everyone needs to vent
December 13, 2013Everyone comes into your life for a reason, I think. It could be a small one, or it could really leave a significant mark in your life. But big or small, there’s just so much you can learn from people around you. If only we all open our eyes a bit more.
I love meeting new people and just sharing life experiences with each other. You’ll be surprised to see how little you know about things and how much bigger the world is from others’ perspectives. I have to admit I’ve met with some bad experiences in life, especially in business you’ll meet all sorts of characters, but funnily I’ve no regrets. I really do believe each person God crosses your path with only teaches you how to be a better person. Either be inspired from them, or learn from your mistakes. Whatever it is, life goes on so be strong.
I am feeling this now at 1 am because I’m reading some of my PD emails (sorry I haven’t had the chance to reply each one of you!! Please forgive me). I am lucky enough to have amazing readers who like to write to me and share their life experiences that I might be able to relate to. Motherhood, marriage, friendship, business.. all sorts of things! Although I have never met most of you, it’s really wonderful to learn from you. (In fact, one of the catalysts for my covering up is from a blog reader’s email).
But as many good stories I read, I read just as many negative stories. Stories on jealousy, stories on bad breakups, stories on how they got backstabbed, so many negative ones… And I can tell from the tone of the emails that the problem isn’t what happened but the problem comes from within. I want to be sympathetic of course, but I wish I can reply some of the emails with a “You are so much better than this. Life goes on so stop dwelling about the past.” Honestly some things in life are so petty. So it doesn’t matter if that girl has 10 more Chanel bags than you do, or that girl is running a successful business, or you’re jealous that your ex is going out with someone hotter. See, emails like these upset me and I feel like I should address this. Please don’t take offense because I am just simply giving my two cents and I honestly think everyone should find the good in life.
These kinds of negativity in our lives can only slow us down. All of this comes from self-pity. Why does this happen to me? Pity me, pity me. No, just no. When we pamper our emotions so much, I think we become weaker in our self-belief. Look, everyone gets tested by God, even those girls you think you hate. Some are easy tests, some are hard tests.. whatever they may be, we must always think God won’t test us if He knows we can’t handle it. God will always be with us, so whenever we feel down, just cry it out to Him (vent all you want, God never asks you to come back later), ask for the best guidance, get back up and off you go to your next meeting. DON’T. WASTE. TIME.
I do this all the time! Anytime I feel down or I can’t decide on something, I will always blab about my problems to God on my prayer mat. Sometimes I could go on and on and on… and I always feel so much stronger after. God is “online” all the time. You’ve just got to have faith that He’s there for you, and whatever test you’re going through, God’s got your back!
Positive vibes to all. *throws positive confetti in your face*
Happy Friday!!
love you kak vivy! this is my motivation boost <3
Early Friday booster! 🙂
Love you V….
This one exactly agree on my side. I learn from my past mistakes and now I’m the new girl ! You inspire me most Vivy !
Such a big strong mind! Thank you Vivy :))
Love this post very much.
Best post so far V. It pretty much sums up what I’m feeling right now.. Different people are tested differently.. Life is definitely not a bed of roses, people need to accept that and move on with it..
http://www.upworthy.com/this-amazing-kid-died-what-he-left-behind-is-wondtacular?g=2&c=ie
http://www.upworthy.com/he-died-too-young-so-all-his-friends-got-together-to-make-sure-future-generations-of-kids-dont?c=ufb1
thank vivy for your advice, meanwhile hope this story of Zach can gives great lesson to all of us.
life is short , guys.
live your life to the fullest.
makes the beauty becomes beautiful
Vy, I too, when I’m feeling down I will go for solat, and blab about my sadness on my prayer mat 🙂 it feels better. Allah is the greatest listener, ALWAYS there for us.
Thank you Vivy 🙂
Salam Vivy
Meaningful and beautiful words.
You’re the best Vivy. So humble and sweet. And I love how positive and witty you are. A role model to all young women out there, including me.
Lots of love <3
Bravo baby D ‘s mommy ♥
i’m gonna cry (trust me it’s the hormones). love you V. may Allah bless U always.
1- (Quran Surah:90 verse 4): la- qad khalaqnaa al- ‘insaan fii kabad
“Verily, We have created man into [a life of] pain, toil and trial”
2- “Be sure we shall test thee give, with little fear, hunger, lack of wealth, lives and fruits. And give glad tidings to those who wait. (It is) a person who when calamity (disaster) happens to him, they said (with a heart that believes). Indeed, we belong to Allah and to Him we all return. “(Surah Al-Baqarah 2:155 – 156)
Various problems, exams, challenges, accident or anything else that makes us uncomfortable is the manifestation of love of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala to us.
3- Being sad is not encouraged in Islam
“So do not become weak, nor be sad…” (Surah Ali ‘Imran 3:139)
“And grieve not over them, and be not distressed because of what they plot.” (Surah Al Nahl 16:127)
link-
a) http://amuslima.com/islam-muslim-woman-stories/verily-after-every-hardship-there-is-relief/
b)
Ya Allah! I just cried reading this post! Thank u Vivy..for everything 😉
SO SO true. I wrote a similar blogpost about this. People who pities themselves usually have a lot of jealousy issues and do not realise this. They’re in denial! I used to have such issues as a teen but thank GOD. Grew out of it and saw the bigger picture.
I love this! So much motivation that I got from your writing sis. I love read your writing because it can lift up my mood and feeling. Thanks ya 🙂
Love you sis even though I never see you but I would love someday to bump with you and your family. It must be awesome and wonderful moment to me if it happen. Hehe
i love it vivy!
I Love ❤️ this writing so much!
Such a good motivation..esp on friday..go vivy.may u happy always with your family..esp with cute daniell…;)
Wow vivy! Only few months didnt read ur blog and n very surprised looking at you rite now. Vivy sofinas now in hijabi! So beautiful vivy! Really adore you since raikan cinta till now i am your follower. Alhamdulillah.. May Allah bless u and your family always. Keep writing and inspiring us. Hidup Vivy and daniel! ( sorry tergedik :p)
omg vivy this is just what i needed! something just happened and it’s involving a broken heart of mine, it hurt soooooo much, the humiliation and everything. i just dont know what to do :'( im a christian btw but i really hope you’ll include me in your prayer. good bless u and family v!
Alhamdulillah Vivy..what an inspiring post! Love you big time!
Anyways, didn’t have the chance to thank and wish u yet..Thank you for the 50% off discount gift on your birthday and extended one day..i appreciate it so much! Spend nearly a thousand but the total amount to be paid was awesome! Mucho gracias! And happy belated birthday Vivy!!!! I pray that you will always be showered with happiness here and after. Amin. If you have any free time at all, would be a proud fan if u could email me.. a ‘hi’ email pun boleh laaa..kiki.
if only i can quit my current job T_T
Super love this post. Beautiful on the inside and outside!
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