my wild “me” night
March 23, 2014Yesterday, Dean and I were getting a shawarma and we decided to just sit next to the kiosk and chill for a while. It really brought me back to uni days, when we would take a bus together to Edgware Road for the sickest kebab in town. And it would open till late, so it was like the British version of mamak.
Dean asked me, “So, what’s new, baby?”. And I updated him on my day, what funny thing Daniel did, and work projects and all. Then Dean stopped me. “No, no, like what’s new with you? How are you?”
And I found myself dumbfounded. I kept quiet. Errr… how am I? I don’t actually know! I haven’t thought about me.
That alone was enough to ring a warning bell that I might not be leading a healthy lifestyle. We talked about it and Dean pointed out that my life is just about work and after work, I wear the Mommy hat. And then I go to sleep and my day just repeats. Yes, I meet a lot of people, yes my life is colourful, but that is all work-related. Dean asked me simply after that, “What have you done for yourself that you wanted to do lately? Simple things like for me, watching football in peace or just reading for a while. Something just for me. You should do something just for you to enjoy.”
As if he understood, Daniel went to bed early last night. So I had the night free to myself. After night prayers with Dean, I read a bit of the Quran and felt so at peace. Then, while Dean does some work, I thought ok.. me time. Now.. what do I want to do? The first thought was immediately laptop to reply some emails… No no. That’s not proper me time. Hmmm what are people doing on Instagram? No nooooo, Vivy stop it, I told myself. Think about yourself, not the rest of the world.
I thought it would be nice to have some reading time. Grabbed a pint of ice cream and visited the bookshelf. Hmmm.. which book. My eyes fell on “One Click”, the e-commerce success story. I picked that up. Hmm… but I know I’ll think about work after. Screw that, let’s make tonight a wilddd night. So I picked up a chic lit, the pinkest, most brightest one I had on the shelf and put my feet up. Just me, my ice cream and a little love story for me to enjoy.
Fine, I could only last 3 chapters before Dean found me snoring on the couch.
But man… being alone doing something just for me, was really pretty awesome.
Hope you will have your “wild” time soon!
Gosh,i dont have my ‘me’ time as well…*sigh*
“Most brightest?!” Heyyy where is the grammar nazi haa?
If I’m not mistaken you used to write that you always wanted to strike a balance in life. Find that balance Vivy! 🙂
Omg vivy i love your blog!!!!! I have been following you sinve 2009 and never look back since. I wanna ask you about this fashion work-related slash business, how can i form my own fashion design company? And how can i sell things? Secondly, i am in this production of theatre which we need sponsorship so badly. Would you please consider us for your sponsor? We will show our play on 15th of April and yes, it is in three weeks time. Please vivy. Thanks for the reading. Appreciate it a lot. XO 🙂
hello there vivy. I’ve been an avid reader of your blog since then (yeah, I know and pretty sure you’ve heard this somewhere but who cares!)
reading your write up somehow inspires me to be like you. oh yes, you are now my new idol. your everyday routine since before you’ve got married till Daniel is around really spark some kind of energy or may I say an andrenaline everytime I read it. shows how really I do admire and adore you.
to be honest, I’m kinda surprised when you’ve decided on donning the hijab. and being you, it seems that you were born to doll up the hijab and yeah, how I wish that my day would eventually come and I’ll be proudly donning the hijab as you are right now.
alright. enough yapping. cheers to more enjoyment in your life so that we’ve could read it here on proudduck!
xoxo to one of my inspirer in life, you!
most brightest?
awww, that’s so sweet and thoughtful of Dean. have a nice day, Vivy!
How understanding is Dean?!?!
So what if she writes ‘most brightest’, people? It’s a personal blog, the grammar doesn’t need to be perfect. Besides, sometimes this kind of phrase is used to add colour and emphasis, like ‘bestest friend’ or ‘most stupidest’.
Sometimes, when you are tired and you don’t feel like rereading what you have written down, you can make the simplest mistake. I do it too in my blog but that doesn’t mean Vivy’s English is deteriorating. Come on,Vivy? Not bloody likely.hehehe. Anyway Vivy I really understood this entry. We always prioritize everything else above ourselves. As for me, I would be running around for my patients the whole day, came home as mommy and wife, my ‘me’ time would be after 12 mn when both of them are asleep. I would have 5 minutes of my ‘me’ time before I dozed off. Finding balance is the easier said than done..sigh*
Why nobody commented on the cat picture?! Ish.
It has to be said, Dean is an extremely understanding husband and you are terribly lucky though I’m sure you know this. Definitely very rare to have a husband who is so supportive of your achivements and overlooks your shortcomings (if any) , who is loving, affectionate, and kisses the ground you walk on. Whenever I read your posts on him, I long for a partner like that too but alas, I should be so lucky. He’s a keeper vivy (as I’m sure you are too!) Have a nice day 🙂
First glance of the pict while scrolling.. I thought what did vivy put on her face and body this time… Mud? Oh yaaahhhh it’s kitty… Not vivy.. But kitty