girls day out
May 20, 2012 • 66 comments • 6825 viewsPrice Update: If you buy 5 or more, you’ll get 10% discount. Scroll below to get more details. Gather your girlfriends!!
Guys, too much drama in the comments, so I’m going to post up my final comment here:
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Guys, I totally appreciate your concern with Siti Husnida and the rest of us who don’t wear hijab. Honestly, I do feel very inferior without the hijab and the older I get, the more I feel the desire to wear the hijab. Insyaallah it will happen very soon. Everyone has different paths to finding religion and it is even more beautiful when someone wears it because they understand why they have to and they are sincere in doing so. From what I’ve learned, hijab isn’t just about covering your hair, but a whole total package. Being modest in character, taking care of our tongue, taking care of our movements, our words, our dressing, our hearts, our everything. Only when you do that, you’re “in” hijab. So try to not just look at people’s heads because that is only a fraction of hijab. Bottom line is, we all know hijab is our way of life and we’re all striving for excellence in God’s eyes. And maybe you cover your head first, then you work on the rest. But don’t look down on others who work on their prayers, their souls first, then do the last step in covering their heads. We’re all on the way there; some more advanced than others and some journeys smoother than others. Give everyone a chance. Yes, do remind and advise, but be tactful and be kind with your words. Because when you say mean words to people under the pretext of advising, it is a reflection of your inner self that no headscarf can cover that. Only Allah swt can judge. It’s not our job to do that so let’s not waste our times. This post is about the conference and me offering you the tickets. Instead of attacking Siti Husnida, how about we work on ourselves first and spend our RM 100 to gain some knowledge because we all have rooms for improvement. Let’s check ourselves first. Seeking knowledge is also as good as reminding your fellow sisters in Islam. I’ll be awaiting your emails. |
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It’s that time again!
Another Islamic conference to go to!
They had it in London and now they’re coming to KL.
The ones organised by YMP or Mercy Mission, I try to not give them a miss. I love love love how they teach Islam and make Islam look so easy and how much love Islam actually exudes. Super different than the “Kena sembahyang, kalau tidak masuk neraka” kind of teachings. These talks that I go to actually makes us want to pray and shows us how beautiful the bond between us and God is. These talks even attract non-Muslims who have come before just to feed their curiosity with Islam. Non-Muslims are welcome!!
In fact, I think they should have this as regular as possible to give reminders because being human, we always forget.
This one coming up in June is a special one; it’s ONLY FOR WOMEN.
NO MEN ALLOWED.
It’s called Being Me.
Can you imagine how fun the talks and discussions will be? Bring out the men issues!!!
Seriously, I bet this will be a once in a lifetime weekend because you’ll be meeting so many sisters in Islam with issues that may match yours. And how beautiful is that, to be able to learn from one another the struggles we have in Islam.
Combating gossip, hijab-phobia, juggling career and family, jealousy, raising children, sensitivity.
And the universal mystery; why men leave their laundry on the floor.
But with an Islamic twist.
It’s gonna be fun!
If that doesn’t pull you in already, I’ll have to pull out my wildcard.
There’s gonna be a beauty oasis.
*wiggles fingers*
MANICURE, BABY!
There’ll be a fashion show, bazaar, marriage corner, workshops and a daddy daycare!
Eh…focus here…focus!
So,
Date: 30 JUNE 2012
Venue: MATRADE Exhibition Convention Centre (MECC)
Time: 10 am onwards
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ITINERARY:
Topics for Main Hall:
1. The Power of Change – Dr. Fadila Grine
2. Free from all other masters, Empowering Women – Sis. Yasmin Mogahed
3. Muslim Women and the Ummah; Reality and Challenges – Dr. Halima Boukerroucha
4. How to increase your faith? – Sis. Raya Shokatfard
5. Achieving Balance, Inside Out – Sheikh Yahya Ibrahim
6. Inside Out – Nurturing our Soul – Sheikh Yahya Ibrahim
7. The importance of role models – why do we need them? – Sis. Myriam Francois-Cerrah
8. Do we need Islamic feminism? – Sis. Myriam Francois-Cerrah
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I’m helping to sell tickets, so here are deets:
Early birds (if bought before 31st May):
Adults: RM 100
(If you buy 5 or more, it’s RM 90 per ticket)
Children: RM 50
If bought from 1st June onwards:
Adults: RM 150
Children: RM 75
So, as usual, email me at proudduckblog@gmail.com and let me know if you want tickets (and how many). I will give you the banking details and will ship the tickets out to you free of charge. FREE DELIVERY.
Please put email subject as “BEING ME”.
Jakim should sponsor everyone who are interested to go. Religion is free for everybody. Why are u going to all these talk, while u dont even dress up like a muslim? Is open to non muslim too??? Cool…..What about talk on Buddhism, Hinduism, and Christianity open to muslim too??? IS so unfair in this country….I hope u will post this comment coz it seem that u only post those positive comment and discarded the negative one…
Assalamualaikum, may Allah reward you abundantly vivy, muah!
Siti Husnida – the event is open to non-Muslim and its not sponsored by jakim as far as I’m concerned. Btw I am a part of the Mercy Mission volunteer team 🙂 hope you can make it! 🙂
Hi Siti,
My comments aren’t moderated. I will check if your older comments went to spam. My blog’s pretty smart; it just spams useless comments.
Oh dear, I’m not even sure who you’re angry at. Me for not covering my hair, the government for not sponsoring this event, or you not being able to enter other religions’ talks.
Firstly, a very good point you bring up. This might be something JAKIM would be interested to sponsor. Perhaps you should write to them.
As far as I know, this conference is organised by a group of people who volunteer. Has nothing to do with JAKIM. Some of them even work for this organisation, that’s how they earn a living. And speakers are being flown in from overseas, so I’m guessing they need money to pay for those because last I checked, the government doesn’t sponsor airline tickets.
Why I don’t cover up? I ask myself this too and I’m struggling myself on this issue. I want to very soon, and as a fellow Muslim (I assume from the Siti), I hope you wish me luck and not attack me on this.
Is it open to non-muslims? Yes.
Why other talks about Buddhism etc isn’t open to Muslims? I don’t know, you will have to ask your Buddhist etc friends and maybe share with us too so we can learn each other’s religions.
If you want free Islamic classes, I’m sure the nearest mosques to you have many talks and classes. You should check their programs.
Typical Malay mind I must say. Well, I’m Malay too but fact is fact. Don’t worry vivy. I’m just like you. Being attacked and judged for so many times just because I don’t cover my hair. The time will come for us, insyaAllah. Truly, Allah knows best. All the best with wedding preparations, vivy! Salam.
this ‘anything-related-to-religion-must-be-free-of-charge’ mentality is sickening! the volunteers and speakers still need to earn money to support themselves and their families.come on siti husnida!
Yes tasha,typical malay mind..you dont cover your hair you will go to hell,how easy they judging others…its like that they dont even believe REDHA from allah..dress like a muslim but you dont act like one doesnt make you any better..believe me siti it shows how narrow minded you are…allah always looking at us..let us pray that you will not become so riak one day and pray for every good things to vivy…
To vivy, you are really a good daughter to your parents and a very wise girl for someone like your age..you’ve been an inspirations to me on how to raise my daughter, hope my daughter will be an obedient lady like you.
siti husnida,
your comments made me shake my head.
here’s a tip.
when someone shows interest in Islam, you encourage them further. not try to bring them down.
here’s a second tip.
berbelanja di jalan Allah besar pahalanya.
Not all people who is bertudung tu baik. And not who don’t is bad but yes better to tutup aurat. That is a must! But how about covering the head but wearing legging? short sleeve? It’s just the same with yang tak tutup aurat? But hey, at least they are trying! and agree with eldy ” when someone shows interest in Islam, you encourage them further. not try to bring them down.” don’t simply condemn VV because you don’t know her! She didn’t ask you to read her blog. Read if you like, don’t if you just want to find a negative things about her. Do you know her parents read her blog? and can you imagine how they feel to read a negative comment towards their beloved daughter? Please la…
p/s Xsalah untuk menegur but even in Islam also cakap, kalau kita mahu menegur seseorang, tegur dengan cara paling lembut. 🙂
V, I know who you are and I know you are trying your best to be a better Muslim…Insyaallah 🙂
-peace-
Can’t wait for Being Me!! Many good speakers will be there! Hope to see you there too, Vivy.
Btw, we should have positive mentality to spend money to gain knowledge, and not just attend any events only if it’s FREE. Sisters, let’s get our imaan boosted!
Siti Husnida, while ulu did you come from? or wherever you are staying, are you THAT narrow minded?. think before you speak, cos you obviously didnt do that . SHAME ON YOU
questioning why JAKIM didnt sponsor this? LOL. this is a privately organized event you FOOL. and hey, there ARE many free religious classes organized in A LOT of places especially the suraus, the mosques, perkims (to name a few). but i bet you dont even attend those cos if you did, you wouldnt be this narrow minded cos ISLAM doesnt teach you to be like that. or even if you did, youre just too stupid to digest it and you cant understand anything? ohh poor you.
thanks for sharing vivy, ill email u soon! wanna get a few of my gal-frens to participate 🙂
poor vivy..Siti Husnida took over your spotlight..T_T
ever poorer Siti Husnida, paean muka kena kutuk dalam blog vivy
Kan!! Ok done with Siti, I’m very sure she got the point, guys.
Now focus!! Hehe. This post is about Being Me event and hope you guys will support this amazing project. :))))))))
Pheww.. Tak pasal2. Hello cik Husnida or any other peeps with the same intention, we’re here to read Vivy’s writting, not a place to pour in your anger or madness. Go and find some other place!
Nways Vivy, for some reasons, I have the feeling that you’re doing a charity here, u hv volunteered yourself to b d ambassador of Being Me, aite?? If that is so, may Allah return all the good deeds you’ve done.
people like siti husnida are the ones making non muslim wary of Islam. I am wearing a tudung but i do it for myself and Allah. I don’t judge others who are not wearing one.
I think u have got issues that u need to look into first.Hati kena bersih dulu sebelum nak memperbetulkan orang lain.
hye vivy…just saw u on tv…sgt comel n sweet…
u n ur team are so inspiring…so proud of u 🙂
KERANA SUKA @ tv9!!!
suka iklan YES tu, nice!
30 Jun ade kenduri, sayang x dpt join. dekat je dgn umah ni..
I don’t think Siti husaina ni typical Malay..if typical Malay, she won’t be asking for the buddhism, hinduism talk to be open to Muslim..she one of those people who making noise how unfair everyone or everything around her while she herself being unfair to people.. She one of those who hates everything just because things are not her side not because of that not the right thing to do…. Pity her.
30 june hmm…gotta check this coming semester calendar first. thanks so much for this info! 😉
Siti, my child, maybe the reason why there are only positive comments in this blog is that there ARE only positive comments. Sabar my dear, someday you’ll be at peace with yourself too.
Sounds like a good talk to attend, Vivy, thanks for highlighting this to others.
“Why I don’t cover up? I ask myself this too and I’m struggling myself on this issue. I want to very soon, and as a fellow Muslim (I assume from the Siti), I hope you wish me luck and not attack me on this.”
May ALLAH SWT grant His hidayah to both of you – VV & Siti.
VV: Seeking for ilmu is fardhu ‘ain whilst covering your aurah is a MUST. As a moslem, we are to practice the MUST before any other fardhus. Hence expedite the MUST beforehand okies. I know u can do it! \(^__^)/
SITI: Let’s pray for VV okeh 🙂
Actually, if a muslim is seen in a church, they will get interrogated etc etc by JAIS right? Which had happened in the past. So all in all, Siti does have a point. Regardless whether the muslim is there for celebration, or talks or etc! So, it is rather one sided, no?
Siti Hunaida may be just a microcosm of us all, each struggling with our own particular issues, I’m sure. Let’s pray Alllah swt grants us Hidayah and opens our hearts to accept others and their failings. Insya’Allah.
I mean Siti *Husnida, sorry. Bless her for being forthright,
Siti Husnida,wow so much anger in you ay. well, you should know that theres nothing wrong for the muslims to attend talks of another religion, to research and to learn more about it. attending a religious occasion and converting your religion to the other is however a different story.
there are things u just cant question much in life, why a buddhist burns offerings to the dead ? why a hindu doesnt eat beef ? why a muslim isnt allowed to convert to another religion?. for a layman like us, we all do this because of faith. just faith. not knowing much the reasons why we do this why the need for that etc etc. why dont u just have faith, believe that they are good reasons behind everything that we have to do and we cant do. if they bother you so much, i suggest you go seek the experts’ advices , the alim ulamaks who can explain things that we laymen cant. perhaps they can help your curiousity and make you a better muslim that way.
i always wonder why people yang jaga solat tapi still tak cover up, as if they’re choosing arahan Allah yang mereka rasa convenient sahaja. for them, menutup aurat tu boleh buat later later lah, bila dah tua. sayang rambut lawa yang di-kalerkan x leh nak show off. so does this means that mereka rasa hukum Allah untuk menyuruh mereka menutup aurat tu sebagai ‘silap’?. like why do i need to cover up?
i know every Muslim kena berjihad in their own way, every ujian is tailor made. for example, wealth, beauty etc. but i really wanna why people tend to ‘choose’ hukum Allah yang mereka suka sahaja.
this is an honest, non-judgemental question.
Whatever it is, I’ll never stop praying for my sisters in Islam. Hidayah comes in many ways, mine came in the form of covering my head first. Maybe yours came differently. May Allah bring blessings to you, Vivy, your readers and to Siti Husnida as well. InsyaAllah.
Salam.
First of all, Siti Husnida, step outside, get some fresh air and while you’re at it, pls think outside the box.
To me, one of the reasons why a hijab is worn is to reflect modesty. I recently moved to KL and no offence, i have lost count on the number of them donning the hijab but, as the previous reader mentioned, I see them in leggings, super tight blouses, and make up like they’ve swallowed a box of crayolas. Them standing next to me? Not so modest.
Heck, I’ve even come across those who’s mulut mcm laser and tak habis2 kutuk orang.
So please, do not be so judgemental on those not covering up. It does not make us less Muslim than you. Do not marginalize us solely on that. Insya Allah, when we are ready, we will cover up. It takes time, and for some ppl, a change of lifestyle. At the end of the day, it is between ourselves and Allah SWT. Maybe you should worry more about being narrow minded? Your call.
Anyways, have a blessed Friday, everyone.
Wasalam.
Ps Vivy, hats off for remaining so calm.
Its a good post!
1. I agree with you on hijab is not merely covering your head but its just simply everything.
2. I am going to the conference not because vivy post it, but a month ago i agreed to my sisters approch. I had always enjoy UK and US way of welcoming you to islam and talks without discriminating inlike malaysia.
3. Not a matter of showing off but just to clear the water, i dont wear hijab but all my sisters are infact two of them wears niqab/jubah daily. They had never been inpolite with me instead always makes me feels welcoming. So dear siti, who ever you are, i think you seriously needs a change of approach or else you just make people think of the hijab community badly. Remember if god only judge people on judgement day, who are we to judge people now.
I’m sorry if my words sounds bad not harsh, forgive me. The goods from allah and the bad is jut me. God knows best.
True they said, Islam is a way of life. Fashion show among muslimah +discussions and talks etc. Sounds fun yeaaaay. I so wanna go, InsyaAllah. =D
dear non-hijabista,
i think you guys should just keep quiet and stop using, ‘tak dapat hidayah’ lagi ‘tak ready lagi’. you guys clearly knows that you should tutup aurat you guys are just making excuses and somehow trying to justify the sin of not covering aurah.it’s not like you don’t have the ‘hidayah’, you just DON”T WANT TO, simple as that. yes yes, covering aurat is not the only criteria to be a good muslimah, it’s like this, if you’re good already, why not wear tudung? simple, you just don’t want.
a sin is a sin, tak ada excuse. i sound harsh,kan? nope, i’m being frank. i am not saying that i am better than you guys sebab pakai tudung, i know i’m not. but i really don’t like the ‘tak dapat hidayah’ excuse. been hearing that excuse since forever.kenapa tak own up and say ‘oh,aku tak nak pakai tudung la,leceh nanti nak enjoy susah’ or ‘aku memang tak nak’
oh and M, your sisters wear niqab and you don’t even wear tudung. no surprise there, iman tak dapat di warisi.
not once did PD mention “hidayah” in this post. who are you targetting actually?
you know, i always wondered. how come people who wear tudung sound so angry and so upset all the time. it paints a very wrong concept of islam. you guys seem to have very close minds and only equate islam to headscarf. and it’s as if there’s some sort of riak that you guys confirm go syurga.
you say to be a good muslimah, why not wear tudung? it’s a sin not to. then, to be a good muslimah, you gotta have a good heart and be nice to ppl. why do you not attack ppl who are harsh with words? isn’t it a sin too?
it’s because of ppl like you ppl equate tudung with backward-mindedness
i wonder how you’d ask your daughters to wear tudung. i bet you’re one of those moms who just force without teaching them why they should want to.
your comment to M was unnecessary. shows you have a bad heart yet you’re telling ppl about iman. i find that funny. check yourself yeah? perhaps can start by buying a ticket to this event.
Dont see chinese or indians quarrel much/at all among themselves about their own religion. Somehow its always the muslims. So many try to get others to join islam, but you guys dont even agree with each other/some parts of your religion. To put it bluntly, to me it feels like a salesman who doesnt even believe in his own product. How can the world understand you (islam), when you cant even be at peace among yourselves?
Iman tak dapat diwarisi?
Alhamulilah. Thank you ”fed up” for your kind statement.
Res ipsa loquitor 🙂
Sorry vivy, i just gotta vent. i will go to the seminar insyallah and email you soon for the tickets.
hey fedup, it’s because of people like you, i retaliate and i just wont wear it. so yeah, thanks for ‘encouraging’ and trying to ‘preach’ that way!. hope you get some fair share of my sins for not covering up cos i get discouraged by you , siti husnida and generally people like you!.trying to preach but u guys having a foul mouth is just not helping u know!
and hey u know what, i just realized that we have to cover up and pray not because we want to show you and please you people, the one and only we should please is Allah and not you foul mouthed people. so to hell to whatever youre saying, all i hear is bla bla bla!
i will cover up when i honestly sincerely feel like it and i would constantly pray to Allah to keep guiding me. But HELL NO WONT COVER UP BECAUSE U FOUL MOUTHED PEOPLE JUDGE ME AND SAY I SHOULD!the more you do that the more i wont!
Vivy, you are witnessing first-hand of the kinds of bad hearted and nasty people who want to bring u down. When u do wear tudung later they will pick on ur clothes..it’s too tight, too short, too colorful.
The more u succeed in life, the more ppl like these you will come across. Just be strong, you’re a good person and daughter. Whether u wear tudung or not it is between u and Allah.. these ppl have no right to be so upset as u r not harming them in any way. I hope you continue to do what you do. Keep up the great work 🙂
Assalamualaikum,
Kehadapan semua hamba Allah Swt,
Sudah2 la tu nak berdebat di sini. Setiap hamba Allah SWT tau tanggungjawab masing2.
Oleh itu, marilah semua yang ingin berdebat, jom kite ke Conference Islam ini. Perbaiki diri masing2 lagi.
Wassalam.
Dear Vivy,
I salute you..so cool and adressing the “childish” comments in a very adult and stylo way.. too sad that some are very kolot .. i am a convert and i”m on my way learning to be good muslim and insyallah one day when ready i would wear hijab.. for time being i nak menghijapkan hati dan jiwa… jaga adap pertuturan dan tingkah laku, respect other religion if we want other to respect islam…baru la non muslim hormat and tahu keindahan islam.. nothing wrong to open the conference to non muslim..cara yang halus dan baik untuk berkongsi keindahan islam… stay cool Vivy
*shakes head again*
inshallah i’m going! sister miryam francois-cerrah, former british actress who came to Islam not long after 9/11 will be there and so will sister yasmin mogahed whose wisdom i just adore. like her fb and u will understand y!
jom!
salam,
“I guarantee a house in Jannah for one who gives up arguing, even if he is in the right; and I guarantee a house in the middle of Jannah for one who abandons lying even for the sake of fun; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannah for one who has good manners.” [Prophet Muhammad – reported by Imam Abu Dawud]
The internet may have completely revolutionized the way we interact with one another, but it certainly didn’t change the way we’re taught to conduct ourselves as Muslims. And above all else, it’s always best to ask yourself if the hours you spend arguing with other people online is truly worth giving up your house in the wondrous Eternal Gardens of our Lord
source:
http://muslimmatters.org/2012/03/19/a-muslims-guide-to-facebook-arguments-and-online-ridiculousness-in-general/
definitely worth a read. 😉
I thought Vivy’s long reply would put an end to everything.*sigh*Have to agree with Mei. My Indian used to tell me, Islam is most beautiful religion but with the worst followers. (If u get what I mean), I just smile at his remark. Couldnt agree more.
While for the hijab matters; just bcos we put on tudung, dont judge others who dont wear tudung.Pls. I do wear tudung, but I am still struggling with my solah,and I’ve seen those without hijab who really2 take care of their solat (Allah bless them). Dont be superficial. Each one of us has our own tests. That is why we need to remind and support one another.
May Allah guide us all. (and to dear M, dont let one person’s remark crush u,:))
Hi Vivy, I am 17 years old. before this, i have spent 5 years of my life living in a boarding school. at first, i dont know much about Islam and i am surprised to hear ‘al-mathurat’ and ‘hizib nawawi’. And gradually, i make them as my habit. i found so many of them, i know u want to stop the topic, but siti-husnida-type it is. i became distant from them. and i never blame them from making me like this. my point is, when i transferred to a new mrsm last 2 years, i found a girl from a religious school. she said, yeah at first she thought that she is the ‘nice’ one, didnt socialize and all. but later, she found many nice and noble hearts, even though they dont wear tudung.
what i want to stress here is that they who tend to criticise people is a new-and-enthusiastic learner. they learned and suddenly become pushy and intense. they want everyody to follow them, but they never realize that islam is beyond that. it is never judgemental, nor discriminating. it is a way of life. our social circle, it is not just about rituals.
of course i cant deny that one day, i want to see u wearing tudung, because i know u are a very good person and u know what reflects ur personality; the way u treat your family and friends, the way u keep a distance between u and ur fiancee. but one can only pray and tell, but never insult. of course the point is beauty is one of the ways to test our faith, but these type of people also a test; even more dangerous.
sorry for a long comment, u can blame spm
Jangan marah. Nampak tua nanti.
imho, berhijab dan bertudung tu lain sebab berhijab tu gaya je lebih. baju, seluar melekat jugak. hijab lilit2, nampak jugak batang leher, bentuk breasts bagai. adakah turban tu dikira menutup aurat? tapi sebab mereka ni tutup rambut, mereka rasa mereka dah sangat bagus.
and no, i tidak berhijab mahupun bertudung.
confirm i kena bash lepas ni. hahaha. bring it on!
dah x mo gado gado, meh doakan semua tutup aurat baik baik including me, wt t power of prayers, kun fayakun insyaAllah, pape pun love u vv 🙂
where’s Siti Husnida? she doesn’t want to fight back ke? hehe
and also fedup.. wow, sedap nye cakap..
who are we to judge others? they want to wear hijab or not, it’s their prob.. kubur masing2 kan.. it’s better for us to keep reminding each other to be a better Muslimah.. in a good way la kan, tegur elok2 not by criticizing or making harsh comments..
i bet they know that it’s a must to wear hijab, no excuse.. but why do u care so much bout their not getting the hidayah yet or whatever excuse that is.. all of this is between them and Allah.. seriously, it’s not our place to say dosa & pahala.. tu kerja Tuhan..
This reminds me of my story a few years back, when I didn’t wear hijab, and I heard someone told me that ‘orang yang tak pakai tudung ni semua orang jahat’. I was so upset with that comment, but after awhile had a very deep thought about it and started wearing hijab just weeks after that incident. Well, it’s really not a good thing to stereotype non-hijabis like that, but to me, although that comment is really bitter for me to swallow but it’s really a blessing in disguise and I have been wearing hijab ever since. Sometimes it doesn’t come smoothly and easily for us.
I really admire your courage, Vivy! May Allah bless you 🙂
People, stop leaving bad comments. Push away negativity and let’s support each other. 🙂 xx
lols..
why so butthurt. i was not being harsh or rude. all i’m saying is; you already know that you need to menutup aurat, but you didn’t sebab you don’t want to. there is no justification for that. i mean own up to your mistake.
i’m owning up to the fact that i am covering my aurat but i’m not that good of a person. why can’t you guys just be quiet and stop blaming other people cause they ‘discouraged’ you to wear tudung, bak kata Hani.
rambut pon dah diwarnakan macam mana berwudhuk? (off topic)
anyways, y’all selalu sensitive pasal isu bertudung ni.
padahal y’all pon suka stereotype orang bertudung kena jadi perfect and model muslimah what not.
i NEVER EVER said that pakai tudung tu maksudnya wanita tu memang baik betul lah.cuma if y’all so good already, why don’t wear one? bukan tudung je tp tutup aurat.
wanita bertudung tak semestinya baik, wanita baik semestinya bertudung.
I’m a silent reader/follower of this blog. Every time I read any of Vivy’s entries, a smile creeps onto my face; especially when she writes about her friends. When she writes about her Opah and her family, I always feel warm and fuzzy inside.
After reading all the comments on this post, this is the first time I feel sebak (for lack of a better word) after reading Proudduck.
I hope this will be the only time.
To Vivy, hope this doesn’t discourage you, and all the best for your nuptials! 🙂
Salamu alaikum everyone!
First of all I want to say that i really like this blog and it makes me sad to see those rude comments on it. I don´t know why I thought that you malasians don´t have those kind of arguments, I beleived that in you´re country people can wear dark hijab, colourfull hijab, not weare it at all and it´s just fine, very stupid right? maybe i´m a little bit influenced by the malasians blogs that a usually read.
As an arabic who live in Europe i´m really sick of this topic, in my original country some people want you to cover up to be decent (they even relate it with honor) and in Europe they want u to take off the hijab to demostrate that u are not a submissive.
Do you know what, for me both of them are equal.
We muslim women should really start to apreciate eachother for what we have inside of our heads so others (men and non muslims) could apreciate it too.
Finally I want to say to Vivy that I can´t really understand how people could read you´re blog and not like u, you are a sweetheart (I almost cried when Dean proposed to u)
Good night every one! in this side of the world is too late already! Viva la vida loca! 😀
P.D. Actually, I did cried :S
Hey fedup,
If ure fedup, own up to ur name and just keep ur mouth shut!
Lol we are all sensitive abt tudung and u arent ay? Seems like u care abt us so much
For the record, im not blaming u for not covering up, like i said all i hear from ur kind of people is bla bla bla!
Clearly u have no manners, even i know our prophet preached in thr most noble akhlak . Show good manners first in order for us to love u and fall in love in ur way of life and therefore for us to try to live ur way. But heh not only that i dislike u, i hate people like u. Let alone try to be close to foul mouthed people like u.
If u claimed what u said earlier wasnt harsh, oh hey this isnt harsh, just voicing out the truth thats all. Taaa~ p/s- u reminded me of the annoying foul mouthed kampungite clerk in my office.
Seriously, only Allah knows, ladies. We all should close our mouth, let Allah do the judgments. You know you can’t read each other’s hearts, then do not make more sins. We belong to Him after all. They say the smartest individuals are the ones who remain quiet.
Got this of from my friend’s FB status. Something for all of us to ponder:
Renung-renungkanlah…
Hari ini dia mungkin tidak bertudung, esok lusa mungkin dialah yg paling IKHLAS menutup aurat.
Hari ini mungkin dia seorang yang suka bercakap kasar, esok lusa mungkin dialah yang paling LEMBUT bicaranya.
Hari ini mungkin dia seorang yg ingkar pada perintah Allah SWT, esok lusa mungkin dialah yang paling istiqomah mengerjakan Qiyamul Lail kala kita semua sedang lena.
Kita tidak tahu dan kita tak akan pernah tahu. Tugas kita bukan me’neraka’kan orang. Tetapi mengajak manusia ke jalanNYA dan saling doa mendoakan.
For those who don’t speak malay, these words kinds says that we can never judge a person, it’s Allah’s will. A person may not wear a hijab now, but she could be better than the person who does, in the future. She may not seem kind now, but she could be the person with the most nicest heart in the future, etc…
I agree with Vivy, who are we to judge? Of course we want the best for ourselves, we want to follow Allah’s way, but let it be in our own terms. Let it be with an open heart and mind and do so willingly. We are all on the way there.
Keep up the goodwork Vivy! Lots of love and support.
Honestly, I agreed with fedup. I understand what she was trying to say. She meant no harsh and even sometimes we got to be harsh with those who wouldn’t understand and often twist our words, no?
But I still love you Vivy! And I hope you will don the hijab veryveryveryvery soon and I believe you’ll look even more beautiful with it 🙂 May Allah bless us all.
My personal view is, you put the hijab on without delaying it (sort of like exercise, why do it later when you can do it now, right?) When you do something in the name of Allah, He will definitely make other things easier. I think if you want to ‘perfect’ or work on other things, it’ll take a long time because the chase to perfection never ends! Besides, I think for women, the day you get your period is the day Allah himself tells you, “You are ready.”
Anyway, whatever anyone’s stance is on this, at the end of the day, Allah is the only one who can judge us.
Friendly reminder : InsyaAllah, in the future, when you don the hijab, don’t forget to delete the uncovered pictures of you on the blog & other social medias 🙂
“But HELL NO WONT COVER UP BECAUSE U FOUL MOUTHED PEOPLE JUDGE ME AND SAY I SHOULD!the more you do that the more i wont!”
Astagfirullah hal azim. The more you do the more I won’t? How can you say that lightly? Indeed, I agree, the comment by fedup was rude but the statement you made is very improper.
enough la. what is with you guys?
What Siti and Fedup did was stating the obvious. Yes, as a muslim woman, it is compulsory that we cover our aurat, regardless of our intentions. All our doings (bad/good) are between us and Allah. Just maybe the way they said it was, well a bit bitter to my opinion. We, as human will never stray from making mistakes. We will have our fair share of being judged,criticized and what not, but above all, nothing we ever do should go against the must. One should know for a fact that once you go against it, you’ll be measured. One tick on your left shoulder. Imagine how many strands of hair you have?
To Vivy, stay strong honey. All good deeds and intentions will sure lead to something good. InsyaAllah. May Allah bless you in your journey and flourish you with all the good things in life.
Siti & Fedup, just so you know, Hidayah does exist and we should believe in it. Not wanting to wear hijab/refuse to wear it is one example that Hidayah is not there yet. Its to be earned. And labeling people would just do worst to your own self. Have respect for the others.
Salam
vivy, i really love your blog and read it everyday! =) there are many things i had learned from you, at the same time i hope you will don the hijab real soon. apalah dunia ini yang hanya persinggahan kita buat sementara, we love you vivy =)
As salam and hye,
To Vivy : I am very proud of u.
To all readers & commentators : i urge you to read a piece from Suhaib Webb’s blog pertaining to this issue “Hijab is not to protect men, but to honor women”.
1. The Quran has stated clearly
“O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful.”
2. But the advise must be done properly in the correct manner
For sisters, if you want to advise someone about hijab, ask yourself, am I advising because it makes me feel pious? Or am I advising because I care about this person and want to be a good friend and sister in calling her towards the pleasure of Allah (swt)? Most of the sisters who decide to wear the hijab in adulthood don’t do it because someone yelled at them or taunted them. They do it because they were able to recognize its beauty after spending time with people who wore it with dignity and showed modesty not just in their clothing, but also in their character.
i hope everyone would put some thoughts into this..
Don’t argue with the jahils.
Asslammualaikum girls,
Sorry to interrupt, but I hope you guys can spent sometime to watch this video by Dr. Zaharuddin. See how he delivered his points, note on how he put his sentences on. My highlight starts at minutes 18.0, I think it covers on why some people might be a little bit late on their journey, and why we can’t labelled them. I hope it helps.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFEchd05NtI&feature=related
“dont argue with the jahils”.
i say, dont listen to those who are envious. malays. dengki is a hobby. sure she has everything. she’s got the perfect life, she’s beautiful, smart, funny, and she’s filthy rich. sometimes it may seem unfair. but despite all that she remains humble and grounded.
now compare her with other VIPs’ kids/anak orang kaya that you personally know. can you say the same about them? ada yang muka like longkang, perangai pun like longkang. some drink alcohol like its h20, get high, sleep around, and get wasted every weekend. and here she is, this lovely bride-to-be, whose intention was only to promote an islamic event, and u try to bring her down. why? is it because her hair looks so silky and gorgeous that it makes your heart ache and your face green, and u feel like saying anything just so that she covers up?
i was once reprimanded by a makcik at a mosque for not wearing a tudung. i understand the need to respect such places but i was running late for prayers and couldn’t make it in time to pray at home. after the scolding, i asked the makcik if it would be better if i didn’t pray at all. she was lost for words and kept quiet after. just cause a person is not a perfect muslim, doesnt meant she cant try to be closer to god in her own way and at her own pace. at least it’s a step forward.
her blog, personally, inspires me to be hardworking and a better person, while being well-groomed at the same time. how many local blogs out there can make you feel that way?
maybe the haters should start writing a blog which promotes a holier than thou attitude and preach endlessly about how all non-tudung wearing women are all ‘perempuan tak baik’. ingat ada orang nak listen to such bitter rantings? annoyed ada la kot.
stop trying to push her into being someone she’s not (maybe not YET). pick on someone else please. and let the rest of us continue to enjoy this awesome blog of hers minus the negativity.
ok, ok, i know vv already cakap ’nuff bout siti husnida, but i just found out bout dis today cz i’ve been so damn bz dgn exams.
I’m studying in IIUM (UIA). The university promotes Islamic environment and as a way of life. You would even find an engineering lecturers talking about Islam & akhirat & etc etc.
Thus, ppl covering aurah and adhering to Islamic way of life, is not alien to me.
I strongly disagree with Siti Husnida, just coz ppl cover their aurah, doesn’t mean they are super super good, and just because ppl do not cover their aurah, doesn’t mean they are super super bad.
In my many years here in IIUM, I’ve had enough of my fair share watching these ppl. Which is why I said, hijab is not the sole yardstick which can determine people goodiness or badness,
1. A friend was so sarcastic to me about covering my aurah for the wrong reason (I did it cz I enteres UIA). She, I saw with my two eyes, cheated in the final exam.
2. A friend was badmouthing another girl for shaking hands with a guy. This friend, rode up motorcycle with her previous & present boyfriend.
3. A friend scolded me for not performing prayer on time. This friend talk behind ppl all the times, & purposely tries to make ppl fight with each other. This friend always ongoing postinng nasty things about another ppl via fb & twitter.
4. A friend talk about Islam, akhirat, ibadat. This friend cheated in quizzes, exams.
And all of these ppl cover their aurah properly. (pakai tudung)
Siti Husnida, please think.
Even Nabi Musa a.s was told by Allah SWT to speak nicely & properly in preaching to Firaun, and even Firaun is one of the most evil person ever existed on earth. Who are you to talk the way you did in your effort (I assume) to make people aware of your concern? Yes, your intention is good, but, niat tidak menghalalkan cara, it does not gives you green light to talk down to others.
I’m sorry if I hurt you, I’ve no right either way to hurt you or anyone else. I’m just saying out my concern of how things should be.
don’t worry! i used to remember this>>Kalau kita berubah untuk jadi baik kerana Allah, Allah akan hantar orang-orang yang baik untuk bersama-sama dengan kita 🙂
Juts wear the hijjab… dont wait until Izrael come… better wear than nothing.. just opinion.