determined not to cry when Azz got married, but we were all making side bets to see who was going to cry first. And the thing about the sisters is that when one cries, the other will cry too. As if someone put them on automatic setting like that. It was hilarious! Like chain effect. So, when I cried teared first, Waa cried, then the other 2 sisters cried, then pretty much the rest of the room.
When my sister got married, it was Malay drama of the year with me ok. We held hands when the akad nikah happened, so when she squeezed my hand tight, there I went rolling away with the tears. When I heard my dad’s shaky voice, obviously devastated to give his first princess away, it felt like someone poked a knife through my heart. I wanted to run to the front and go “NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! Stop the ceremony!! No one is getting married today!!! Nothing to see here!! Party’s over..” But for fear of my sister becoming a spinster, I just wiped my tears and shut up.
My gorgeous sister squeezing my hand
My sister laughing at me while I wipe my tears
My eyes red, looking totally pissed off at my brother in law..Hahah. But I love you now!!
The tissue I was holding was for my sister, but she didn’t want it anymore after all my mascara marks on it
Noooooo!!!
Hehe I have serious letting go issues!
Well, that’s life isn’t it? Part and parcel. We can delay as much as we want, but we all have to grow up one day.
But like it or not, things will never be the same again when your sister/daughter/friend gets married. The closeness will still remain, but it’s different. And it’s nobody’s fault! It’s just that she’s someone else’s now. She’ll go home with someone else now. And for a parent, especially, that is something quite hard to swallow. I’m especially close to my parents, so I can’t quite imagine how it will be like when it’s my turn to get married one day. I bet I will be crying the whole time. Probably won’t even bother hire a make-up artist because there’s just no point.
I went to a wedding last weekend. And the dad’s speech was so funny. At one point, he said, “When he asked me if he could take my daughter’s hand in marriage, I just said yes with one stipulation. That when he took her hands, he would also take away the hands that are always in my wallet.”
I thought that was so clever! Haha.
Anyway they played this one song during the wedding, and I just love it!! Apparently this song is so old already, but I’m so slow.
A very touching and thoughtful post, Vivy, with just the right dose of humour to stop it from completely pulling at your heartstrings (and setting off even more tears!). How can something beautiful be so sad at the same time…
Big sister is pretty as u V! She’ll be the next fav after opah and you! Hehe
nice post PD..your wedding is THE ONE i’m waiting for..hehe..wedding of the year it should be..i wonder what would it be if you invite all your blog readers..hehe..enjoy all the weddings you’ll be attending PD..=)
your sister is gorgeous!!!
gosh she really is beautiful…radiant bride…and i love her baju and her veil…who made it, if you don’t mind telling?
yup..ur sister is really gorgeous..just like u!!..
nway, my brother getting married next year..i just cant imagine how hard it will be for me to let him go..
I love yours and your sister’s kain/baju!
And the make-up!
Hmm, would appreciate if you could recommend good wedding designers and make-up artist from Malaysia.. As I am still shopping for one ๐
Hey kentut face, I remember Along’s engagement and remember you being so sad… ๐ both of you looked lovely – do not want to remember my hair, braces and face though… kthx.
aw this is vry touching V! :”) and it must be really hard letting her go since you guys are the only siblings in the family (I assume, hee :p)
thanks everyone! i’m sure my sister is so happy reading all your comments.
anonymous and N (Brunei), both our dresses were by Radzuan Radziwill.
N, the more famous designers that I know of are Radzuan Radziwill, Rizalman and Jovian Mandagie. There are many more of course, so maybe other readers here can recommend.
Our make-up was done by Mona Rafar, one of the best make-up artists in Malaysia, but unfortunately she (he) passed away a few years back. Other make up artists I think are good are Nurul Shukor (who does Siti Nurhaliza’s face), Saidatul (who does the Brunei royalties’ make up and who did me once) and Sue Cantik. but there are so many upcoming ones…you can just flip through local mags, they usually advertise their phone numbers there.