stepford wife
April 11, 2012A few days back, Dean and I passed by an electrical shop and he asked me, “So, you do know the kitchen area in wherever we will live will be your area to do up, right?”
“Um of course I do.”
He took me into the electrical shop just to browse at the things and I dragged myself in there after him.
“So, do you know how much a microwave or a cooker cost? We have to do a budget for the kitchen.”
“Umm.. yeah of course I do.”
Dean looked down directly at me. “You have no idea, do you?”
“Well, I assume we’ll only look at these after the wedding. Because you never know guests might give us kitchen stuff as presents so we should not buy any just yet.”
Clever excuse, I thought. But I knew the truth. Truth was, I had no idea. I reflected on myself a little bit. I’ve been so self-consumed and work-occupied, that I think I’m forgetting the fact that I’m going to be a wife in 2 months.
I’m going to be a wife in 2 months.ย Wow, that is scary to read in black and white.
Dean has been so good, trying to budget and get more income doing this and that, looking for places to put a roof over me, even going to the gym to buff up. Basically he’s planning our new life as the future leader of the Dean-PD team.
Me? Oh dear. I haven’t even started flipping through cookbooks, let alone check out how much a blender costs.
I always hope to be the perfect wife. All dolled up in a dress when husband gets home, greeting him with a smile. Kitchen smelling nice and his favourite food readily served on the table. His shirts perfectly hung and colour coded. His eyes all on me, his home is his paradise and there’s nowhere he’d rather be. I guess I admired Charlotte in Sex & The City too much.
They never really showed how she got all those things right all the time.
Now where’s the manual?
ghee.. i wish for a manual too, but looks like it couldn’t be find in any shopping mall or book store. All the best PD.
as long as you have the intention to be the best wife for him,i guess you’ll be fine.baby steps ok.but dont la baby steps until you’re like 60 years old hehe.best of luck. Team FV ftw!
salam vivy.
Not to worry. It’s a learning process.
Pray tahajud a lot. Solat taubat as well.
Starting a new life…transformation from a daddy’s girl to a hubby’s wife..it’s a long process…and u can always be both…happily insyaAllah.
p/s: dun worry about the prices…unlike clothes, shoes handbags, accesories and what not…u buy those only once in at least 5, 6 years (depends on consumption rate of course…hahaha)…the prices change quite dramatically u know..and it is not interesting to keep track though..hahaha.:))
don’t worry dear. like u said, from my experience, most kitchen stuff like blender, rice cooker, microwave, iron, toaster, tea set, kettle (and even fridge as tall as you!) most probably will pop into your just-married life as gifts from your guests. it is wise not to buy just yet. in our case, we ended up having 4 rice cookers! now i can place one in each room of our house and cook rice there without having to go to the kitchen.
You can be like Charlotte, if you have nanny & cleaner! ๐ I am a SAHM, and trust me, working is much easier than taking care of a kid & house. It’s never ending. Mind you I was working in Sahara desert, not a 9 to 5 job ๐
Get an airfryer! That will save u all the trouble. U don’t have to worry of the hot oil getting on ur pretty face. But I promise u, ayam goreng, ikan goreng, ikan masin, fries, potato chips anything u can fry in it. And thanks to the timer, nothing gets burnt! It’s slightly expensive but it’s healthy (no oil needed) and makes frying a lot easier. Wish I bought it sooner. Used to use the tray to protect myself before. And no greasy wall and floor to clean up after cooking! ๐
Hi Vivy! first of all I have to say that i love youยดre blog and u are such an inspiration for me ๐
Now, I assume that u will keep working when u get married right? so why the women is the only one who has to be worried about cooking and cleaning while u both will be working outside the house?
I think wife and husband should help each other and share everything, even the housework.
So donยดt worry, I belive that u and Dean make such a great couple because u are able to share a lot of things so… inshallah u will have no problems! ๐ ๐
Vive la vida loca!
Maybe a run through on how Bree of the desperate housewives could give u a rough idea how a stepford housewife should do.
*but don’t crazy like her will u?*
i was somewhat like u.. and after getting married rasa nak menangis je with all this new things i need to do and learn.. sharing and satisfying your partner… it took me awhile to adjust but lama lama dah jadi biasa… tho i still cant cook very good, husband is very understanding and makan apa aje la.. most of the time we eat out..my daughter pun alhamdullilah not a fussy eater, guess they can tell mum’s cooking sux.. haha..
marriage is a learning process from being single to a wife to a mum.. a non stop learning process.. it can drive u up the wall sometimes but its all part of life kan..
Having a good list of restaurants that deliver or a food delivery service would be handy as well ๐
what a funny post! u n dean so funny!
haha!!the first year is all about impressing your husband and in-laws with the cooking, washing, cleaning and everything..then you can slowly ditch those tasks with the help from part time maid (rm50 for 2 maids for any 2-hour job), favorite eateries, nearby laundries and so on.. ;p
Now, whoever said cooking was the wife’s job exclusively? ๐
I’m sure you’ve heard that the Prophet used to clean and cook for his business woman wife, Khadijah. I’m not saying Dean has to work AND come home and cook for you, it’s just a thought that maybe both husband and wife could share the kitchen duties, since both of you work so hard every day.
Nonetheless, I do admire you trying to pull your weight in the marriage. You mentioned that Dean is doing a lot on his side of things and from what I understand, you feel that you haven’t been preparing enough for your new life. Don’t worry, everyone has their own pace and their own amount of responsibilities to shoulder.
Oh and one of the easiest things to make are pizzas. Use tortillas, naans or pitas, add tomato puree and any topping you like. Say, sausages or prawns. Top with cheese and put them in a toaster oven. When the cheese melts, you’re good to go!
If u ever find it *hehe* i want to pinjam please? *wink*
nak masak ke tak sure lagi ke xpe babe, janji all the appliances kene ade.. but wait after the wedding.. seriously, dont end up like some of us having 3 rice cooker, 2 microwave, and gazillion dinner plate.. and glasses too!
all the best darl! im sure dean will love ur cooking no matter what!
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i am certain you will be tired the first year juggling between work n home. but look at the bright side, ur young n full of energy plus u run ur own business so that means u cn take a breather whenever u want and ur partner is ur husband!! how nice
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Hahaha the excuse was really clever
you really look like this korean kpop singer called Ailee. the similarities are uncanny. my friends and i were so shocked! seriously, check her out. it’ll be like looking into a mirror. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXremWvsYLE&feature=related
bagusnya lah kalo dpt attend ur wedding.. hmm…
i lol’d at this honest post ๐
eh come have a look at my blog for some kitchen stuff! ๐