dear parents,
October 5, 2015I haven’t blogged forΒ 5 days and that’s pretty long for me haha. A lot of things have been going on; we are planning for 2016 so a lot of top management meetings, we are moving into a new place, and you know… those two people named Daniel and Mariam are keeping us busy constantly.
Daniel’s had a week of school already and I’m pretty sure I have already gained the reputation of The All-Over-The-Place Mother with the teachers there hehe. Always “a bit” late to send Daniel and I have already forgotten to pick him up twice. *hides under table* Both times it was because I was in a meeting in the office and I was not keeping track of time. My phone is also always on silent because I can’t stand a lot of notification beeps (I have a gazillion active group chats and emails) so I missed my driver’s “Urmm, Daniel?” messages. God bless his soul for not judging me as I shout at cars driving so slowly when we’re zooming to pick Daniel up.
Still trying to adjust to having a child in school! Been a rough week for both Daniel and I. Separation anxieties on both side, him clutching on to my pants (top, scarf, shoes, handbag, everything) as soon as he sees the school gate, and me crying in the car after I leave him. In front of him, I act all tough because I want to teach him that this is normal so he has to get on with it, but inside my heart breaks into a sea of tiny crying-face emoticons. No working mother can not feel bad about this. The teachers keep consoling me saying that he’s totally fine after I leave and the crying stops after a few seconds when he sees other children (well, I’m pretty sure he’s more excited about the many many toy animals on their shelf. He couldn’t care less about other kids but I won’t tell the teachers that.). When I pick him up, I like to peek first at what he’s doing and he’s totally fine doing all the school activities. But the moment he sees me, he runs to me and starts crying and refuses to say Bye and Thank You to the teachers. I’m hoping this drama will end after a month or so!
On a positive note, Daniel has said repeatedly that he likes school and he gets excited when he wears his school bag (seriously such a cute giraffe bag I wore it a couple times). And I’m feeling so excited when I get a “Dear Parent, ….” announcement text from the school. Dear Parent... fuhhh I’m so grown up guys!! I get Dear Parent texts!
And soon my fridge doors will be covered with these.
“What a beautiful artwork you did there, Daniel!!!”
Lies I tell my children.
I once read an article explaining why kids behave way worse with their parents than with anyone else. It’s because you’re their comfort zone and they feel more secure with letting their emotions go when they’re with you. Daniel’s reaction is the same as my son’s too who is younger than Daniel by 2 months and started nursery school at 20 months. After a month or so he settled down in school very nicely and would just wave me off without a second glance when I drop him off and I tell you, that is even more heartbreaking than him crying and pulling at me to stay! π haha well we can’t have it both ways now, can we? After a couple of months at school, my son the antisocial boy now lovessssss playing with other kids and when we moved back to Malaysia and changed schools, he stopped crying when daddy dropped him off by the 3rd day. Alhamdulillah he is adjusting well and I hope Daniel wil too π
My daughter started playschool at 19 weeks. She cried everytime I dropped her and whenever I picked her up for 3 weeks.The teacher consoled me that she cried for only 5 minutes and then she was fine. As a mother, I left to work feeling sorry for her but just like you, we had to put on a brave face for our children. Hehehe. deep inside, we crumbled, shattered to pieces. Alhamdulillah, she is doing fine and I can see so many improvements in her social and language skills. Proud mom. Stay strong Vivy. It will all be over soon. hehehe
trust me, vivy. when it comes to kids, the mantra is “out of sight, out of mind” π
i hope you blogging everyday vivy! #butiknowyoubusy #isad
i love reading your blog vivy. cant wait for your new post.please post more..hehe