aiyaiyai….
February 21, 2015
First of all, please let me clarify that I don’t hate this person writing it.
I’m quite grateful that I was never the type to get upset over negative comments, even from the start of my blogging days. Cos honest to God, I always take the good from it to improve myself. And the bad and plain nasty bits, I just disregard quite easily because I know it’s not about me anymore. It’s probably because the “hater” has areas in her own life she is unhappy about so seeing others happy might be hard to see. If this ever happens to you, I’m telling you… don’t let it get to you. Because it’s about the person’s character and it’s her own battle already, not yours. I mean, look at this comment; using zikir and giving Islamic advice, in the same paragraph she uses the the F word. Any sane person would realise the anger and bitterness in this piece of advice, that instead of being annoyed at her, I actually made doa that God softens her heart to throw away hatred towards others. I mean, she writes all that and will probably continue to be angry for the rest of the night throwing imaginary darts to my pictures. While I read this comment, show my husband, shake our heads and then go to the kitchen to make dinner together as our lives still have to go on.
I wouldn’t usually blog about this but just a few days ago, this kind of hatred also happened to one of my friends. And I’m hearing so much of this women hating other women issue that I felt the need to voice out how I feel about it. I know a lot of young women read Proudduck and I just want to give you a piece of advice.
Try to be sincerely happy for others.
And not the “Oh I’m so happy for you” but inside you’re thinking “Why you and not me?” kind of fake happy. These girls are worse than the ones who tell you straight up that they hate you. Because the hypocrisy and silent hatred towards you whilst being your friend, you will never know.
Wish for people’s happiness and goodness, because when you do that, God will give you the same, if not more. If not in this life, God will reward you in the afterlife. Toots and Asma’ always tell me that if you make good doa for others, the angels will make the same doa for you. Just have faith. I know that emotion is a very difficult thing to control, but everytime you see someone getting married or getting a new house or getting an award or anything at all that you want for yourself… breathe and remind yourself that Rezeki has already been written and everyone’s lives’ ups and downs are different. Everyone has goodness and badness in their lives, it’s just whether they choose to tell you or not. So don’t let social media control your life. Enjoy social media, but don’t take it too seriously! Just chilllllll…
Remember that life is not a competition between you and that girl or anything. We all want to go to one place in the end, and all of us can go there together! There’s room for everyone there so stop the hating and let’s wish only good things for one another. The more we love each other for the sake of Allah swt, the more at peace we become and best of all, Allah swt acknowledges it! And that’s all that matters in the end.
Of course, some of you will say “Ala cakap nama Allah swt tapi pakai seluar ketat jugak.”
These kind of people will always strive to find a bad in others. They’re the kind of people who will always be bitter about your success or happiness, no matter what you do. You breathe also, they want to slap you. Hehe. The kind of people who will see you get something and find 10 reasons why you never deserved it. –> Please don’t be one of these people because (a) you get free dosa (b) that person freely gets your pahala and (c) you will never be happy or peaceful, and unfortunately it has no impact on that person’s life.
If you really feel that way, what you should do instead is to make doa for that person. That way, (a) you get pahala (b) the person might get hidayah to improve, from your sincere doa and (c) the world becomes a place of love and not hate.
Think about it.
Why do women love to hate other women?
It’s honestly a waste of time and it would be so much better to purify our hearts to be happy for each other instead. If you hate on someone because they’re rich, there are thousands of people richer than them. If you hate on someone because they’re pretty, there are thousands of people prettier than them. Are you supposed to hate all those people too? Won’t that be too tiring?
And for anyone else in my position receiving the negativity, always always be patient, keep your cool and forgive with a sincere heart. But never think you’re always right so open your heart to listen and improve yourself. God will reward you abundantly, Insyaallah. And that’s a million times more awesome than anything you can get in this world.
Ahhh Vivy, always so wise! Thank you for this!
Salaam vivy,
One of the thing i find amazing about you, ( and maybe sthg i need to learn myself) is your ‘cool’ness handling your haters. Because putting myself in your shoe, i would end up feeling sad, and hating the person who wrote this.
This entry of yours need to be read by as many women as possible, as this is a great piece of ‘muhasabah’ for us.
Thanks for this vivy, You are much younger than me, but your maturity and experiences in life are far ahead of me. I pray that you continue to be blessed with good life and health, and keep writing for us.
#cant wait to see BabyM!
aiyaiyai..content and very cool. keep it going lady π i mean you vivy !
Salam Vivy.
I adore you and I wish the best for you and your family (can’t wait to see baby M!!)
I love how you always try to see things positively, and I hope we can all take these comments as constructive ones and try improve ourselves, like trying to cover our aurahs properly ( we have to niat and start, slowly but surely. In syaa Allah!)
I do think you need to check about the use of ‘Azim’ though. Of course, I MAY BE WRONG but I think I have read somewhere before that nama-nama Allah s.w.t. can only be used with ‘Abdul’ in the front. Like I said, I may be wrong. So please check with someone of more knowledge.
May Allah s.w.t. ease your delivery and I pray that we will all masuk Syurga TOGETHER!
In syaa Allah.
Betul betul….Orang yg ada penyakit SMS (senang melihat orang susah/susah melihat orang senang) ni, will never find peace in his or her life. Always keeping scores with others. I will always ignore these people because I know they have pathetic life. Macam kasian pulak kat dia orang….
Dont stop uploading all the hermes and dior. Im looking forward to see them. Hehe the lady is just jealous.
Pahlawan Kepulauan Papan Kekunci as I’ve always called them.
Dia macam ada masalah perasaan yang sangat serius. Saya doakan yang baik2 sahaja buat kamu berdua.
How we muslims will ever reach glory if there is hatred among ourselves, especially in this time when we need to be united more than ever. Reading me makes me very sad of our state of ummah. I doubt she gives this comment to change you…
we need to stop with ‘don’t say Allah when you wear…’ type of comment. This is very harmful. Oh yes maybe we are still not perfect in covering our aurah, but nobody is sure about their future. I hope in the future our ummah will be the type which encourage each other towards good with wisdom. And seriously be happy for others please! How pity that all her effort of creating fake identity and commenting will be flying out od the window, dUCK scarves will continue to grow with Allah’s will.
P/s: I cant help but imagine her face watching your episode of Raikan Cinta. She must had waited for your episode and watching it with envy her face must be scrunched up and menyala2!
Agree with Amiera..
Reading that comment really makes me sad..
Imagine if she’s a person that has a deep knowledge in Islam,wears a scarf that covers the chest,wears hand socks and stocking,but has that kind of email address?? She’s giving a really bad impression to other real and sincere ustazah out there…ya Allah..
May Allah forgives us all,if not lead us to be a better person..
Take care Vivy…if i were u, I’d be so blessed right now coz i know so many ppl are sincerely praying for your health and happy life..
Kita bukan Tuhan untuk menilai baik atau buruk manusia lain.
Kita adalah manusia yang sentiasa lupa meningati Tuhan.
Tetapi Tuhan tak pernah lupa dengan manusia.
With regard to the “cakap macam ustazah tapi aurat pun belum cover betul betul” remarks, I think it’s important that we acknowledge the struggle everyone is going through. Someone might have found her inner peace & tranquility in knowing/getting closer to Allah, but at the same time still struggling to cover herself properly. Similar to those who’ve been properly dressed all this while, for all we know they might have an inner struggle to refrain from gossiping about others. Well, contohnya lahh π Point is, we have no idea what everyone else is struggling with, we might as well doakan Allah make ease for their affairs.
For all we know, the person above might be going through a rough patch in her life that none of us could ever imagine, so the best thing to do is pray that Allah make it easy for her, that she be given the guidance she might be have been missing.
And given your response, I think you’ve inspired many of us, Vivy. Alhamdulillah π
Constant negativity will impact your bank of positivity.
When you encounter these kind of people, you’d end up wondering how they’ve reached such stage of toxicity and rather than praying for the best for others or take others’ success as inspiration to strive for the same or achieve more, it’s easier and takes less effort to demean the other’s positive efforts and hardwork. Regardless of your background being senang or susah, Allah, you and those close around you all know you’ve worked hard. You are not responsible for how the other person reacts to your success. Don’t let such people deflate your mood. Don’t allow people to make you feel guilty of your rezeki and blessings.
I’m happy that you have become one of our local fashion icons as well as an idol for Malaysian girls to follow. Study hard and word hard to get what you want. Your postings are positive, full of humour and love. Take care Vivy and family and keep on writing! Muaaks… π
i also find out that something is wrong with the ‘hater”s comment. mentioning everything in islam perspective, but at the same time full with hatred and vulgar words. it is absolutely against islam’s teaching. this kind of comment will give a false interpretation towards islam & muslims. wherever she is right now, i hope she would realize that this is not the right way to express her dissatisfaction. once a word is expressed, then it can’t be taken back. so speak wisely. π
Sigh, people. I still love you Vivy! π
salam vivy,
Terbeliak mata I reading the hater’s words. First thought, kesian dia and you are right kita doakan utk dia whilst also see where we can improve. But her words on you susah nak deliver tu is a tad too mean if you ask me.
well cant please em all. Take care.
rosma
Viv, Doakan dia murah rezeki, semurah rezeki you π
You handled the issue with grace, Vivy. I don’t know how we would handle it if we were in your situation. Take care and can’t wait to see baby M! π
I love you vivy! only Allah knows how you have inspired me π Can’t wait to see baby M!
don’t worry about haters because haters are people who hate the one the can’t be
Great feedback Vivy..May Allah give guidance to those who have negativity..& for us with all the positiveness, inshaAllah may Allah always give us Hidayah & Taufik to istiqamah kepadaNya..inshaAllah..Amin..
It is so sad when people use ‘Agama’ as a way to degrading others. Tu belum kira ‘fitnah’ yang dia boleh beri pada Islam. Islam asks us to be good to others. Kalau ye pun nak berdakwah/beri teguran, biarla ‘berdakwah dgn penuh hikmah’. Malu i baca komen this lady… tak mencerminkan akhlak muslimah langsung…
Smg Allah terus beri kekuatn for u Vivy, and semoga Allah berikan hidayah untuk kita semua supaya menjadi hambaNya yang lebih baik.
Vivy dear. I dont want to comment much coz others have voiced it out.
But please please please correct her grammar. theeeheheheee..
I will just pray Insya Allah u senang nak bersalin π Can’t wait to see baby M!!!!
Vivy,
WELL SAID! VERY VERY well said!
Salam Vivy and family,
Keep going with your good work and continuous growth in faith. Bravo!
May Allah swt Heal and Guide those haters out there, and keep them away from you and family. Amin.
Upholding you and baby M in prayers too!.
That post was quite inappropriate -.- but nevertheless, may Allah bless her & guide her as well for us. I totally agree with you, vivy. Women should never throwing hates to each other. This is what every women should see. Keep doing whats the best for you, Vivy! All the best π
Salam kak vivy,
you’re still my idol now and forever.and please continue inspiring us with your success. hater gonna hate.
semoga selamat bersalin dan dipermudhkan semuanya.can’t wait to see babyM too.
mesti masa mula2 u baca her comment, u dah sakit mata kan? full of grammatical error! haha. so kesian people like this. using religion to degrade others. and in the same paragraph, using the harsh word. sick. jealous lah kot her life is so sedih.
i love you, Vivy. u inspired me in so many ways. May Allah ease your delivery ok? InsyaAllah
Thank you SO much for this post. It’s SO important for us women (and men, too!) to be sincerely happy for others. Bitterness is so destructive. Islam teaches us that rezeki is given by Allah so no need to be envious. If we are grateful, we get given more. May Allah protect you and your growing family from negativity, Vivy. Will keep you in my doas!! <3
Vivy, I LOVE YOU
I really adore you, Vivy.. I’m now pregnant 8 months and I really love reading you blog…
Hi Vivy!
Bless you and babyM, also Daniel and daddy π I know you wont be affected by the haters and you could handle them with coolness (yayy!) so dont let them affect your life. Kesian pulak dekat that woman…after typing that comment and go to sleep she must feel a big grudge in her heart. Wonder how she could sleep at night. And the fact that she make an e-mail with your name and know everything about u indicate that she must be stalking you from a long time haha π
Anyhow, may Allah give her hidayah and rahmat sekalian alam so that she would feel peaceful and grateful for what she had.
And for you, keep being cool and fabulous! :*
Firsly, a good person, wont put His name in the same line/sentence with those cursing words.
Secondly, if she is a well-educated person she wont use Agama in the argument.. Such a typical strategy these days
You’re so inspiring, Vivy. I always adore your beautiful soul, may Allah bless you and your life. Well, thats how life works, not everybody will like who we are. If we dont even do anything relate to those people, they still find a way to let us down. Just be strong, cause you definitely are! Spread the love aiyaiyai π
*** HUGSSSSS ***
Love you Vivy <3
Errr apa Masalah dia?
Well said Kak Vivy. Watching you in Raikan Wanita, I know you couldn’t care less about your haters. Let them be. And you, you will strive to be a better muslimah. I know. Can’t wait for baby M. May Allah grant you smooth and safe delivery. π
On a lighter note, keep em’ Dior and Hermes coming. We are all excited to see your collection. π
Hugs.
Vivy..we still adore you very much..i hope u didnt take the nasty comments to your heart and please never stop being you..cuz you are such an inspiring person!
I have been your loyal blog reader since 2012 but never once did i ever commented in any of your posts. I just want to say that i love you and keep on doing amazing things in your life. The haters secretly wish to be you tbh. Keep on rocking kak vivy <3 XOXO
Well said Vivy, well said!
First baca that thing mmg sangat sedih even bukan utk diri sendiri. Youre good V. Keep it up. Allah bless you insyaallah.
I hope that commenter doesn’t breed. She’d be doing the world a huge favour.
My husband always asked y i keep on stalking u on my ig. I told him that ur character and ur success are so inspiring. Your most impacted blog post to me was the story u came out on how u started ur duckscarves. When i read it i know it will become a success. The marketing strategy n all are well planned. Keep up inspiring us like u normally do. Ignore those morons ok? Pray ur smooth delivery for baby m. Btw both our sons names are daniel. Mine is 2 months older than yours. π
i’ll be honest, I may had or may not hating this one person for a long time. I stalked her for a very long time.. (not you) but then I realized , its hurting me more than I ever done any harm to her. It can be something that you can get easily obsessed with. to bothers about someone else rather than facing the fact that you are only human. you cant beat anyone. you can only improves yourself by just criticizing no one else but you. It’s true, it was my own struggle and when I get through it. I was afraid but I open my heart and leave it to god. But this will never happened if she never had done something bad at me. So what ive learnt is to forgive, let it go, and embrace every fact and hardship to get through it. I did it. yey… so thank you… this is such a good reminder for all of us to better ourselves.
p.s this entry does remind me of your old entries, you were very sincere with what you want to say. π
Dear Vivy,
Life is too short to worry over unimportant things such as haters. Keep doing what you are doing and most of all keep the Chanel and Manolos coming because I know I’m excited everytime I see them:)
Safe and smooth delivery dear Inshallah xoxo
I hate the way that person put a rich person shouldnt deserve success because they are rich to begin with. Success belongs to people who was poor…
How can that be when clearly Allah promised everyone rezeki?
well said vivy. love to read about u and your success. your words really inspired . hope all hater di beri hidayah
Whatever personal issues this lady is having, she needs help. A sane person wouldn’t write such things. She’s totally sick. I hope she gets all the help she can get. I pray Allah swt protects vivy and her family. Amin..
Vivy i always loveeee to read ur blog because of ur positivity and perspective u have.. it inspire me so much!! whenever i feel senang i always take a step back and be grateful just like what u always remind us!
So im sure i dont have to tell you tak payah layan org sakit mental mcm tu.. i cant find the good in anything she said even bout the names.. its ridiculous.
If she so good and purposeful in her life..where she got time to read ur blog and know all about ur life? Rasa mcm nk ludah je kat dia but no.. i will take ur advice and doakan semoga dilembutkan hati dia and moga dosa dia diampunkan tuhan..aminn
(See vivy how u bring good in others?)
I have to agree with the comment above, Marissa Irdina is a sick person. By reading her words, you can conclude that she has lots of issues. So, Vivy eventhough you already kniw this, it is not you but she who has problems.
I have never met a pious and knowledgeable person who curses so many time in a sentence, let alone even say atleast a curse. (shake heads). Nama tak seindah perangai.
She even has email address that badly name after you, vivy..she is very sick person..may Allah have mercy on us all.
I’m getting the impression that, this ‘Marissa irdina’ is either bipolar or a really disturbed person. In shaa Allah, the Almighty will give her the taufiq and hidayah and have mercy on her.
May Allah bless your soul. You have a good heart and everything is good comes from God. Take care Vivy π
Can’t help but grimace after reading the post, I can’t imagine being in the receiving end of all that negativity vivy. May Allah softens her heart and realise that words do hurt especially when she makes it personal and involves your children. But it’s amazing something that negative can be turned into a life lesson just like that. it’s really time to sit and reflect on our behaviour. Stay strong vivy!
This is why i adore you so much vivy. Boleh je dia tak setuju in a good way janganlah sampai cakap buruk about your pregnancy. And tiba-tiba libatkan Daniel just because dia tak setuju with your donation statement.
Hope this person will find peace in her life. And vivy, hope you have a smooth delivery soon Insyaallah.
of course what this girl did is bad. but i think you really are contradicting yourself here, if you really don’t care and cant be bothered by this, you should just let it be rather than making one single post just on this girl’s nasty comment. Yes what she wrote is nasty but you’re being a hypocrite here , making one single post just on her comment using the “i’m a holier than all of you ” sentiment and u know you would have all your crazy fans backing you up and attacking her back and singing praises to you.
This, i think is your way of attacking her back, using the oh i’m not bothered please turn to Allah , and getting all your fans to attack her and singing praises to you … like really?
if you really dont care or cant be bothered about negative comments, dont bother making a whole post about it. i thought you were smarter than this, you’re just same, same objective different kind of execution.
and oh btw, if you really take something good out of it to improve yourself, perhaps you could stop showing off a little, no im not jeolous here (before you start using that against me) but i see her point , i know a lot of people who could afford more than you do but dont announce it to the world or keep snapping pics of their designers’ stuff. have a few seconds to ponder at yourself. i’d like to believe that you’re really as good as you keep describing and potraying yourself to be.
Kesian cik marissa irdina ni, maybe dia bukan dalam keadaan sedar masa tulis ni (bersangka baik).
Vivy, be strong and don’t stop writing and update your ig as we always waiting to read and likes it. Tak pernah rasa apa yang U post as riak @ menunjuk, happy jer baca walaupun kadang2 impressed tgok U cantik sgt & wlupun businesswoman still U can do jokes yg boleh buat orang gelak. No wonder people likes U.
Have a safe delivery and take care, Insyallah.
aiyayayai.
Never in my intention to post any comment in your blog.
I just enjoy reading it as somehow it I am inspired.
But this post.. hmmmm…..
U doing great girl!
May god grant us Jannah and guide us to be a better person.
Keep it up vy!
Dear Marissa Irdina
You may work hard and smart if you want to earn Hermes or designer handbags.
It seem you have time to write hatred emails so I can see you also can create blogshop.
To your happiness and success!
Woah reading this comment here. Idk mann if some of uguys didnt like what vivy do, then just go rather than being here throwing such hates. We all are just hamba Allah & none of us are perfect. So why bother? I think vivy has put such a good message here, and whatever her intentions is, dont question that. No one knows that, dont make such speculation, unless u boleh baca hati & fikiran org lol. Plus, is there a picture or any details bout that girl ? No right? I’m not trying to winning an argument here or what,i understand maybe u’re kinda disappointed, but what i can say is, we all pun tak sempurna knp nak pertikaikan apa yg org buat. Sorry, if this sounds rude btw.
Hi Lina,
Just to clarify I never said I don’t care about negative comments! On the contrary, I think everyone SHOULD care and take the good from it to improve yourself. I have stated that clearly in my blogpost. I am not trying to badmouth her (or attack her) because her identity is still protected (I’m sure you’re smarter than that to think Marissa Irdina is her real name???). I am simply looking at the bigger picture and addressing the women-hating-other-women issue that we are having now which I think is a worrying thing because women will continue to backstab one another.
Noted on the criticism on the material things, will definitely see that as something I need to improve on and that’s exactly what I meant in my last paragraph if you bothered to read it. My ootds and flatlays are usually to promote brands from FV. So if there’s anything beyond that that you felt was offensive, I apologise.
As for you, I would also advise to just look at things in a good light and not always think bad of others.
V.
Vivy, I always believe we perceive things be it good or bad base on out state of mind. if we’re enveloped in negativity, everything a person does will be perceived negatively.
And Lina, I came from the same private school vivy was from. my family is not rich like most of the kids that I went to school with. they would be clad with their luxurious hangbags etc and talk about all this luxury brands like Bottega Venetta and simple me would thing it’s an expensive type of cheese. I wouldn’t say they’re boasting or bragging. they’re born in that lifestyle so I dont blame them for talking about it like its nothing out of the ordinary.
just gotta look at things positively. too much hating in this world.
Sorry, a bit late to the table, didn’t get Vivy’s call to all her fans to attack Marissa Irdina and sing praises to Vivy .. As suggested by Lina in her comment. Bahaha.
Out of 20 photos Vivy posts on IG, maybe one is a photo of a handbag or shoes or designer goods. Why focus on that, when the other 19 are about Daniel (everyone with a toddler does that, plus we all just can’t get enough of Daniel!) or selfies (everyone with a smartphone does that!) or about FV (it’s her company and she’s the MD!) Why focus on the negative, which isn’t really there to begin with?
Don’t be someone who sees a whiteboard, spots a speck of black marker, starts shouting about it and ignores the entire white space available. Or in Vivy’s words, you breathe also, they want to slap you. Aiyayaii. May peace be with Lina and Marissa wherever they are. Godspeed!
Why oh why i had this feeling that lina and marissa irdina is d same person
kalau x pun org yg dlm kategori yg sama la..
bagitahu kita mkn kfc dkt org yg makan maggi pun blh dikatakan menunjuk2 tp siapa yg tahu niat kita melainkan Allah sbb bg kita mkn kfc tu bende biasa
sama juga dgn vivy..dia dibesarkan dgn persekitaran mcm tu so nama2 mcm hermes n dior tu benda biasa bg dia..kalau x suka x pyh baca drpd baca dan sakit hati pdhal org tu xde niat apa2 pun
I dont think Lina and Marissa Irdina are the same person. Their grammar are soo at different level haha but i can confirm they are the same species haha. Just go away ok.. read other blogs that are more humble and more ur level if u like. Sheesh
I dont know why i kept on refreshing the comments but i have to admit that i feel a bit protective towards u vivy..hahahaha take care ok. Hugs. Btw i reassemble my clothes during pantang to isi masa.. u know.. just sit,lipat and sort things. Very satisfying…
dear vivy, i know its hard to have all these lingering around you but stay strong ok? Well, i’m sure you will. take care !
xxx
Keep calm and just smile, V! There maybe many of them hate you, curse you and will always talk nasty about you. But believe in Allah and believe in yourself, that there are many more would pray the best thing for you, proud of you and happy for you. Just smile. Smile and smile more! I LOVE YOU. WE LOVE YOU
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XOXO
Btol. Be positive please and insyaallah akan murah rezeki mcm vivy jgk! I know, cause I’ve been negative before, sume bnde pon nk jeles. Suddenly dpt hidayah and alhamdulillah makin murah rezeki. And rezeki bukan material je, other areas as well.
dear vivy,
after all these hating comments from no-brainer females who got nothing but sad life to compare it to others, I hope u wont change just to satisfy minority. YOU are such an inspiration to me, watching u transform from one level to another, in personality, awesome career, love life and family, your fabulous life makes me wants to work hard on my passion in my own way just to taste the sweet nectar of success! please do not do things to please haters, because I can see a lot of great woman out there become secluded, retrieve to their cocoon n keep every great stories to themselves, just because they are afraid that they will be sinned for telling people too much. our ig is like our home, so we get to post anything near n dear to our heart. some people have this ‘penyakit hati’ that they cant get out of, always see things in negative way. pleeease don’t change vivy. please continue inspiring me and thousands others!
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives; Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and true enemies; Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best youβve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway.ο»Ώ
Astaghfirullah
I am kinda surprise with the post of that sick girl … Whats wrong with her actually ? But its okay Vivy, as long as you have a very good heart, it shouldn’t be a big deal. Am I right ? I’m not going to say I’m a good person, I may not wearing proper hijab but I did cover my head, I did my solah and also I did recite the Quran. But it doesn’t make us as a bad person as if we already know what we are doing. Masya Allah for her jealousy, I never blame anyone but the hatred should just been thrown away from ourself. But its okay Vivy, I’m with your side. May Allah bless each of us and give us the light for better later. Insha Allah π
Hi Vivy,
I love u even more after watched your Raikan Wanita..
u are so inspiring.. love u, take care..
Assalamualaikum..
We all are not perfect.. sometimes people tends to bring up all our weaknesses, and take us down, rather than to focus on what we can do together as the true muslimah community.. It hard to please everybody. Like you said, ignore.. and may Allah soften her heart, rather than being annoyed with other people’s life, and focus to make her life better.
About you flaunt your stuff and hijab covering, I didn’t see much on you bragging with your stuff,except of you promoting your fv stuff. But then, maybe the way people interpret it. Its really hard to please everybody.
Hijab covering, we all still in the process of learning. You have made 1 step closer by covering it. But it is your call to stay in the path, and make it more acceptable to Allah SWT. Insyallah you will be at the safe side.
p/s: the fact that she has some account gmail just to piss u off really amazed me..
nowadays, jealousy is everywhere. so, if nak selamat from bad words, just don’t post pics yang terlalu revealing sangat ok. nanti org jealous and will start to say something bad about you which eventually will lead to something else… peace.
Assalamualaikum Vivy,
I’d like to take this opportunity to share these particular ayahs from my Tafseer class.
Surah 49, Ayah 11 to 13. It is already mentioned in the Quran that “perhaps, that other person is better than you”. Be mindful that Allah SWT knows everything, so it is quite impossible to think that Allah SWT would be suggesting that, “perhaps” that other person is better than you. Scholars believe that this is just another example of ‘eloquence’ in the Quran. You can have a look at the tafseer of these 3 ayahs, more or less, it is related to this current situation.
MashaAllah you have said it just right to these women who are hating on other women. I could have not done it any better. I can never understand why this is so prominent in us, women (much less in men). Too much negativity and jealousy. And yet some still wonder why it is so difficult to achieve contentment and happiness. If only they knew that Allah SWT has blessed them more than they deserve, Subhanallah.
Vivy, to be safe maybe u should consider making a police report. Rasanya ini bukan pertama kali dia tulis negatif comment macam tu kan? Cuba tgk email address dia tu, specially created just to show her hatred towards you. Bayangkan kalau dia jumpa u in person?? Apa agaknya dia akan buat?? Nauzubillah.
Vivy,
Good for you that you are taking the high road on this. Hope this doesn’t get to you as you have much, much more important things (like birthing a human being very soon) to focus on. Wishing that you are endlessly surrounded by positivity and love.
Marissa Irdina,
Wowza girl, not many can curse and put holy names in the same sentence. Take it easy on the cursing. Don’t let Vivy’s privileged life intimidate you so much. If it is, the healthier way is to not follow her updates. Stop the mental torture and follow someone/something else who can make you happy.
If you dont agree with her, move on. If you really must say your piece, which Vivy has listened to, of which I dont think you deserve, please be a little kind. Trust that the other person is doing their best with the most sincere intention. Life is really too short to be spent on hating someone that much and second-guessing their intention. Spend that energy on making your own life better. Be happy!
No matter what ,we still luv u vivy.i pray for ur smooth delivery & may Allah always protect all of us.takmo dengki2 like that , tak best lah π
FAD
Could it be that she secretly adores you? and is doing all this to get your attention? I mean why else would she be following your IG and blog if she hate you so much? unfollow je lah kan?? hehehe take care Vivy and may you have a safe delivery….
I just don’t get it when there is people hate us, then wanna stalk lg ke? obviously she is sbb sampai nak pertikaikan everything about u. Just unfollow u then get a life la women.
you are one of my idol, mainly because u do what the best u can do. u anak org kaya, then u follow your dad’s entrepreneurship. bukan berjoli sakan and tak tau nak jd apa. u think its time to cover your hair, then u cover it. kene jadi ustazah dulu ke baru boleh cakap pasal islam and iman? sabar Vivy. u have to deal more haters after this since u akan lebih successful in future hehehe.
i respect the way you responded to this negative-type of people and i agree with every single words that you’ve said. May Allah bless all of us to be a better person every single day. By the way just to let you know..I’ve always find reading your blog very inspiring and funny. Sometimes your simple ‘bersahaja’ blog feels as if im talking with you in person. May Allah bless you vivy and didoakan semoga delivery baby M will runs smoothly..
v, u know what? Not everyone can be as successful as you at a very young age. Do expect some more haters in the years to come, ignore them anyway. Please continue inspiring us, just dont stop. God bless you v π
Nope! Lina and marissa can’t be the same person because marissa’s grammar is terrible. Bahahaha.
u r so inspiring vivy…..
semoga Allah s.w.t merahmati hidup u and family and us also…
smile…
Aiyaiyai… the women has issues. Good on you in being calm and collected, Vivy! If it was me, I might have freaked out. Lagi2 bila my son’s name is mentioned as well. After freak out that be calm. Bahaha..
There are too many ppl with hatred these days. Ramai berperasaan hasad dengki and then throw fitnah sesuka hati. The best we can do is pray that orang2 ni dilembu kan hati. Oooppss.. I mean dilembutkan hati dan bertaubat.
Much love from your fan who keeps checking your blog and IG to see your updates.
im not kind of yang tinggalkan komen dkt blog orang. but i really cannot accept :NO WONDER U SUSAH BERSALIN….astaghfirullahalazim…
May Allah protect her heart and soul. Amin
Great advice Vivy!
Salam Vivy π
I see the whole point of you writing this post. Thank you very much for the gentle reminder. We human beings will always feel ‘dengki’ toward others, especially “bila tengok orang tu mempunya harta lebih dari kita”. This is why we all should go back to basic and feel grateful. i admire your strength to ignore these hateful comments. May Allah SWT continue to give you strength to get through this. Good luck with delivering Baby M. Semoga semuanya selamat, insyaAllah.
WE LOVE YOUUUUU FOREVER AND EVER VIVYYYYYY. Who cares about what she thinks about you. You’re not here to please her or anyone. So adios amigos chicka. Good write up, Vivy. x
Hi vivy , go and report @ SKMM !!!! totally cannot accept .. !
1. This is why i dont read the comments section. Ig ke, fb ke, blogs ke. But then ur own blog kene la baca kan.haha.
2. I know u said at the comment above kat lina tu u take note on the designer stuff tu but please!!!! Dont stop posting pictures of ur designer stuff..I think most of us see the bag rather than the brand if u understand what im saying.. I like ur styling.. Tak ramai fashion blogger kat malaysia ni with real talent in styling or maybe tak kene with my taste.. But i really do like urs π
3. Lina, come on. Chill ok. Ig,fb,blogs are only like 20% of someones life..dont be too serious lah..
4. Wish u all the best vivy
Hi Vivy,
Ini semua mainan dunia. Bersabarlah π
Keep on blogging and don’t stop posting your pic. This is your space.
Memang sifat manusia – jealous dengan kehidupan orang lain.
I love to read your blog. Sgt2 informative and you are so pure & crystal clear in everything. π
Always remember, Allah is with you.
Hugs & kisses;
Assalamualaykum, Vivy, and beloved readers,
Despite the uncertainty of you reading this comment of mine, let me first off say that it is a shame for a girl with such a lovely name (if in truth, that is her name) to feel and say and act like she did.
To err, is human. To forgive, divine.
I struggle with forgiving others too at times, hence the reason I admire your strength to forgive and move forward ever so strongly so from this unnecessary issue. Especially when she blatantly called you out for being a mother, your pregnancy and Daniel. I know it’s tough for me to keep calm if ever my child(ren) got insulted like that. Alhamdulillah, may Allah keep you strong.
If Marissa Irdina happened to read this,
“Sudah-sudahlah dengan membenci dan mencaci orang. For all we know, you sendiri tak kenal Vivy dan Vivy pun tak kenal you. Susah tau nak cari Vivy di khalayak jutaan dan bilion zillion gajillion manusia di Mahsyar nanti. You buat macam ni pun hidup dia masih fabulous; instead, hidup you merana sebab benci orang sana sini. Bahaya tau ada penyakit hasad dengki ni, Tuhan kata rezeki liat nak masuk. π ”
Vivy, I don’t know you personally other than from your blog and Instagram posts. But I adore you professionally for what you have endeavored and thus far achieved. You are one strong woman, and mummy-to-mummy, an excellent hands-on working mother, which role I struggle with on a daily basis.
May Allah make ease of your second pregnancy and smooth delivery, inshAllah.
Much love,
Alyssa
ssalamualaykum, Vivy, and beloved readers,
Despite the uncertainty of you reading this comment of mine, let me first off say that it is a shame for a girl with such a lovely name (if in truth, that is her name) to feel and say and act like she did.
To err, is human. To forgive, divine.
I struggle with forgiving others too at times, hence the reason I admire your strength to forgive and move forward ever so strongly so from this unnecessary issue. Especially when she blatantly called you out for being a mother, your pregnancy and Daniel. I know it’s tough for me to keep calm if ever my child(ren) got insulted like that. Alhamdulillah, may Allah keep you strong.
If Marissa Irdina happened to read this,
“Sudah-sudahlah dengan membenci dan mencaci orang. For all we know, you sendiri tak kenal Vivy dan Vivy pun tak kenal you. Susah tau nak cari Vivy di khalayak jutaan dan bilion zillion gajillion manusia di Mahsyar nanti. You buat macam ni pun hidup dia masih fabulous; instead, hidup you merana sebab benci orang sana sini. Bahaya tau ada penyakit hasad dengki ni, Tuhan kata rezeki liat nak masuk. π ”
Vivy, I don’t know you personally other than from your blog and Instagram posts. But I adore you professionally for what you have endeavored and thus far achieved. You are one strong woman, and mummy-to-mummy, an excellent hands-on working mother, which role I struggle with on a daily basis.
May Allah make ease of your second pregnancy and smooth delivery, inshAllah.
Much love,
Alyssa
Tak apalah vivy… dia lihat dari sudut yang berlainan. sy suka post vivy…
For whoever that will read all the comments here and get stumble into my comment, hrm… all I can say is that, we should not criticize or attack anyone here because that will make us the same.
My only reactions to Vivy’s comment here is.
OMG OMG SHE REPLIED! She reads all of our comments. gosh I almost cried. Kak Vivy! Maybe I am not in a place to say that I love you, cause I just knew you from the blog, but I am amazed with your calmness and peaceful mind π
Alyssa’s counter remark wins hands down! Such an articulate lady.
Love you all ladies for the sake of Allah. Perasaan cemburu itu is fitrah, its especially strong in a female’s primal intuition it seems. hehe. However the way we handle our feelings and channel it is all our doings.
We have all been jealous of atleast one person in our lifetime.
Now lets think of a good and polite keyword to call a sister out when we hear she is talking from a green eye point of view,nak?
This is another reason why i keep coming back to your blog V. I dig all the reminders that you very subtly send out to your readers that can only be understood ONLY if one reads between the lines of your humour.. Its entertaining but it has substance. I read a lot of blogs and i dare say that only few are able to be so casual & natural at being inspiring, if you know what i mean? π this is one of your many talents gurl so by all means please just flaunt it . Anyways, I dont at all think you are showing off (you are in the F industry, hello?!) In fact sometimes i wish you’d share more of your stuff that dont come from FV coz I know you have lotsssss, you crazy shopper you haha. Okay in all seriousness, yeah its good that you choose to hear these haters’ ramblings as means to improve yourself, but please dont ever stop being who you really are, k? be you, and urm maybe let your inner Harrods-girl shine once in awhile too haha π
i really love reading your blog especially this one here. i might not understand some of the terms because im chinese however i’ve learnt something which is useful for me – Don’t let the social media control your life but to enjoy social media. thank u and keep blogging!
Hi Vivy,
First of all, good on you for maintaining your composure. Secondly, thank goodness this girl barked at a kind person and not some manic revengeful serial killer, because…
If the IP address stated on her post is correct, you can actually track her location and locate her house on google satellite map. Not that it would be beneficial in any way but it does avoid curiosity from killing the cat π
Also, it’s a good reminder for everyone to know that you can be tracked down by simply sharing your IP address. So be careful because your privacy can be easily encroached.
The very basic thing in life, if it hurts you or if you hate it why spend time on it? i.e. bother even looking at the posts, the ootds, the whatever else negativity you could create. I love looking at OOTDs because yes Celine, Channel I can’t afford but if those are something I want, instead of jealousy I’ll harbour determination to one day reach that level or even better.
I completely agree on this psychological problems we women have. I guess we’re creatures with a lot of needs and if we see others have it we automatically became jealous. Think positive and you’ll be positive Insya Allah.
Anyway wishing you a safe delivery to baby M!
That email address.. Issh!… Kesian die. She hates the person she doesnt know. I think we are allowed to use ape saje nama Allah yg wujud, so issue nama ni mmg x relevent. But i like u vivy, u keep calm and just ignore. Thats the right way to deal with this problem. Just ignore that women ok. I would probably do the same thing too
V, I tak selalu baca your blog, but I hari2 stalk your IG! and I terbaca aiyaiyaiiaya… Haha! V, broken crayon still color the same! I learn something. Hidup ni mcm crayon, ada warna yg kita tak suka . Tp we still need to letakan dia dalam box , to make it look colorful . So for me MARISSA IRDINA & Lina adalah kelabu asap crayon. π kamon marissa & lina,.. Kamon wake up! Vivy di besarkan dengan gaya hidup yg berbeza dgn kita , even if we cant buy hermes or dior for ourself…kamon we shouldnt be jealous! Kita boleh kerja & beli yang lain to make ourself hppy. Tak perlu kot perangai macam ribena . Love you Vivy! Daniel and baby M. Semoga dipermudahkan segala urusan kelahiran baby M. We all pray for your safety.
I think it does reflect badly on the commentator that he/she would curse at the same time as talk abt religious things. But I don’t think you should dismiss completely what the message is signaling to you. That perhaps when you share things on IG it would do you justice to be more humble. Our Prophet (PBUH) said “be discreet in achieving what you want, for everyone who is blessed is envied”. When you “share” for whatever intention pictures of your husband and praise him, or pictures of your high end designer items, does it not tick in your heart just a bit that maybe someone out there does not even have the kind of love from their husband, or have enough money to feed their family for dinner? I am sure you might have once or twice thought about the less fortunate or even the most ordinary of lives struggling with day to day realities. I do not mean to offend you, surely your rizq came from the same Allah that has granted me mine. It’s just that it’s worth reflecting why we do the things we do on social media… And be honest about our intentions, because we will be questioned about them in the hereafter. To what end will a post lauding a simple thing as being able to dine out every single day serve? MashaAllah the wonderful flatlays you put up are a reminder of how much wealth you have and that is probably the thing that hurts some people… Because they are probably struggling with their hearts, their daily lives, even. You keep on making a joke out of your prolonged pregnancy… And yet a lot of women struggle with trying to concieve, or having had lost a child. Perhaps you can be a bit more discreet, a bit more humble, a bit more weary of who your audiences are. Of course you can post up anything you want, it’s your prerogative. But the reality is social media isn’t just a place to “enjoyyyyyy”, it is in fact a growing part of people’s lives… They go to bed with IG, they wake up in the morning to IG, etc. So in many ways you are giving access to your life to everyone… Except like you said, we don’t tell everything, we filter what we want to tell people… So really, your performativity on social media is through a well orchestrated, well thought-of plan of actions… No matter how candid they may appear. Because you granted access for others to view your life, then you’re the one having the control what they are seeing, right? I just wanted to be fair in my comments to you… Because sometimes in my heart I want to be happy for you, but I wonder why you keep doing the things you do, almost like you choose to be oblivious to the real struggles of ordinary, even poor women, who look at you daily for inspiration and even strength, perhaps. But only to be reminded that their lives are just… Ordinary. Your pictures undoubtedly evoke varying senses… Envy is one of them. So be selective… And always question your intentions before you hit that post button. Pride and riya’ get masked in ways that make them appear like they are noble… And iblees wants to sway us to think that what we are doing is simply “sharing”. Dont forget riya’ is labeled as a minor shirik, a hidden shirik. Only Allah knows of our true intentions, so I don’t expect you to really defend this as I am not trying to accuse you of veing riya’, but simply reminding you. In the Quran Allah says, “remind, for reminders benefit believers” π You are a role model for many, and Allah gave you this position as a test, to see how far you will take it. May Allah guide us all to the right path.
If you have the time check out the story of the man who had such fair skin that he inadvertently got sick due to “ainul hasid” (envy from just looking).
Jealousy comes from counting others blessings instead of our own.
subhanallah, you’re amazing Vivy. I can sense that you’re writing what’s from your heart and how pure your heart is as your writing touched my heart. I’m sure you’re living a peaceful and serene life without hatred and negativity. Thanks Vivy for this amazing advice =)
Subhanallah love your calmness dear. Put this petty things aside, just focus on delivering baby M to see the world k! U are one amazing inspiring person i adore and always look up to vivy! Pls dont get hurt or sad by this, its gonna hurt me too. haha told u that i love u so much! and yessss, dont changeeee. just stay the way u are ok! much loveee
Stay strong sis! May Allah soften her heart. And may Allah shows the right pathway to u in improving ur deeds and amal. InshaaAllah. Towards a better muslimat! InshaaAllah. βΊ
That comment was very difficult to read. Barbarity and ignorance aside.. The grammar was painfully bad.
Even as a non-Muslim – in fact I am atheist – I felt a jolt of shock to see the F word in the same sentence as other Islamic wordings.
I’ve been reading PD for a while and never got the sense that you are filthy rich (ok haha now I hope this doesn’t offend you), until a mutual friend commented that you and your husband’s families are very wealthy. To which I said, oh really? I never picked up on such signs through your blog though.
So you are absolutely right in pointing out that when someone is so easily offended, it’s a reflection of what is within themselves – insecurities they need to sort out on their own.
Though it doesn’t bother you much it surely doesn’t make for pleasant reading especially when it touches on your pregnancy, birth and children! Just so strange that people would hate on you, there is absolutely nothing to dislike about you. Don’t change anything for these people, instead continue on as yourself for those who love you π
If I were you, I’d drive to her house is Perak (based in her IP address), and talk to her face to face. Maybe belanja her some food too. Heheh
Successful people will always get haters. Been there done that. Unfortunately, there are all sorts in this world and some women sadly, are unhappy and bitter about the cards dealt to them without realising that they could very well change them if only they weren’t lazy.
I love all your posts. Please stay the way you are. I don’t get these people. If you don’t like what you see, or if it makes you feel envious and what not they are free to unfollow. Why fill your heart and time with so much negativity.
You said it sista! There will be haters even if you do good things…just shake it off!
i like how you handle things like this..
it made me cry..
u’re so beautiful inside & outside..
it showed in your writing..
semoga Allah merahmati Pn Vivy & keluarga..
this makes me adore you more & more..
no matter what ViVy..
i still adore u..
Dear Vivy, people will always try to knock you down knowing that you are a successful woman. remember that this is a test from Allah SWT too, you are a strong woman I’m pretty sure you can ignore all these comment.
its funny how this person is trying to ceramah you this and that about islam, but he/she tiger u in such a bad situation.
i will always support you :*
your big fan! x
Wow! You are such a strong lady. I don’t think I can be this “cool” if I was in your place, esp the way she criticized your child.
To the haters, please ask for forgiveness from the person you kutuk ni and also bertaubat la. PHD (Penyakit Hasad Dengki) ni lama2 membunuh. It will eventually kill you. Kill your kindness and yes, apa yang you akan dapat in the hereafter?
Tak takut ke gunakan agama untuk kutuk2 orang? Allah swt berikan kekayaan and to most of us nampak Vivy ni perfect, but bear in mind, tiada manusia kat dunia ni yang perfect. Kaya miskin sihat sakit semuanya ujian.
So, go purify your soul. Semoga kita semua terselamat daripada PHD. And also, do you remember the story of a lady and a dog, she gave the water to the dog. And she was chosen to be one of penghuni syurga.
Sepertimana yang diriwayatkan oleh Abu Hurairah radhiallahu ‘anh bahawa Baginda bersabda:
”Ketika seekor anjing berpusing mengelilingi sebuah perigi dan hampir mati kerana dahaga, seorang pelacur daripada suku Bani Israil melihatnya. Lalu dia menanggalkan kasutnya dan memberi anjing tersebut minum dengannya. Maka Allah mengampunkan dia kerana perbuatannya itu. ”
[Shahih al-Bukhari β no:3467]
Sentiasa la bersangka baik dengan orang. Orang yang alim pon belum tentu masuk syurga, orang yang jahil pon belum tentu pengakhirannya di neraka. Semuanya Allah swt yang tentukan.
While you are busy building your empire, having great life, she is just busy hating other people. So it’s her loss.
kisses for baby M vi. totally not related to this post, i know but i couldnt handle that level of harshness. bless u and your beautiful family.
Kesiannya biby usop…
Kesiannya biby usop…
To biby, turn to Allah before we return to Allah
salam v, saya amaze with how you view the world because i am somebody that full with negative thought. At some point in my life maybe i’ m just this lady that full of hatred (but i don’t spout verbally, i just become really passive in life ) and then i realize its very very tiring. And it only cost me to have depression now. but recovering slowly. Know this that you are very aspiring in every kind of way to me and maybe to other people also (duh) and you deserve everything that you have right now. Saya doa kejayaan awak sekeluarga dunia akhirat v.
p/s :To the lady of hatred you will only hurt yourself every time you sees how successfully v have become. So let go the hate, because nobody responsible to whom you have become today. Don”t hate on anybody