the virtual world
February 16, 2015Sponsored Post
You know how it is. You have a really busy day and your mom keeps sending you copy and paste messages of how if you don’t send this to 10 people, you will die.
“Mom I love you, but stop ittttt.”
“Ok sorry darling.”
And then she stops for 2 days before sending you more. -___-“
But there are more annoying things in life. Like whatsapp messages or emails from people you don’t know at all. Firstly, how on earth did you get my number. Secondly, why are you asking me to bank in to your account to help a child in need. Is the child really in need? Is there even a child?
Or like Missing Child or Missing Car or even Missing Person, please call this number etc etc. You feel so bad, you know? Like you want to help and spread the information so others can help. But at the same time, you don’t know if the information is verified or not.
So what do you do????
No seriously, I’m genuinely asking. Please leave a comment so that we all can learn from each other on what to do when we receive those kinds of messages.
That’s not my only encounter with Internet danger. There are many btw… cyber-bullying, identity theft, defamation, cyber security, spams, trolling.
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For me, I’ve had experience with these:
1) Identity theft – someone created a fake Facebook profile with some girl’s name and put my picture there. And started calling men for phone sex. So somewhere on this earth, some people might bump into me thinking ohhhh I’ve had phone sex with this girl. Errr, no dude, you have not, trust me.
What to do? – REPORT. I did so and the account got removed by Facebook.
2) Online shopping – I bought some notebooks from a US site and paid etc etc. Weeks gone by and I still haven’t received anything. I emailed them, no reply. Emailed all the emails on the website, no reply. I decided to check their insta account to leave a comment… they don’t have an insta account. Omg I’m so stupid. I didn’t even bother to check their credibility. So there you go, no notebook and some US dollars taken out of my pocket just like that.
What to do? – Always check a website’s other accounts for testimonials and credibility.
3) Child protection – when so much of your life is exposed (e.g. me as a blogger for almost a decade, and being active on Insta), you can’t help but share happy moments of your life like when you give birth or when your child does something funny on video. But be careful not to reveal TOO MUCH about your children, like their school name or where they go everyday for tuition, car plate numbers etc. If I want to post a cute picture of Daniel at a restaurant or something, I will always make sure to post it after we have left. There are so many more pics and videos I’d like to put up of Daniel but his safety and privacy prevail above all these social media obsessions.
What to do? – YOUR CHOICE. What you put up of your life is your choice, so think many many times.
4) Cyber bullying – I get a lot of negative comments on my insta, but you really can differentiate the sincere ones with the blatantly mean ones like “F*** you, Vivy!” etc which are probably just cries for attention. I never get worked up over them because they’re irrelevant.
What to do? – IGNORE. So many more things in life you have to do… like give birth next week. Bahaah.
5) Spammers – Omggg the Tinggi Langsing people on Instagram… and the Tag & Win contests where contestants tag me constantly… or the Tudung Murah Visit My IG comments I get on my insta. Ok first of all, they’re annoying and really spoil the picture. And secondly, I actually sell clothes and scarves myself, so it’s just plain rude to come into my space to sell yours. It’s like me going into a Chanel store and going Belilah beg Sofina saya, murah, murah! and doing it every single day. It’s just so not classy and a very cheap way of advertising, so don’ttttt ruin your brand image please.
What to do? – BLOCK AND REPORT ABUSE. If your thumbs don’t get tired. Because there are a lot of spammers everywhere.
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These are some examples I can think of. But I’ve heard of more. Like you should actually tape your videocam with a plaster or something because I’ve heard some cases where your videocam just turns on and someone in another country somewhere is recording you while you change clothes or something.
I hope I didn’t paint such a bad picture of the Internet because I’m not saying the Internet is all bad at all! Hello, I’ve gained so much from its existence in my business and personal life,… I probably should buy it several bouquets of flowers and maybe even take it out for dinner.
Like it or not, it is the tech era now and you should get on the bandwagon and ride the virtual wave too in order to not get left behind. There are so many things you need the Internet for… research, verified news, keeping updated with friends, and well, FashionValet! But like anything in life, it has its risks and you should use it with caution always.
Especially when you use it to find a life partner.
You could be talking to a guy who claims he is single, tall, rich, handsome… You might even think he’s the ONE and you’d like to buy a plane ticket to somewhere to finally meet him in person…
When actually the person behind the screen all along looks like this…
I mean… yeah, he’s single. But he ain’t tall and trust me, I’ve seen his bank account and he can’t even buy you an LV handbag.
Hehe ok jokeeeee.
But you know what I mean.
I found the tips on this MCMC website very useful. Perhaps you should have a look to learn more on how to protect your Internet self!
#klikdenganbijak
I thought child protection should be about blocking some of the websites?
hrm….but anyway,
thanks! such a good reminder, we should always remember our rights as a user
Hi Vivy! Years ago back when there’s no whatsapp, only sms, I once received one sms asking me to reload rm10 for him (konon from my father. He has no credit and asked to reload to that particular nub). Luckily we checked first.. I think as the technology advanced, certainly there will be more to come…
I don’t mind at all if the person behind the screen is Daniel!!! hahahaha.
#masihcarijodoh
Hahahaha “belilah beg Sofina saya, murah murah!” in a Chanel store lollll!
Vivy, in ur case I will buy both chanel and sofina sebab sofina slalu sold out!
yeah, i hate the part where people like to turn the disney princess as sex symbol & people shared it in facebook, what if some young girls click on it and saw/read all those nasty pictures/articles.how do u block that?
if the boy behind the screen is daniel I wouldnt mind to date him! we go eat chocolate and fries..gaa
online shopping mmg based on trust. u trust them to post to u after u hv paid. so usually i will read the review and testi or shop at some popular web like FV- I have no doubt. For IG i would look at the follower if more than 10k follower i guess it is trust-able?
Vivy, I agree with you especially on the spammers. Langsung tak reti pasal brand and marketing. I sometimes report them for spam if I see them in your posts.
Rule to remember: Trust no one!
My experience – I (an adult female) added this person in Insta just because she is religious looking (wearing niqab and sharing Islamic quotes etc.) and then continue as friend in Fb. She asked for help to transfer money with promises to pay back and then she asked me to use my name as proxy for a business, started to use my credit card (so stupid of me!) etc.and now she is ‘sicked’ and MIA – literally! It’s just a small amount of loss – you know, just RM50K++ in total
HAHAHAHAHAH The point you made on spammers made me LOL. I actually imagined you going into Chanel and doing that. Made my day!
And thanks for doing this post – it’s VERY helpful for every internet user. Online safety is a SERIOUS issue that more of us need to be aware of.
i happened to know someone kena tipu; the so long distance GF using Vivy’s IG photos and claimed it it her. Bf so happy la dapat awek cun mcm Vivy! Crazy!
Timely post, love how you have injected humour to this otherwise serious post.
Thank you, Vivy.
I ter’imagine’ u go to Chanel store and wave sofina sambil cakap ‘Belilah beg Sofina saya murah! Murah!’ Hahahahaha comeeelll hahahaha
omg. i died at the sentence ” It’s like me going into a Chanel store and going Belilah beg Sofina saya, murah, murah! and doing it every single day.” oh my, vivy!!! you’re so funny!
Don’t be suprise if your sofina laku mcm goreng pisang panas in the chanel boutique itself…bahahahah I love u vivy!
i actually dun mind sharing missing person’s info or recently whatsapp printscreen of flood victims saying they are stranded somewhere coz how to verify? and i dun think it will be harmful..internet is so powerful that it can spread the news very fast so the chances the missing person to be found or help to be sent is higher..however, other info such as halal haram, politics, gory pictures, i will check the source before click share..just my opinion though..your tips of sharing you whereabouts AFTER you left the place should be taken note by all out there..good tips 🙂
About the child donation, whether its true or not that’s between them n Allah, as a Muslim moreover u’ve a big wealthy n love to show off every ur richness so is there any wrong if u could give them some bucks? What are want to worry about? As long as u keep sincerity in heart so just leave it the rest onto Allah, don’t u ever dare to say about syurga neraka or heaven jannah u if ur hijab donning is not completely covers the aurat. Whereas your intention is only to promote ur super expensive duckscarves! Dont u ever think u’re so good n deserve to be inspired idol, raikan wanita or what so fucking like that if ur father mother is an datok n datin! Lainlah u background memang dari orang susah n yg jenis hanya mkn di warung kaki 5 sahaja! What a so pity n sorry for u vivy no wonder u susah nk bersalin coz of ur arrogance with ur baby dior n hermes etc, bertaubatlah sblm terlambat nau’zubillahiminzalik wallahu’alam
Oh last but not least, if u rasa u r very terror in solat baca quran n everything about islam did u know well that kita tak boleh beri nama ‘azim’ unless it stand with words of ‘Abdullah’ coz the words azim is only for Allah which is His AsmaulHusna? Did u know too the spelling of Daniel of Anbiya’ name is Danial i/o ur proudness Daniel fucking u? Thanks on your valuable time n pleasant heart to accept my comments~
Astaga, bawak mengucap la sesiapa yg di balik tabir marissa irdina ni. 1)TOLONG TAIP DALAM BAHASA MELAYU/MALAYSIA kalau bahasa inggeris tahap budak tadika. Pening nak baca. Tetiba ada ‘a’ dan whatsnot. 2)tak semestinya kena ada “Abdullah” utk guna nama Azim. Abdul pon dah cukup. Abdul Aziz, Abdul Mubin etc. berguru lagi ye? 3)rasa lega tak lepas maki hamun kat blog vivy ni? Ke hati tu masih berkesumat?kasihan betul awak ni. 4)siapa awak nak cakap yg vivy tak beranak sebab dia angkuh? Awak cuba nak mainkan peranan Tuhan ke? Bawak2 istighfar, ngucap semula 2 kalimah syahadah tu ye?
err…no need to be rude tho marissa irdina…macamana you nak ajak orang buat baik bila u sendiri guna perkataan F tu? btw, english ke, bahasa melayu ker, dua2 pun you fail…