wedding dresses
January 20, 2011A conversation my friend and I had about wedding dresses…..
Him: Where do I buy one of those wedding dresses?
Me: You mean, MAKE. *lists out a few Malaysian bridal designers*
Him: How come everyone I ask says the same names? It’s not possible that the whole of Malaysia buys from them!!
Me: Well, they’re the famous ones. Why do you ask?
Him: I’m getting married. And I want a cheap wedding dress.
Me: You’re so romantic…
Him: Thank you. Anyway, can I get a wedding dress from these designers for a budget price?
Me: How much were you looking at?
Him: RM 500.
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Me: How do I put this nicely…. no.
Him: What’s their average price?
Me: I don’t know…Around RM 10 – 15 K.
Him: Gulp. Who buys the dresses? The girl kan?!!! *panics*
Me: Seriously, such a lucky bride you’re about to have. Both sides la. Since there’s usually a reception on both sides, each sponsor their own side. But the girl always forks out more, because she has the tunang, the nikah AND the reception to pay for!
Him: Oh phew…
Me: That’s what the wang hantaran is for. Supposed to cover the cost of the wedding, but it usually never does.
Him: So the girl still rugi la?
Me: Yes…That’s why you have to be nice to us all the time.
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In all seriousness right, I always thought wedding dresses are obviously the dream dress that girls have imaginarily sketched in their mom’s wombs, but sometimes the price…omg.. and it’s worn ONCE.
For all you married ladies, what do you guys do with your wedding dresses?
Kadang-kadang rasa macam nak buat baju kahwin yang boleh pakai banyak kali. IE pegi function ke. Tak la rasa rugi =P
Sebab my mum punya baju kawin memang duduk cantik je dalam almari.
Tapi I kahwin lambattt lagi hehehe
hye vivy,
Please blog about ur dream wedding!! Bahahah. I am sure lots of readers out there are curious about this much! =b
I did dream BIG.
But then,the bottomline off all this,you have to “ukur baju di badan sendiri”…right?
REALISTIC is the key word!
To me the solemnization’s dress ia the MOST IMPORTANT.But i still want something that is still wearable after all.Not to forget one of MY ‘kind’!^_^
Frankly PD, we rented out my wedding dresses for both sides. For Nikah, we got it tailored and spent a bomb on it. Didnt want to waste too much moolah as it will only be worn once. We saved and spent d money on our honeymoon abroad instead, which is more well worth it =) but of course, if you could afford it, by all means, get ur dream wedding dresses!! woohoo!!
my mum rent a wedding dress, too, and i guess that’s what i’ll be doing in future too 😀
I tailored all my wedding dresses (him as well) for nikah,berinai and both receptions, after a year of marriage, all dresses still in wardrobe, sayang nakkk pakai.. 😀 even wearable after (tak semua boleh pakai balik) but, I think even just looking at them, its bring back all the memories. 🙂 *love. I tak rase rugiii pon, but lain orang lain pendapat kan?
i dh buat bju wedding yg i thought bleh pakai gi event cz i did it less sequine, during wedding day, top up with matching accesories. but after gave birth, semua impian tu berkecai. I “berkembang” 2 kali ganda size before kawen. isk..isk..
Agreed with Pwincess Neen Nerd. If you could afford it, not a problem then…
I only bought the dress for solemnization ceremony. Then, I rented another dress for reception… jimat!
You know it still astounds me how clueless men can be sometimes…
But that’s not the point. I have a very embarrassing request to ask. But, with someone with a lot of Muslim friends, I’m still clueless as to what Muslim wedding customs are. Deplorable, right? Do you mind shedding some light on that? since you know so many people getting married.. or maybe save it for when you do get hitched yourself ;p
P.s I also really love how goofy you are from time to time 🙂
My wife paid 10-15k to get a “designer” dress and it has been sitting in the closet for 3 years now after the wedding. Same goes to the wedding album and wedding video which cost a bomb too!
Self confession, I did spend a lot for my dress. But as my (at that time) soon-to-be-husband told me, spend the most on YOURSELF for your wedding. People will forget how good the food, or how pretty the deco (unless you are Marion Caunter) after a week or two, but your face & your dress will last forever in the photo album
To answer the question, they still sit in the dresser neatly.
my wedding dress was a plain beaded baju kurung moden. sebab i mmg nak pakai selalu. i find it a waste making the baju so mahal and in the end sekali je pakai.
my mum still has hers
Haha this reminded me so much of the Dream wedding post I wrote! I would want a Disney inspired wedding dress which unfortunately, will cost more than I could afford 🙁
Eloo… i’ve been a silent reader for some time now, and i really like your blog 🙂 I bought my wedding dresses for RM199 (day) and RM169 (night) from a small boutique hehe. It wasnt really a wedding wedding dress, just a nice simple white dress, & red satiny dress, both tea-length.
But then, I only had a small wedding with relatives and close friends… so it was ok. And… if i dress them up up with a shawl or something, i can still wear them to other dinners! 🙂
I made both akad nikah and reception dresses-as I would have to spend more if i rent it (read: i was plus size and never have changed since then..kikiki). I bought quite cheap material but looks nice as I managed to use my akad nikah kebaya for 4 times and reception..ONCE…but the cost didnt drain my bank account, I am fine with it…now i have passed it to my friend who started a small andam2 thingy 3 months after my wedding- as I couldnt find reason(s) why I should keep it…I can always flip through the wedding album though.
Some friends who spent a (maybe 2,3) bomb(s) to make their wedding dresses which finally hide quietly in their closet and comfortably grow this idea -“i will keep it for my daughter’s wedding” and I also have few friends who have to ‘suffer’ as they have to “use their mak’s wedding dresses” yang dah memang sangat out with the current trends…If any one u watched 27 dresses…there’s a scene the younger sister ‘redo’ the mother’s wedding dresses by keeping only a piece of the lace kan….hehehe..i supposed sbb dah so out of trend la kan….
Errmm…how? 😀
hang nicely in my closet..hehehe
Insha Allah dec 2011 will be our 10th anniversary Alhamdulillah 🙂
of course i would looveee a beautiful wedding dress (and a beautiful wedding) but i have to be realistic and practical as i know i can’t afford it nor can my parents…
i only custom made my baju nikah… the material was crepe sari… all in all in costs about rm800… rm350 for the workmanship, rm400 for the material… which was a bomb to me as i was still a student (we got married after my final exam hehe)… i paid for the material, he paid for the tailoring… (he was also a student at that time)… the reception baju was rented… other costs was borne by my parents (thanx) and his parents… to us, it was a beautiful wedding nonetheless as we get to share the auspicious moment with family & friends… ok i know i am not answering your question here.. sorry… couldn’t resist sharing hehehe
ok now the answer to your question…
the nikah baju is still in the closet at mom’s place… the design and beadings are not extravagant hence can be worn for other functions BUT errr.. it is still hanging in there as err.. I could no longer fit into it hehehe… after 3 kids and almost 16kgs later that is… hehe
if you can afford it, by all means, splurge
marriage is for life (insha Allah)… what’s important is life after the akad nikah and the kenduris…
i had my akad 4 months earlier than the reception.. i had my anak dara fitting for my akad and a slightly loose one for the reception (dah pregnant 2 bulan masa bersanding!)
i went all crazy for my wedding outfits.. wanted the best kain lace, chiffon blings and whatnot.. travel around the globe just looking for the perfect shoes perfect kain.. I even bought my own tiara! memang bridezilla habis!
anyways, 4 years later, all of the outfits and blings and shoes are laid nicely in a box tagged as wedding stuffs in storage. I can hand it down to my daughter when her time comes.
Husband could still wear his baju melayu and tux though.. nmpk sgt I yang dah mengembang!
my wedding dress baik je on my closet… 🙂
I went wild *lol* All of the akad and receptions dresses were custom made and we even had matching songkets made for the family for the main reception. Love them!
The dresses are now vacuum sealed and stored as I intend to give it to my (future) daughter(s) or daughter-in-law. It is for them to do as they will. 🙂 Hub’s songket sampings are also stored to be handed down to our son.
Men have this fashionistic sense to us where if its not needed then why spend?
But if you need one then its priceless. So let him choose which side are you on 🙂
i didnt have that much budget so i had my wedding dress designed by my cousin who is actually a student in fashion designing. of course it cost me wayyy cheaper. and i even rented the dress to other brides to be. 🙂
hi vivy,
not related to the topic but i found this http://dianarikasari.blogspot.com/ <– this girl apparently in love with fashion and she's crazy about fashionvalet
🙂
the most important thing is life after married…so need to save money for that…unless u really have money to spend la, then get la whatever you can right hehehe…r
vivy…my parents paid 6k for my reception dress (nikah dress etc are other stories hehe)….and I only worn it once. In fact, right after the reception…I have not seen it! It was all forgotten.
Don’t dream to wear it again, because you just can’t slip into it after your first baby 😛
vivy! spotted you in this video. looking gorgeous as always 🙂
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GQ2GfV3K14&feature=player_embedded#!
i’m renting!
i just got married about 3 weeks ago and all of my 3 dresses for the 3 events were custom made. but being me, all minimalist and simple, i intentionally made them esp. my akad nikah and bertandang dresses to be simple so that in the future (if my waistline permits) i can still wear it over and over again.
as for my reception dress, i don’t know what the future holds for it. the design is very minimalist and unconventional. if i can find someone pro enough to dye it into another colour, then it still would be wearable as an evening dress.
i am a firm believer that you should not waste such a great amount of money for a wedding. but if you have the money, but all mean err, get whatever your heart’s desire.
rent.b2b on budget.lagipun pakai sekali.tapi jika duit ada berkepuk dalam akaun,mau juga custom made.haha
pd,
if you were to be married, make sure you do the biggest entry on your wedding for us, the loyal readers. surely you cant invite us all,aint it?
Hehe!! Never know it would cost that much!! PD if you have the time, would you be so kind as to blog about the behind the scenes of the making of Fashionvalet for us aspiring entrepreneurs? Congrats on the Yes stint!! xx
If u can afford it I wud think why not splurge a little on a once in lifetime event… During my time Rizalman n Radzuan Radzwill were still affordable : ) n Rizalman made me a baju which d trail on d skirt was removable hence cud b worn again. I’m lucky coz my mum can design so mine was xtra special.. It’s a wonderful keepsake so I wud say splurge but don’t go overboard : ). Am sure when u decide to get married urs wil b a beautiful wedding!
i simpan je, nanti esok buat harta pusaka wasiat kat amanah raya. kuikuikuikui. 😛
simpan ja. because it’s a tradition kot. like maktok, mak saya pun simpan baju kawen masing2. so i follow suit lah kot. 😉
mine terperuk in the closet, but memories last forever 🙂
mine is in the closet.. i’ve made it from scratch (actually, my mum did the tailoring) but i designed and made my own sequin.. hehehe.. there will be some times when you just want to see the cloth.. and the satisfaction, priceless…
i was not lucky at all. i had to redo both of my wedding dress 3 times! and one of the tailor lost one of hubby’s kain baju melayu. kumpul all the money spent, can get 1 baju siti nurhaliza already. haih….
one of my friends bought her wedding dress from Farah Khan. She bought one of those long sleeves mini sequined dress, and then got a tailor to do a sarung/kain to match the dress. At least after the wedding, she can still wear the dress on its own, minus sarung. Genius right? 🙂
I just have to comment again. Nazneen’s idea is super briiliant. Genius to d’max. Never thought of that =)
I’m all for keeping your wedding dress for memorial sake. But not sure why one would want to keep their wedding dress to pass it to their daughter or (worse) daughter in law. Let them have a choice to pick their own wedding dress and not be obligated to wear their mother (or mother in law) outdated wedding dress.
i tailored my akad nikah dress and rented the night ceremony dress. 🙂
a famous malaysian designer made a dress for my sister’s wedding reception which was about about 10k and now the dress is in my mom’s closet. quite a waste i think!
a famous malaysian designer made a dress for my sister’s wedding reception which was about 10k and now the dress is in my mom’s closet. quite a waste i think!
I made 4 for my 2006 wedding (& 4 for hubby); khatam, nikah, home reception n hall reception, and all 4 are safely in the closet at my parents place. Oh n i also spent a lot on d photos, album n videos. I guess it’s all abt memories, n inshaAllah a wedding once in a lifetime 🙂
i sewa je baju, pelamin n hiasan bilik dsb… budget hehehe
my wedding dress ade kat dalam closet. have to keep it. nanti nak ukur banyak mana lemak bertambah selepas kahwin. hehehe…
dlm wdrobe… lepas ada 2 anak, dah tak muat… hihihi
mine were from cosry. and u were right..i wore them once & they have been in the closet since then. such a waste! better spend the $$$ on your honeymoon trip! seriously! =)
hi babe! im one of ur silent readers *shy*
i’ve been married for a year and half. Well, how can i put this gently without scaring ur wits ya?
hmm, well.. in the first place, what i had in mind was making the dress, bought the material, sent it to the tailor who promised me that she can do the design that i wanted but in the end..it did not happen, the result was terrible.. i cried and cried and cried.. it was a waste of rm 400+ per dress inclusive of the workmanship which i still have to pay.
then, i frantically look for the dresses to rent, when i found it, still have to fork out about rm1000+ for the bersanding and bertandang.
in my opinion, u should just rent and take a lot of photos for memories. 🙂