live and love
January 20, 2013Our Raikan Cinta episode is on again this week. A repeat! Make sure you watch it on Channel 104.
I wish I could upload it somewhere so my friends overseas can watch, but I’m not allowed to do so, so let’s just hope for a repeat when they’re back. Maybe for now, I’ll post up some wedding videos soon.
Anyway, I’ve been getting a lot of tweets about how everything seemed perfect for me and Dean, and that we have a pretty awesome relationship and friendship. And it started to make me think.
I really do have an awesome love journey with him. I have so much fun with him and as much as we’re the best of friends poking fun at each other, we’re also deeply in love and can’t imagine days without each other. It’s really an awesome marriage that God has destined for me, and sometimes I don’t know what I did to deserve such a good man. He’s just a complete package and I’m really blessed.
But let me clarify something. There is no such thing as perfect.
I get a bit worried when people think it’s a perfect life, because then people will hope for perfect. Only to get disappointed because there’s just no such thing. You can’t just assume something based on what you see on the surface.
Dean and I argue a lot! Gosh, sometimes I wish we had a reality show because we’re so funny when we argue. Like Hindustan drama! Both of us have extremely big egos and when it comes to apologizing, we’ll go round and round with arguments because none of the two monkeys want to say sorry first. As a wife, I guess I’m in the wrong to have such unnecessary pride, but whatevs, I took law as a degree so he should’ve known what he got himself into. Plus, I have no problem apologizing after he has apologized.
Hehe.
But anyway, one thing for sure. The love is never less, argument or no argument. Whenever we argue and Dean has to drive off somewhere in anger, I always get so worried and I prayย “God, please protect my husband from danger, please protect him wherever he is…” with tears sometimes (but still, I won’t say sorry). And I know above all, Dean always prays for my happiness and safety too.
I’m no expert in marriage, but I have been with this guy for 6+ years. All I can say is when arguing:
1) Never use vulgarity or hurtful words condemning each other.
e.g. I wish you’d die, you *insert horrible words you’d hate your kids to use*ย
Even when arguing, have some respect for each other.
2) Never hit. Please don’t tolerate domestic violence.
3) Don’t walk out and leave. Settle it before it’s too late.
4) Swallow your pride and say sorry if you’re wrong (this is from Dean… pfttt)
Bottom line is, every couple will fight. The question is how much do you love each other to end it. Always remember, life is too short and we waste so much time if we just carry on being angry with someone we love and care for. Always think, if anything happens to your loved ones while you’re fighting, you’d never be able to forgive yourself.
So live and love for the sake of Allah!
Dear Vivy,nnYou are an epitome of a loveable couple… i religiously follow your blog because i love being reminded of those lovy-dovy feelings.. things change when you’re married for a couple of years so sometimes we need someone to remind us of the good old days..nnas for arguments, well i always try to speak as calm and collected as possible.. but there are times when we kinda shout so subsequently Secret Recipe’s sweet cakes are the best way to apologize.. :)nnLove this post!
Hi Vivy, arguments are “the perks” in marriage.. Hehehe. That’s what makes a couple know each each other better. Imagine combining 2 heads into 1! Just stay level headed when arguing.
i watched it!so lovely!
hi vivy! i never give comments in your blog so this is my first time. i saw u at bangsar village last friday, i dunno if u notice this, there were 2 girls sitting at artisan sofa with cheese cake and were staring at u hahahahha..i rasa u mcm celebrity dah because i dunno how to react i terkeduuuu je tgk u. so pretty and mcm ada aura :)) i pray for u and ur baby’s safety and please read about breastfeeding! its just the best. hope i will get the chance to see u again and take picture together ๐
Well said vivy. I’m in my 4th year of marriage and still there’s a lot to learn.. Not proud but I have to say, I did no 1 and 2 (but not with my children present). Kdg2 so geram and dia pun dok provoke. But it happens like once in a year so shd be ok kot? :pnnBtw, did u notice that u and your mom is in the budget 2013 ad? Currently showing before buletin utama at 8pm.
well, that’s life. we even argue with our parents, so arguments between husband and wife is normal. but like u said, there’s do’s and dont’s.nnp/s: i watched ur episode, ti was wonderful, vivy ๐
Vivy, bila ye your episode utk raikan cinta ?
congratulations vivy for being able to lay out the true meaning of love easily ๐ argument is inevitable but what really matter is how we handle it nnso may both of you be happy together till the end ๐
hey vivy! i just love u! hehe ive tweeted to u several times but u never reply..sob sob heheni read yr blog everyday! <3 anyway just wanna tell u this is a very beautiful post.. i even teared a little.. :’) i just got married to the most wonderful person but im still worried what will it be like after the honeymoon period is over..after reading yr post i feel so much better.. thank u vivy! and i wish u will hv a very wonderful life with yr perfect family.. ๐
vivy, same goes with me…wlaupun in the mood of argument but i will always call to make sure he safely arrive, n then smbung gaduh semula when i know he is safe..hahaha