my lobster
May 23, 2014The downside to an 8-year-couple (almost 8 soon!) who work, play, sleep and eat together is that when one goes on a business trip, the other gets depressed and starts scolding everything. Colleagues, friends, clothes, flowers, walls, anything really. Whenever Dean goes away even for a night, I get a bit lost. Like eh, do I wanna go up or down… orย eh, what did I come here to get? Oh right, my son!ย
I am already super clingy when he’s around, so imagine how I’d be when he’s not around. Wail and sob, smell his T-shirt, eat ice-cream, listen to Brian McKnight, you know… like a sad teenager in love. It’s been like that since the start of our relationship and nothing has changed in that department. Haha. In my defence, Dean is superrrr clingy with me too, so we both deserve each other la really. What can I say, he’s my lobster. (Remember F.RI.E.N.D.S.?)
So he was away recently for a few days which felt like a few years.
I invited Marissa to sleepover at my place since I’d be missing Dean and I needed some girly distraction. We had a nice dinner and got ready for bed.
I got ready to change and take off my makeup, but shyly went to her. “Can you come and ย hang out withย me in the toilet while I wash my makeup off?”
Judging me left right center, Marissa went, “WHAT?!”
“You know.. cos Dean does it every night. He would brush his teeth while I remove my make up and wash my face… and we’d spend time in the toilet talking about our day,” I said to Marissa, whose mouth was now a big O shape. “Please? It just doesn’t feel complete.”
She stormed into toilet with me. “Oh my god, woman!”
I smiled. We’ve known each other for 20 years, Marissa and I, so we’re pretty immune to each other.
“So….” I picked up my makeup remover and I looked at Marissa (who was sitting half-heartedly on the side of the bathtub) through the mirror, “How was your day, honey?” I asked Marissa sweetly.
And she told me all about her day.
On the phone with Dean later that night, I whispered, “Marissa doesn’t tell it as interestingly as you do, baby. I miss you.”
Do you have a thing with your husband? I think it’s quite nice to have something you guys do everyday that is the same even if it takes 5 minutes like our get-ready-for-bed session. My case of clingyness is pretty extreme and Dean knew what he got himself into when he married me teehee, but I think it’s cute that we both miss each other when we’re apart. It keeps the love alive, Insyaallah. I hope you and your partner are the same (of course with a normal dose of clingness though, not necessarily mine!).
So sweet of u guys… 8 years?! Seriusly!? BIG OMG…hehe.. but frankly, u guys r sweet n fresh looking newlyweds… i hope can b like u one day… Amin~
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That’s so cute! I honestly think that it’s the little things like your story-telling sesh before bedtime that you miss the most whenever you’re apart. It may seem like a small act, but it still holds a big place inside your heart.
Yes, that’s what LOVE is all about…:)
Awww… Smiling from d start till d end of this post :))
Owh my… u are too cute & funny!
haha, just got to ask.. is it FRIENDS or HIMYM? hehe. u know…the part where Robin was like addicted to Barney and started flirting with him.. ๐ anyway, im super addicted to my other half too, so i really could relate to you! ๐
My husband and I are in LDR since 8 years ago. We recite prayer every night on the phone before go to bed, as a routine. Our definition of clingy is only thru the phone, to the extent we would be like an awkward newly-wed couple when we see each other eye to eye! hehe. We would cry though, when it’s time to say goodbye. So I understand how are u feeling, it’s normal..don’t worry Vivy!
“Missing someone gets easier everyday because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will- Quoted”
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Awww ๐ you and dean sound like lily and marshall, so sweet hehehe ๐
hahah vivy …ai pun sama macam u . kita org dari zaman blajar n kije pun mmg sekalik …everyday he will be with me . But bila dia tak der even pegi beli barang dapor pun i will be super dooper blur ….something aint right kindda feeling ….cam kehilangan sesuatu
same like u too dear hahahhahaha
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tak kesah la hamba ke apa …hahhaha
ohh FRIENDS..i remember the scene where Phoebe said that to the rest when she was talking about Rachel & Ross. She said that while doing the “hand” thing. oohh totally can relate to what Vivy is writing here, because being apart from your other half when he is your real soulmate is unbearable. thinking back about it made me realize that i AM clingy and its perfectly fine!
I’m getting married nx week,insyaAllah.i foresee that i’m gonna be super clingy wife!haha
Sometimes, my future husband gets annoyed of my clingyness too. But, whenever i am merajuk and give silent treatment, he would fell empty.
I pray that Allah would grant us mawaddah & rahmah dunya & akhirat along with our kids
Husband and i called it ‘quality time’
We spend 5-10mins cuddling on bed just right before we fell asleep, and asking each other ‘do u love me? Do u happy with me’ and talk bout how grateful our life together. ๐
awww..i miss our thing in the traffic jam coming home everyday. now that I have quit my 9-5 job!
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Aawww, that’s just sooo sweet ๐
That’s a very sweet story Vivy…
….but aren’t you allergic to seafood i.e lobsters???
*big O-shaped mouth*
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I am clingy to my husband as well!. and it has been 12 years of marriage anniversary and 18 yrs of knowing each other and I still cling to him like. before.. hehehe makin teruk kot I rasa nak2 dh anak 5 ni…
Wei, why you tak cerita about your midnight songs and how at the end of the day, I was pretty useless considering you were out like a light.
nice story vivy. My husband is away too at times for 2 weeks to a month or slightly more. Sometimes, he will be in Malaysia or if I am u lucky he will be somewhere in Europe. It sucks. I completely lost my appetite, became skinny and look good in clothes. Missed him terribly. Now that he is back, all my appetite came back and food/desserts look so tempting. Should I tell him to go again? hahahaha. That is what love and happiness does to you. It makes your world better:)