at the gynae’s
August 31, 2014Trips to the gynae are always exciting because
(a) you’ll get to see the development of your baby
(b) and you get candy from the doctor’s room!
(YOU DON’T?!! What kind of a gynae…)
But the not so exciting part is when you have to wait a gazillion years before your turn. This period of boredom kills you slowly and you’ll have no choice but to check out other mothers. I mean, seriously guys. Pregnant women are funny to watch; some of them are slouching and snoring due to lack of sleep the night before, some of them are rubbing their tummy probably hungry, some of them are talking to their tummy (I steer clear of these ones, super awkward), some of them look very worried probably because it’s blood test day for them (I totes get it). Some behaviors are so interesting you just have to point out stuff to your other half. Who is also by the way, really really bored.
Like this one lady I saw who sat on the chair, legs crossed on the seat (like bersila style) and arms crossed up above, hands resting on the top of her head. She was all terkangkang and armpits out and everything. Like whoa lady, how’s your pregnancy going?
It was pretty awkward but hey, an unspoken rule in the gynae’s clinic is that no one judges anyone. We might talk about you, but we never judge because we all understand. One leg up on the chair? You must be having leg cramp, you poor dear. Sleeping with mouth open? You’ve never looked more beautiful, Mommy. Scolding your husband for playing game instead of rubbing your back? He should’ve done that sooner, girlfriend.
That last one was me.
I saw a husband rubbing his wife’s neck and turned to Dean unsatisfied. “You see, look at that man. He’s so sweet massaging his wife!”
Dean looked at him. “Baby, his one hand is on the phone and the other hand is just lazily scratching his wife. That’s barely a massage! He’s not even looking at her!”
Ok fine, true. “But still… so sweet of him to try.”
“Ok fine fine, come I do to you what he’s doing,” and with his one index finger, he scratches my neck lazily which annoyed me more than anything.
“Stop it.”
“See, at least I tried,” and goes back to his game.
Ish.
I looked at the other husband. His hands are both on the phone now concentrating fully on his game. Three other husbands in the room, including my lovely one, are doing the same thing. But hope is still there because there will be one husband in the room that is attentive and constantly checking up on his wife. Dean would tell me that’s definitely their first child. Why do we bother bringing husbands along to the checkups? Pftttt.
But yeah seriously, next time you go to a gynae, look around and tell me the scene is pretty much the same.
Salam Vivy. Last visit to gynae, there was a man who really concerned about his wife. Like you said constantly checking his wife. I was having a blood test & so did his wife. The funny thing was he kept asking when his wife’s turn for blood test. Can you imagine my number was TWO while his WIFE SIXTY plus. My husband said “I think even when the nurse ask for his blood instead his wife, he willingly surrender his arm”
The wife is so young and probably their first child.
Hahahah!….I’ve gone thru all that…but I assure you after all the pain & trouble you’ll gone through….nothing is more exciting & enjoying than to watch your kids grow!
Salam perkenalan….love reading your blog & your product!
Oh glad that other men were hogging their phone too!Thought twas only my hubs!
Entering my 2nd trim now, back ache is really torturing.Anything for you baby.But i really need full attention ;eg- back massage, or rubbing my tummy from my hubs who is hogging his phone almost 24/7.Playing game, checking up on IG and FB’s feed.Sheeshhhh
Can’t u just stare into my eyes and say how much u really love me would be good too,man!Rather than glued yourself to the phone screen.
Nevertheless,i still love you sayang!
Jsyk…gynae = women’s problem. Since you’re pregnant, the better word is obstetrics/obstetrician. Hahah sorry, just a small pet peeve of mine. You know how it is right since you’re a grammar nazi 😛
The packed gynae clinic in Alexandria, Egypt yesterday had only one two husbands. The rest of the pregnant ladies either came alone or wi a female companion. Egyptians. Hahah.
Ladies…
I need ur opinion. I’m 5 weeks pregnant and i did an eye examination last saturday when the doc put the eye numbing drops on me. I completely forgot to tell her that i’m pregnant. I couldn’t reach my gynae.. Next appointment is next 2 weeks. Super worried that it will harm my fetus. This is my 1st pregnancy, so no experience. Thanking u guys in advance!!
oh God i thought it was just my husband that plays his phone the whole time, I had to fake a lot of thing just to get his attention. backache lah, leg cramp lah, mini contractions lah. pfft
1st baby – husband was eager to come with me to clinic, even willing to take a day off
2nd baby – husband was half-heartedly coming to clininc
3rd baby – I have to drag husband to clinic
4th baby – I don’t bother bringing him anymore, I rather wait alone rather then feeling annoyed the whole waiting time haha
LOL.. Had my 1st baby in January this year. I didn’t even bother to bring my husband to visit my gynae. Mostly because he couldn’t take the day off because my check-ups are on working days. Had to wait for hours and I just don’t think my husband will sit quietly at all. I went alone most of the time. And yes.. I had fun watching all mum-to-be scenario there.
Vivy, I have 5 kids…all chk ups my hubby attend without fail. Love to read your blog..
Vivy, I have 5 kids and when attended my checkups i would prefer going alone rather than hearing my husband annoyingly asked for how long more he had to wait. The boredom part of waiting added with unpleasant feeling to deal with annoying questions. (well, a preggy lady might have some temper too i suppose) #fuhh, gotta check my grammar 🙂
Whatt why don’t I get candy from my Gynae pfft. Checkups for me are always a drag coz I will be extremely hungry and hubs will refrain me from searching for snacks coz he’s afraid that we’ll miss our turn haha.