bye bye

September 15, 2010

Dear readers,

After talking to my loved ones, I have decided to take down my Shoutbox because it’s really conflicting with the purpose of my blog. My blog is a happy place for me. Surprisingly, it got attention and I was more than happy to share my happy place with you guys.

As my blog gets more attention, more haters come. And they leave really nasty comments on the Shoutbox, maybe as pranks or they just want my attention. Honestly, I am busy trying to juggle many things at once especially when it comes to my job, and not many understand that. The last thing I want to do is pick a fight with a stranger about my own blog. I don’t mean this in an arrogant way, but really, I’ve got more important things to think about.

I honestly don’t mind the comments because as I told my friends, “It’s ok. They’re frustrated with me for some reason, and they just need a place to vent. I really don’t mind them. Give them a chance to have their say.”

My loved ones sometimes fear for my safety because some of the comments may be construed as threats. It’s so weird that I’m not so bothered by these comments, I guess blogging can really make you stronger. But it bugs my loved ones. (Maybe they should start blogging! Haha)

Lately, I’ve been getting a surge of emails advising me to take my Shoutbox down. My loyal readers are getting frustrated because these vicious comments by the sidebar can be really distracting for them.

Reluctantly, I am going to follow their wishes. I’m still a big believer of freedom of expression, but I have to come back to the purpose of me blogging. Not to gain popularity, but to express my stories freely. This is, after all, my own space (had to pay for it!).

At the end of the day, I actually want to thank these negative commenters because it really makes me reflect on my posts and I totally understand why people would be bothered by them. When you’re wrong, you have to be humble enough to accept that and people are allowed to disagree with you.  And when you’re not wrong, there is really no need to fight with people. Just handle it gracefully.

People need to let it out, otherwise, they can actually go mental. We’ve got to respect that. And you’ll be surprised to know that these people actually appreciate that I respect their say. One negative commenter actually emailed me to apologise and she gave a very revealing confession of her life and the problems she has, and how reading my blog makes her feel crappy. I’m so sorry if any of you have the same sentiments, but I’m not exactly sure how to apologise for what I have or don’t have in life.

Let me just say this. NOBODY HAS A PERFECT LIFE. God is fair. Gives you some, takes something else.

Ok anyway, enough blabbing. Basically to summarise,

  1. Shoutbox gone.
  2. No hard feelings, yet again.

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Aww man, I’m actually gonna miss the Shoutbox! 🙁  Let’s try this no Shoutbox thing for a few days. Then if I miss it too much, I’ll put it back up!

Till then!