FML?
October 29, 2017Today I want to write about positivity.
I see too often people who whine and complain about things. I’m so stressed, I’m so tired, the world is against me, my parents hate me, my friends hate me, the weather is against me. And the global millennial code word FML – I will make it a point to question whoever says that in front of me, I have a pet peeve of those 3 letters because it’s the ultimate representation of everything that is wrong with our generation. I have those “why meeee” moments too, and then guess what – a blind man walks past. Or someone lost a baby. Or someone went bankrupt. Or a whole minority is on a boat in the sea because they got shunned out of their country. Like really guys, F our lives?? Your mouths are your weapons, watch what you let come out of it.
Mom, if you’re reading this FML means ummm “fruit my life”, like make it more umm, fruity and stuff.
My loved ones see me as a ball of happiness, always positive, always smiling at others. But honestly, I have challenges too, I cry too, and I overcome them as soon as they whack me in the face. I resolve issues immediately and this is from work down right to petty arguments Fadza and I have. I don’t live a minute of resentment because life is too short for that. Got problem – stop whining, find a solution, works/doesn’t work, find another one, works/doesn’t work, find other one, life goes on.
I had a string of bad luck this month. Firstly, Kak Siti went back for 3 weeks for her holiday – I sooooo cried inside (there was drama on the day she was supposed to come back, they didn’t find her name on the checked-in list and I couldn’t reach her so I was so scared that she would pull the not-coming-back-ever stunt on me – I will fly there and carry her back *cries*). I was juggling work and home as my smooth home process was now compromised when she left. She came back, the sun shined brightly again, then bam – she was rolled into emergency room for suspected appendix burst. Fadza and I stayed with her for hours and she had to be warded for 3 days where we all went back and forth after work to see her.
My sister also just gave birth so I went to see her everyday for that first week (and then I’m like this is your forth child, you can do this bye). Then, Kak Siti came home, and just when things were going back to normal, I had pain while peeing. I held in my pee for a few hours because I was in a long meeting and didn’t want to excuse myself. I felt like I had to pee every few minutes and it was really hard to focus on anything else – I had UTI and won’t go away on its own. So I went to emergency room again that night to get antibiotics and stuff. Fadza and I were off to Sabah for work to speak in front of 200 guests and while doing that, I was constantly wanting to pee while on stage.
We flew back straight to family dinner (I was mostly in the toilet on the plane) and hugged the kids tightly. The next day, we were supposed to fly to Melbourne so we wanted to be with the kids as much as we could. That night, instead of spending time with them, we spent it at the emergency AGAIN. Kak Siti fainted and we panicked, sending her straight to hospital. She was fine don’t worry. But at this point, I’m thinking I should really get a hospital membership….
We canceled our Melbourne trip because of Kak Siti’s condition being still very weak, and while consoling her, we were also calling to get refunds on our ticket and hotel. I was really sad that we had to cancel because I was so excited to go see Kim who had just given birth to her beautiful baby girl. The next day, we went to the hospital AGAIN for a checkup on Fadza’s sinus. While he did that, I went to do a follow up on my UTI. I was clear, phew. Went back up, and Fadza told me he’s going to be warded for 3 days because he has to do a sinus surgery. WHAT, HERE AGAIN?! You know the story, if not read here. Seriously, again, where do I sign up for this hospital membership?
In all of the above, my house looked like this.
It was unliveable so Fadza and I had to live in our parents’ house, everyday shuttling back and forth to get our clothes and the kids’ stuff and check on the house. On top of all this, work still had to go on, we had meetings we couldn’t cancel and we even had the book launch where I had to give a speech and make sure I know my stuff during the interviews.
We had a string of bad luck during this week from Kak Siti to me to Kak Siti again to Fadza, we went to the hospital every single day for a week and a half. So on the last day of Fadza in the hospital, we told each other, ok no more going to hospital for a while please. From now on, we check on our every move and be very very careful.
On our way out of the room, our abang came up to the room to help us with the bags and all. He was carrying the gifts that people sent Fadza. While walking a few steps out of the door, he slipped, fell and cakes, cupcakes and Chatime drinks just spilled all over the hospital floor. MY FLUFF CUPCAKES!!!!!! *cries blood*
We all ran to help him up thinking it’s just a normal slip, but no. He popped something in his knees and he couldn’t stand up or walk. I was so worried. He’s quite a tough buff guy so for him to be in pain, it must be really painful. I tried to help him up, but he was in so much pain from the fall that he couldn’t move. The nurses came fast with a wheelchair and we all rushed to the emergency room.
The guy there looked at me. “La, akak lagi???”
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How about a “Welcome back!” with a smile instead.
While waiting for the doctor to examine our abang, Fadza and I looked at each other, not sure if we wanted to cry or laugh. Every single day here and just when we were about to leave and end this bad luck streak, bam, someone snaps a knee cap. Thank God he was fine in the end, but still the trauma of it all.
I looked at Fadza. “You know what this means right?”
“What?” Fadza asked me.
“We have to mandi bunga.”
No one come near me please if you don’t want to end up in the emergency room.
Moral of the story: through all this one after another incidents, not once did I say FML or get upset with the world or get stressed. I just took it one day at a time, and found humour wherever possible.
Oh sorry, I meant humour for myself, not others. Bahahahaha.
Look at the positive, always. At the end of the day, everything will pass and there was no need to fruit anyone’s life.
Hi, Vivy!
I totally agree with what you blogged. Honestly, people tend to get very pissed off at the world and also they love to post it online especially on Twitter! Hate to see how some curse their family and say mean things about their parents. It’s sad to see knowing the fact that younger generations are reading those things thinking it is okay to curse at everything that doesn’t go their way. I try my very best to not tweet about it and just calm myself down. But I guess people have their own way of settling their own emotions (?) Hope this could be an eye opener to others.
Not to mention, (to Muslims) the more we are thankful – syukur, the more Allah SWT will give us. Sometimes we are blessed with challenges in life. Always be thankful for every nikmat and dugaan that He gives us. Everything happens for a reason. It might not benefit you today, but it surely will in the future.
You continue to inspire all of us with your positivity!!
vi! I remember someone told me this when i had a series of bad luck one time..
Do good deeds (sedekah and all) 🙂 sometimes its just Allah’s way of showing us that we need to sedekah more to prevent bad things from happening/ “bala”
Ps: this is just a reminder, if you’ve done all that.. Maybe it’s Allah’s way of showing you that good things are coming for you 🙂
Salam.
wow despite everything, we always see you smiling =)
When you said , humour to yourself . I have one private joke I have to myself also . I met a wrong guy , pretending he loves me -> cheated on my money and lastly dumped me and secretly married with someone else . So on his wedding day , I tell myself and laughed , congrats your work hard now payoff , your saving for home deposit now turn into majlis kawen jodoh orang lain . Nexttime jangan jaga jodoh orang 🤣🤣🤣
Thank you Vy 🤗
True, I complained a lot about my life but rarely ever I thank Allah for all the things have done for me. A great post, thank you Vivvy!
As always, an inspiration and motivation for all of your readers despite having a bad luck day(s). Haih I’m soooooo admiring youuuuu.
i love love reading this post this time, its just inspires me to get up today and chin up because good days are coming, ALWAYS.
You always inspire me. How to get humorous. I will pray for that.
Anyway, UTI is quite painful. I’ve been there. It felts like blade at that area while peeing. *cries*
Thank you for sharing such motivational post.
Bad things happen, but it’s how we manage it.
Still, I’m praying for humorous hormone in my life.
FML are #firstworldproblem, people who doesn’t know how to be grateful. Keep on inspiring people with your positivity vivy!
Oh God.. i really love your attitude, personality and all. You really inspire people. Keep sharing everything in ur blog.
Thanks Vivy for this motivation story ….
Really appreciate it …
Ok, let’s get that humourous hormone as many as possible
And be positive always ….
Whoa girl! I just recently watched your talk in Sabah, and really you were holding your pee? You looked sooooo cool and calm and all…. no wonder you are blessed with many things, coz you yourself count your blessings more than anyone else, despite being somebody who is so privileged, your are still grounded.
Reminds me of:
If you are grateful, I would certainly give to you more, and if you are ungrateful, My chastisement is truly severe (Ibrahim, verse 7).
Yo go girl… =D
Yes always be positive..
Gotta be one of my fav posts. Love the positivity throughout it all. Allah will not test us more than we can bear and Alhamdulillah, you have shown strength & gratitude throughout it all. If you didn’t write about it here, we wouldn’t have known the extent you went through because you didn’t show it really on your IG or other social media (hence why social media outlets are so misleading sometimes but that’s a whole different story hehe).
Am glad that everyone is, Alhamdulillah, doing ok now. Just remember that sickness expiates some of our sins so that’s another thing to be thankful for hehe Take care Vivy and Family.
Thank you for this post.
The chronology of your life and how you turn the negative into positive mood such as “how about a welcome smile” makes me realize we are the one to control how we think.
🙂
This post is gold 😍
Cant believe this is my first time here! Totally enjoyed reading your post! but smiling to your phone on the train was probably a bad idea. Definitely coming back. There’s definitely a hikmah to all that has happened, guess it makes us appreciate those around us more, since we often take them for granted especially with work. Please do take care!
😍😍😍 thank u for the positive spark !… i needed this reminder…
your post never disapoint me
You are so princess Poppy.
easier said than being done. A test is so different than being busy. UTI is nothing. been there done that. But try to have multiple sickness that needs money BUT you dont have one. or money is not enough. Im not FML. But I respect people who did get mad at the world.they have all the right to do so. We can only aspire others to be positive, but as long as we r not them. We cant have such a big head and say things like y’all should say Fak my life, n be like me, a ball of joy.Cz I know some people who were tested so many things, they deserve to be mad and gloomy/sad. So, nevertheless, you are a good role model, even I try to be like you or other more deserving like Dato Seri Vida and whatnot. (cz we know how her life was,she losts her sons,wasnt born rich and whatnot) every entreprenuers has shows us that they are strong. but we are human being. havent you heard. ‘Good people need a break too’. lolol. totally a rip off from ClICK movie. bt wtver. I wish strong people like you can give us more tips on how to handle 1,2,3. 😉 keep on inspire us, but less critics yea? lol.
Hi Vy! Positivity is great I totally agree! But sometimes it is okay to be sad, to be stressed- that’s life and that’s being human. Just because other people in the world have worst problems does not mean that one is not allowed to dwell on their issues. A larger problem at the other side of the globe does not render your problems any less important. This is vital to understand – as you never know if your friend is depressed and needs help, and that she is not always “down” because she’s ungrateful =) Anyway, keep smiling and inspiring Vivy!
no need to mandi bunga lah. just complete 3x mandi every day is enuff.. ;-p
Thanks Vivy. I had a streak of bad luck too for this week and thankfully I read your blog and it’s an eye-opener! Thank you! Thank you! for making me feel all positive again!
If you have enough food on your plate, neither you or your family is dying of cancer, a roof over your head, i really dont see what you are whinging about.
Auntie… you are not alone.
I also dont know what FML is.. *pfffttt
.. Auntie… you are not alone.
I also dont know what FML is.. *pfffttt
this inspires me! no matter what happens, you always be positive!
Keep that and keep inspire us!
at first i tot that fml is for my love .
Huda
Allah tidak membebani seseorang melainkan sesuai dengan kesanggupannya. Mungkin di mata dia ujian berat, tapi di mata kita, ringan. Apa yg penting cara kita menangani masalah. Cuba baca dan faham dari sisi lain.
Hahaha Fadza face at the end photo really got me.. Hahaha… you mentioned that both of you went to Sabah to give a business talk. WHY do I missed this important date..??!! Arrrghhh FML..!!!!
Owh my, thank goodness all went well. Your positivity really inspired me. Yes lots obstacle to face daily & sometimes nightmare too. We do look back & laugh about it but while having it, we sometimes cries inside. Really need this positivity babe.
your writing can help me in my examination… thank you so much vivyyusoff
V, do a small ceremony of doa selamat or anything. I mean its like small doa kesyukuran for Allah giving u strength to go through all this. This is back to back madness but iAllah u will make it thru.
I always support you..you just have to rest…
and what is fml?