nest
March 23, 2012
I was wearing eltii necklace, Flapperwings Project cardigan, andย Loushkii skirt
Dean took me house-hunting the other day and it was a whole crazy step for us.
As soon as I stepped into the first place we saw with the agent, my heart fluttered with excitement.
Oh. My. God.
I’m a grown-up.
This is it. This was the bucket of water that splashed in my face, telling me to wake up. It wasn’t about the dress, it wasn’t about the flowers, the centerpieces, the way the napkin should be folded…this was my married life about to begin. This was the floor I am expected to mop, the washing machine I am expected to figure out, the fridge I am expected to fill, the stove I am expected to be friends with…..
It was so scary!
We looked at a few apartments and chose what sort of size we wanted, the facilities, the budget-friendly ones etc. And Dean and I looked at each other and we couldn’t stop smiling. We are both so excited to start the rest of our lives together, building a family and I honestly felt so overwhelmed I wanted to cry.
Then, I came home and saw my parents and I wanted to cry even more. I don’t wanna leave them!!!! I love them so much, God!! I don’t want to not come home to them, but this is all part of the life process huh? Leaving the nest I lived in for the longest time. Everyone goes through that, even our parents leftย their nests.
I’ve never felt this feeling before. Being extremely excited and happy, and being extremely sad and nostalgic. At the same time.
Crazy, crazy, feelings. Only God knows.
you will manage thru of course,, Vivy!
all the best!
p/s: dont forget, there’s toilet bowl to scrub too! :p
vivy.i think you should take a proper rest..U’re getting thinner..
REAL grownups actually work hard to earn the money to buy their house – not play dressups and use daddys money
Agreed Elsa. No one can afford a house easily these days.
Farra: insyaallah!! *adding toilet bowl to the longggg list*
Fatin: it’s the damn treadmill, i tell you… but yes, i have been getting comments to eat more vitamins. in between juggling work and wedding, guess i’m a bit tired!
elsa: thanks for the definition. errrr….did my daddys money talk to you and told you they pay my rent or my clothes? this is awkward…i told them not to! haha chill girl, i pay for my stuff including my rent, no need to lose sleep over this k…
She said she’s RENTING la dumbass. yang jealous sangat ni apasal?
Mashaallah, exciting phase in life! Guys we should be happy for PD and wish her luck on finding a home, why are you guys being so….malay?
hehehee..exactly how i felt when i was getting married. the first day i step into our hse, i cried bcoz i miss my mom. never thot i would be feeling like that since i was in boarding school from 13yrs old n went to uni for another 4 years! called my mom n she thot she was the only one that was feeling like that hehe..dia siap ckp, “tu la nk kawen sgt!” my husband even offered to go back to my parents’ that nite, that was only 45mins away!i told him no anyway hahahaha.. all the best!
good luck for your life vivy.. ๐
smiling..
go elsa goooo….
been there done that.. it was tough to leave ur nest, but u will start a whole new chapter and i’m sure ‘leaving the nest’ would be the first chapter of many chapters in a book called “Marriage”..
for me, it brought me closer to my parents and my dear dear siblings.. we are closer and I learn to appreciate them more the moment I stepped out of my favorite nest..
enjoy each moment vivy! i wish all the best!!!
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thanks for pointing these vivy!
yeah, marriage life isn’t about the wedding day, but after the wedding day itself.
ohmy.. i. feel. dizzy.
hai vivy! I always enjoy reading all of your posts ๐ but this time I gotta leave my 1st comment ๐ I know exactly how u feel now…it was hard for me too back then (to leave my nest after i got married) Rindu sgt my parents n sibling..so badly..it was a different-mixed feeling…but it was a good start for a new life with hubby,new experience,new tasks,etc..filled with hilarious,crazy,happy moments..insya Allah your new phase in life (marriage) will be exciting too ๐
viv girl! I’m so proud of you! Those haters I guess never know what hard work means hence the nasty comments. Elsa and faith (God you really dont deserve that name girl), oh please girl, spare your feelings else where, she’s sharing this with us, you dont like it, then just buzz off.
No chanel handbag r u sure?its ok ur daddy can buy u designer hbag.chill.
yes vivy, u look tired,must be hard work for the big day eyh? get proper rest! ๐
Been there for the phase, I was crying for the first few months! (not everyday thou ;p), missing everyone back in Msia, because we started our ‘own’ nest abroad, that’s phase was extremely difficult!
first phase of marriage is all about adjustment! from leaving the nest, adjustment between man and woman (becoz living in the same house!) to adjustment between husband and wife! ๐ everything needed, laugh, patience, happy, moody, all in one! ๐
Welcome to marriage life sooooon!
I forgot what I really wanna say the mo I read these haters’ comments. I’m still forever alone, sobs, but girl, i feel you! renting on my own, away like 350kms away from family, whenever i’m down with fever, i wish mom is in the house i would call for her and then realize she isnt around and i’ll cry. life aint that easy without moms and pops but we gotta do what we gotta do. you will ace this, as you always do! prayers be with you girl! stay strong. kisses!
think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they will scratch and harass you up from time to time but eventually, you’ll be out polished leaving them exhausted and useless! ๐
omg dear haters,u can really hate people dun u?people tat u didn’t even know personally.so kesian actually..u must hate ur life so much tat u can’t be happy with other people happiness.
vivy,just ignore all the haters n focus on the people tat u love n love u back.i wish u all the best.marriage is a wonderful phase and a beautiful thing.dun be scared,i bet dean will be by ur side,always,every step away ๐
Salam Vivy and readers. As for my experience, the first thing that bothered me when I got married is having someone else in my bed, sleeping together with me!!! For someone who used to conquer the whole bad exclusively for myself, man…it’s realy hard having to make yourself sleeping still on one side of the bed and not invading his space! Haha! Get a king size bed so that you don’t have to berlaga bontot with your husband when both of you have the sleeping style like a fetus in the womb!
Aahh.. I just got married 2 weeks ago n yes, I was hard to leave my nest also. The first week is worst. Heart screamed to go back to parents house after work but I got a husband waiting for me in our own house. Worst is, it’s only 30 minutes awayyyy… I don’t wanna leave my parents, but I wanna live with husband -_- Mixed feeling but lucky I have someone understanding as my life partner. All d best to u and Dean..!!
PD daily outfit tab disappear !!!!
When you step into your new home, with empty rooms, empty closets, empty cupboards โ itโs a moment that feels like a brand new world, where anything can happen…
wish I could have my very own place to call home… I kinda live with my inlaws and so I don’t do most of the decision making when it comes to household stuffs..Wish I could choose my very own dinner sets and periuk belanga … Berangan nak pasang curtain sendiri kat rumah… nak invite family or friends pun segan coz bukan rumah sendiri… but what to do..
Big step indeed ๐ so happy for you V
Vivy!! no more Proud Duck daily?? :(((
And and and … the intro is edited! *I love the part about shaving your legs ={
Love that bag!!!!HOMAIGOD~~~
gonna have your own house, I cant wait to see your walk-in-closet!
vivy,dont bother about haters!
please remain every single sentence in this blog.i love it ๐
Butthurt much Elsa & faith. Don’t worry vivy, ignore those stupid nasty comments from them. Btw, good luck with ur new nest. It’s not easy in the first place but u”ll enjoy it ๐
Just ignore them Vivy. It is pure jealousy.Always remember what your parents said “Rezeki comes from GOD and not from these people”:)
I really enjoy reading all your posts.I hope you’ll find a comfortable nest and have a happy marriage life with Dean ๐
People who think you don’t work hard, clearly have not seen your schedule. Perhaps a run in your gorgeous shoes will show them? ๐
Oh well, I’m sure you’re above all this anyway. ๐
Good luck Vivy and Dean. For someone your age, to achieve so much in so short a time, is just mind-blowing. The two of you deserve all the happiness God bestows upon you. Hope you build a wonderfully happy home. ๐
to the haters: all she blogs about is WORKING! and you guys accuse her of using her daddy’s money? say what?
“Donโt argue with fools.. They will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience”
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nothing this girl say is going to convince me she’s a real grown-up.
Nadia, so leaving hate comments on her blog is? How ironic.
Her tag says ‘growing up’, not ‘grown’. This simple notion might have evaded the notice of many. Vivy is growing up and learning, both are not exhaustive terms and hence this means it’s a process she’s going through and she’s taking it step by step. It’s a process we all go through, and frankly, we’re STILL going through. There isn’t a definite point at which we can say we’ve FULLY GROWN and know all that there is to know about life choices.
I bet that she would agree, Vivy grew up with a golden spoon in her mouth, a golden platter, a golden crib, you name it, so she is used to a certain lifestyle and standard of living. However, as a reader of this blog, I can see that she is changing slowly. How and where she was raised doesn’t permanently define who she is as a person. Yes, it is hard to believe that a young girl just starting her own business can finance a luxurious lifestyle from her own pockets, so obviously her parents are still helping her out a little bit. Sure, you can say that it’s unfair blablabla but truth be told, a point will come when she realises the true meaning of being independent. Who are we to say that point should be NOW? These are her life choices, whatever merits or detriments may come out of it will only affect her. Don’t talk about her as if she’s the ruler of a country and the money she’s ‘squandering’ is money that the rest of us have claim to. Salam
jgn gaduh gaduh ya, vv nak nikah dgn deen, dia yg seronok, yg duk dengki yang merana..muahaha..stay sweet n happy vv darling..love u..:))
Hi Vivy. I’m the same age as your sister (I guess), married with kids and work at my daddy’s company too. My parents still help me financially, whenever I need it – car, house, credit cards, you name it. I don’t take it for granted though, but it is a blessing nonetheless.
I know not many are us lucky as me and you, but I believe Allah is fair and He grants rezeki in different forms to everyone.
Many would envy me (and you) that we don’t have to struggle in our young lives, but trust me, I sometimes envy those who are financially independent. They make it on their own, without anyone’s help.
Those green-eyes monsters, you should be proud of yourself instead !
am getting married in about a month and can totally relate to everything you’re currently blogging about! getting a new place, furnishing, how to organise bills, sending out wedding invites, getting all thin due to stress haha! good luck with everything V! semoga dipermudahkan ameen ๐
Let’s be happy for her. It’s a big step in her life.And let’s accept it. Say, you are a parent with $$ in your pocket, even if your children are well to do, you will still want to spend on your children.Is that wrong? Semua orang ada bahagian rezeki masing2. Bersyukurlah dgn apa yang kita ada. Paling penting, jagalah hati.. Allah menilai semuanya di situ..