the best spaghetti

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I’m working on an exciting project and today it involved shooting myself cooking with my mom and mil in my kitchen. It was a first for me cooking with the both of them, and I clearly have no cooking skills so I was quite nervous. But it turned out to be so fun. The more my mom and mil complained about how I don’t have enough penyepits or bowls or cups, the more warm laughter filled the kitchen. It turned out to be the best spaghetti dish I’ve ever tasted, and I think it’s because of the love that was poured in the making of it.

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I realise how lucky I am to have them in my life and how God made it so easy for me to have a happy family. It’s not about the spaghetti, we could have made maggi for all I care. But it’s the time with them in the kitchen that is so invaluable to me. I know so many people whose mom and mil don’t get along, or they themselves don’t get along with their mil. And here I have these two wonderful women, who I call my moms.

I think the secret to a happy relationship with your mil, is to love her like how you do your own mother. But as much as you need to play your part as a daughter, it takes two hands to clap. The lucky part for me is that both my moms are so so understanding and obliging to the other party. They would always say, “Prioritise her first,” if I ever had to choose between the two. It’s never “me first” with them. When I got married, my mom told me to love my mil with all my heart and to never hurt her. The level of patience and kindness in these two women, I could only imagine to have one day with my own children’s inlaws. (At this point, I can’t even accept Caitlyn, let alone her mother. HAHAHAHA). But if your mil doesn’t accept you? Hey, Allah swt sees your deeds. Only He can open hearts, so never stop making doa and making effort.

God bless these two women of Jannah, Insyaallah. I love you, Mommy and Mak.

9 Comments

  • aina
    January 21, 2016 - 10:06 pm | Permalink

    Cant wait..when it will be aired..and what channel?

  • Fathin
    January 22, 2016 - 12:38 am | Permalink

    That camera though 😂😂

  • Ssan
    January 22, 2016 - 1:10 am | Permalink

    Alhamdulillah. You are so blessed :)
    Pls update us on this project when it’s time!

  • January 22, 2016 - 7:32 am | Permalink

    ive been blessed with wonderful moms too 😀

  • Ainie
    January 22, 2016 - 8:52 am | Permalink

    You’re such an inspiration Vivy. The way you and love and care for your family is just so amazing. May Allah blesses you with lots of happiness, because you have such a kind heart.

  • Ainie
    January 22, 2016 - 8:53 am | Permalink

    You’re such an inspiration Vivy. The way you love and care for your family is just so amazing. May Allah blesses you with lots of happiness, because you have such a kind heart.

  • A
    January 25, 2016 - 2:39 pm | Permalink

    You’re very blessed Vivy. My late mom passed away the year I was to marry my husband. I’ve gained a MIL, and thankfully she’s very kind to me. Though I still wonder what it would have been like if my mom was still here with us.

  • Erin
    January 27, 2016 - 2:11 pm | Permalink

    Dear Vivy,

    I’ve been a silent reader of your blog for so many years. This time I’d like to leave a little message of thanks. Thanks for your encouraging words of never giving up and making effort, even if your MIL doesn’t appreciate it. But God/Allah sees.

    Take care and wish happiness and health to you and your lovely family.

  • January 31, 2016 - 9:22 pm | Permalink

    May Allah bless our mothers and may they enter Jannah..

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