life got real
November 16, 2014Someone I’m close to is having a real adult dilemma and she has to make a choice that will affect other areas in her life and her future. When she told me, I looked up from my phone to think about it more and tried to analyze the situation objectively. I just couldn’t. It was just blank in my brain. It was really hard. This was just one of those things where you wish there was a life manual or a clear sign in the sky saying YES or NO. I really didn’t know what to type because I had no idea what to do either.
It really made me think a bit more about life and how grown up we all have become. Reading my previous posts back when I was in uni made me smile, reminiscing about how my biggest worries were what dessert to eat that day or which route to take home from school. Back then, the “hard” decisions could easily be answered by shaking a Magic 8 ball furiously. Now, life is just so serious; which business deal to take, how to pay home mortgages, how to raise your children, which career path do I take, is it ok to bring my family to start life in another country, all such big commitments especially if you have dependents under you like your wife and children… when did life get so REAL??
I don’t see this in a negative light though because well, (a) it’s part of growing up, and (b) we’ve all had our carefree fun days so we’ve had our fair share of fun. Now let’s have real challenges in life. I personally think there is no right or wrong answer and the more you think about it, the crazier you will become when trying to reason out too much. There are pros and cons to everything in life, and in everything you do there are risks and opportunity costs. We just have to decide (after some research and homework of course, please don’t blindly make adult decisions based purely on the heart), and when we do, never look back. There will be ups and downs in whatever you do, so don’t kick yourself in the head thinking that the other path not taken was the right one. Because had you taken that path, there will still be ups and downs too.
Love life, and make the best of everything that comes your way. Life is short, so it’s up to us to turn everything into a positive thing. YOLO, to a certain extent, I guess. Hehe.
As for this close person of mine, I pray that God gives her strength and happiness to go through anything that comes her way, whatever decision she makes. That’s the best thing a friend can do in these kinds of tricky situation; make doa for their happiness, always.
Inspirasi di pagi Isnin. Thanks, Vivy! Saya selalu fikir saya dah pilih jalan yang salah. Dan selalu merasakan, saya perlu patah balik ke masa lalu untuk pilih semula ‘the road not taken’. Tapi macam yang Vivy cakap, apa jalan pun yang kita pilih, ada pro dan kontra. ๐
semoga dipermudahkan.. sometimes we have to go thru a hard way.. walau apa pun.. “Allah tidak memberi ujian diluar kemampuan kita”..
And in every decision you take which you are unsure of, also do Sembahyang Istikharah. Tawakkal to Allah and pray Allah will guide us to make the decision which will benefit us not only in this world but importantly, also in the Akhirat.
A nice post indeed.. Thanks for sharing those thoughts. Yes, really… Sometimes at one point you’ll just realize ohh this is too hard. And there’s no guide what to do… And yes thinking too much of the pros and cons sometimes drive us crazy. So many decisions to make. I think the best thing is just to pray. Allah knows whats best.
Assalamualaikum w.b.t;
Semoga kita sentiasa mendapat petunjuk & hidayah dari ALLAH SWT. Tetaplah bersolat & bersabar. Semoga bahagia sentiasa milik kita, disini & disana….
Well said. I’m thinking about it myself. the real problems. Anyway, it’s been a while since you put something that isn’t about daniels, or your cloths (not that I dont love to read it) but this entry is about your pure thoughts on one perspective. Such an inspiration for me and it helps. ๐ so thank you..
Did life just got real for you? Life got real for me the moment my husband and I intended to get married and we used our own money that we saved throughout law school to pay for our own wedding at 26. And we managed to purchase a landed house by the age of 27. Without any deposit from any of our parents. And I did my pantang on my first child on my own. Well at least you had the realisation that life just got real; which you have it going for you. Welcome to the real world, kid.