mommy is free
August 20, 2014Do you guys hear that?
The sound of me screaming happily of freedom???
You know what that means, right…
I’ve stopped breastfeeding!!!!
I’m freeeee!!!
*does happy dance blows whistles and streamers sings with a marching band on top of a huge floral float*
Sorry Daniel, I really do love you, really. But man am I happy to have my boobs all to myself again after one whole year of sharing. Hehe.
It wasn’t a walk in the park though, the weaning process. A lot of tears and screaming by Daniel and mountains and mountains of guilt by me. The doctor said it wasn’t good to breastfeed while you are pregnant (can induce contractions), so he advised me to stop. I slowly weaned Daniel off by giving him yummier drinks and distracted him everytime he wanted to breastfeed. Dean also helped A LOT by carrying him and walking him around everytime he started throwing tantrums. The nights are the most difficult but Dean helped by putting Daniel to sleep without me in sight (if I’m there, he cries so loud) so I think after a while Daniel got used to it. Now he can just walk past my boobs and go Meh. Kinda hurts my feelings sometimes.
I hear a lot of stories about moms trying all sorts of ways to stop breastfeeding. Putting salt on their boobs, putting ginger there, putting lemon.. even plastering their boobs! I didn’t resort to any of that because the thought of putting ginger there makes me go Ew, but if it works for you, then by all means. For me, I talked to Daniel A LOT and explained to him that he is now going to only drink milk from the bottle. Whether or not he understood, only he and God knows. But it sure did help calm him down whenever he’s crying while I stroked his head gently.
If you ask me if I miss breastfeeding, I’d say not really. The leaking, the engorgements, the buying-bras-two-cups-bigger, the breastfeeding in public… not so fun for me. Every mom I meet lovessss breastfeeding and I totally respect that, but I’m just being honest that I like my freedom haha. Definitely can’t be poster child for breastfeeding, this woman. BUT I do agree that if you can breastfeed, please do so and sacrifice your freedom because your child needs your milk. The pahala in breastfeeding, Masyaallah! So I made sure that I at least breastfed Daniel for a year. Now that he has a lot of teeth, adios amigo.
What I do miss, though, is the bonding time with Daniel. So I make sure I bond with him through other ways like dancing around with him, or kissing him all over, or tickling him, or his personal favorite; singing to him. *voice of an angel, guys… clears throat*
Daniel obviously loves bonding time with Mommy too!
Thank you for being such an understanding son and future big brother, my love.
P/S: Sorry if there’s too much boob talk here, peeps. But moms gotta know!
Enjoy the freedom V haha because soon it will start all over again. Hish jahatnya I. No! no I meant it jokingly. I do understand all that you’ve mentioned above. Breastfeeding to me is a love-hate relationship. I love that I breastfeed my baby and all that bond during the feeding while I stroke her hair, but sometimes when the baby wants to breastfeed during an inappropriate time, hmm that is the not so preferable feelings. All the leceh2 big boobs and baju has to have front zip are kind of leceh. Still I don’t have an excuse to stop hehehe, not pregnant. Have to continue hahaha:)
my baby stopped wanting direct feed at 3 months old cos she suckles really fast and direct feed doesnt do that so when we go out i can wear white tops or regular clothes! yeay! she prefers bottle teats all the way. i am fine with that cos it doesnt mean that i cant bond with her. i still get to do that when i feed her via bottle or when we have our quality time together. it’s just that i dont need to go thru the hassle of having to sarung a nursing cover whenever my baby wants a drink anytime, anywhere. hehe lucky me! 🙂
I stopped bfeeding my first child after i’ve discovered that im pregnant with mu 2nd one. She was 2years++ at that time. She cried whenever i refuse to bfeed her but luckily my mom helped me a lot. It was a freedom for a while but after i gave birth with my 2nd, the same story continues again and till now i still bfeed my 2nd one and she’s 1year 3months now. Anyway, congratulations on your 2nd pregnancy. All the best to you Vivy.
Haha. well for me, i prefer the convenience of bf. I dont have to sterilise bottles (just pump parts) and i dont have to lug around formulas, bottles, teats, air panas, air kosong etc.. what a hassle esp if you are travelling! Just put on my nursing cover and sumbat!
I love bf, love the bond and love the way she looks at me while bf. Alhamdullilah diberi rezeki utk bf.. (my baby is 14 months) love it! its gonna be so hard for me to wean her off later, not hard for her, for me! LOL.
i agree with dr mummy..hehehe.. 😀
i can picture in my mind how you are REALLY celebrating this. heehee…..im still breastfeeding too and really really really hoping that i get to do it until she’s 2 years old. i believe that susu ibu ialah hak anak yg wajib ditunaikan oleh seorang ibu yang mampu. despite that, i agree with dr_mummy, it is a love-hate relationship to me too. secretly, i cannot wait to wean her off completely when she’s 2yo. although…if im pregnant again then bye-bye freedom! see you after…..4 kids? bahahaha…..
that’s how I did it too! talk A LOT with them to make them understand.
Muka Daniel sangat comel and yeahhh he loves bonding time with you :p
Big brother la Daniel to be soon…
Sometimes (a LOT of times) I wish Dads had boobs.
I totally understand 🙂 I love breastfeeding but at the same time can’t wait to start weaning. I love the bonding time…the bite part, the nipple soreness, the pumping…not so much. I’m still breastfeeding my LO at 1y 9m. I’m going to miss the ‘styles’ of breastfeeding (the extreme one was when he would lunge from the headrest of our couch and help himself to my boobs upside down!). I love that when I go anywhere i dont have to bring formulas and hot water bottle. But like I said, can’t wait to wean!
i totally understand u. the moment my daughter stop bfeeding after 2 years bcoz i am pregnant again is a bliss. haha. both of us slept better too.
I’m still bfeeding by almost 2 yo son. Mostly during the nights. With less milk now my boobs are sagging n shrinking n not a nice sight at all. *sigh*
Haha.. Kak Vivy, you’re so funny.. Can’t wait for the next update.. Start to know you from mahligai cinta if I’m not mistaken..
I on the other hand doesnt have the privillage to bf my 2nd baby due to his cleft. Ive have to expressed and feed him though tube. It wasnt easy but experience tought me to be gratefull for everything in your life.
Hello vy, congratulation on the weaning off! totally agree with dr mummy, it is a love-hate relationship. I am still breastfeeding my 2nd baby at 1yo though da mixed with formula milk (so, no pressure actually) simply because I want to keep that bonding time with my baby. aaahh..the way she looks at me.
And I did the SAME EXACT ways you did to wean off Daniel with my 1st son (because of 2nd pregnancy). I talk with my son a lot, tell him about the lil sister coming out, and hubby plays a huge role to put my son into sleep while at night. Alhamdulillah I dont have to go through putting all sort of myth to wean off my a bf-baby =)
Take care, vy
I love breastfeeding too.. I do prepare formula milk, water, hot water bottle each time I go out/ travel.. However I find it quite difficult for me to prepare it while my baby is crying out loud.. So I always give her direct feed and its quite simple.. I even don’t use nursing cover, I just use my shawl to cover it up.. But surely I use suitable and nursing friendly clothes if I bring her out.. The things I can’t wait to stop breastfeed is I want to diet.. hee.. Its true that bf can make u easily lose ur weight however its quite difficult for u to diet.. I normally drink a lot of malt/ milk and eat anything that is called milk booster foods.. 🙂
Breastfeeding IS a struggle. The reason why we mommies get so much pahala from it. Not sharing with daddy NO
my 1st born is 5y 6m .. that is how long ive been bf-ing.. paused sekejap when I was pregnant with my 2nd for 5 month and my 3rd for another 5 month but now tandem bf my 2yo and my 4mo baby… I love it. but cant wait to be done.. 20 more month to go..
enjoy your freedom!
Background of this photo is ‘breathtaking’ :/