what if

November 22, 2014

My dad never lets us buy greeting cards. To him, it’s more meaningful to make one for your loved ones and I completely agree. It’s not just the effort, but it’s also really fun when you look at your memories and you compose words from the heart. He probably thought it was cheaper to ask your kids to draw you a simple card (Hallmark cards were like 15 bucks back then, still a lot of money!) but little did he know that scrapbooking is soooo expensive. One sheet of stickers is like 40 bucks. What someone should’ve told him was the existence of virtual e-cards. Haha. Free!

Anyway, in all seriousness I really appreciate this value that my dad imposed on my sister and I. I can’t wait till Daniel and Baby M grow up and the cards I’ll be getting from them. I will have to practise my fake “This is the most gorgeous card I have ever seen, you guys are so talented!” expression when they give me cards with scribbles of crayons on them.

I was spring cleaning today and found this.

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A scrapbook I made for Dean for our 3 year anniversary. I had graduated and returned home to Malaysia, while Dean had one more year to complete his Masters. So a combination of long-distance-sappiness, having-too-much-time and Brian McKnight songs on the radio, I produced this 16-page thing, complete with its own metal tin box.

I smile looking at it now, but at the back of my head, a question played.

“What if we didn’t end up getting married?!”

If we didn’t end up together, I would feel soooo stupid if my husband or his wife saw that! It would have been a total waste of effort and time, and like 20 sheets of RM 40 stickers. -___- Sooo phewwww we ended up marrying each other. If we didn’t, I’d be kicking myself in the head for being so foolish as a young girl.

I know a lot of young girls read Proudduck, so if you guys read this, take this advice from me: Give your best effort to your husband, not your boyfriend. Be a little stingy with your love and focus on your parents at this point, because nothing is a sure thing except for them. You’ll have all the time in the world to be sweet and romantic with your husband later on.