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#calaqisyafv

I have to admit that I’ve never been a big fan of long dresses or jubahs. You can see from my PD Daily that I never really have those featured simply because I don’t wear them on a daily basis. I like my usual go-to pants. But like or not, jubahs are a necessity in every Muslim woman’s wardrobe. So many instances Dean and I have to go to a surprise tahlil, or attend a funeral and I kick myself in the head when I find that my one black jubah is either in the wash or I left it at Mom’s.

Now that I’m pregnant and pants are no longer my friends, a flowy non-judgy non-pretentious non-critical jubah seems sooooo awesome.

Don’t know about you, but I’m very excited for the Calaqisya <3 FV collaboration that is launching tomorrow. Three jubah designs, lots of colours each, beadings and sequins for just some subtle glam, and all under RM 200. The best part is that they wanted to celebrate women empowerment so they named the designs after women warriors in Islam to honour them.

Have a look tomorrow!

In the meantime, you can read the BTS and interview with the Calaqisya ladies here. Quite interesting to see the dynamics of 3 powerful sisters. And have an inside look on our photoshoot trip to a desert far far away *ahem*.

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Raya Haji outfit sorted for me!

Shop the collection tomorrow Monday here and don’t forget to tag #calaqisyafv ok?

being a mom growing up

simple question

While Toots is away on Hajj (we miss her terribly), Asma’ and I have been entertaining ourselves with things. Most recently, I was venting out to her about my stressful day and after listening and giving good advice, she said “Ok change topic now. What are you thankful for today?”

This simple question just turned everything around and perspectives just spun 180 degrees. You can think your whole day couldn’t get any worse, but God is fair. He tests you with hard challenges, but He also inserts goodness in your life. It’s only up to us whether we want to see positivity or not. If we choose to just be angry or depressed about something, we’ll never be happy or thankful.

At the time we were messaging each other, Daniel was next to me happily watching Hi-5.

Without even a few seconds to think, I just replied, “Daniel. Everyday, Daniel.”

It’s been 14 months now since Daniel entered into our lives and my goodness, it just gets even more amazing everyday. When I come home to him, I’m just so excited during the drive I wish I could fly through the traffic jam to get to him. And when I go “Daniellllll I’m homeeeee!” and he appears out of nowhere running to me, it’s as if I have a little piece of heaven in my life.

Visions of him smiling and laughing came to my mind, and I just am so thankful God landed him in our family.

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I message Asma’ again after realizing how not cool I was. “Omg I’m such a sappy mom!! Yuck yuckkk!”

Daniel was shaking his hips in front of the TV, dancing to a Hi-5 song. I came to him and just wrestled him down to kiss him all over saying “Don’t grow up too fast. Don’t grow up too fast, you hear meeeee!” He pushed my face away and screamed, so annoyed that he can’t see the TV.

So much for love, Danny boy.

But yes, my point is… whenever you feel down, ask yourself a simple question. “Ok, that part sucks and I have to find a way to solve it intelligently. But for now, what am I thankful for today?”

It could be a great lunch, or a phone call from your mom, or that big pimple is now gone, or you didn’t walk into a pole today. Anything! Gotta always think, life is full of ups and downs, just gotta enjoy every moment of it.

You will be surprised how positive you’ll feel afterwards.

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striped culottes

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Culottes are hard to pull off but I realise with some heels and some confidence, even petite girls can pull off this trend. The designer of this particular pair is smart because she used vertical panels to help with adding illusion of length. A keeper for sure. During the weekend, I wore these culottes (kinda like pants for me since I’m short haha!) with a sweater and loved the I-woke-up-like-this look the pair gave. For work, I paired this with a wrap top. Actually this was the top part of the Dahlia Kurung from Nora Danish for FashionValet. Versatility at its best! Cinched with a thin belt, high heels, a plain scarf and off to my meetings I went.

Wrap top from Nora Danish for FashionValet, striped culottes from Haflins and scarf from dUCK, from FashionValet. Belt from Hermes, bag from Celine and heels from Aldo. 

lifestyle

miss didy

What I really need to work on is my time management. My tardiness is something I really can’t help, no matter how hard I try. In my efforts to improve that, I come to meetings early now thinking mannn I’m so proud of myself. Then because I’m so early, I’ll go to a shop or a bookstore while waiting for the other people… then before I know it, I’m late! Like how… how can that be?! I was early, I swear!!, I would tell the people, getting a bored Mmm-hmmm from them after. But, but I really was early…

One of those “people” is my favourite spa place. Everytime I book an appointment for a massage, I will get a “But please Miss Vivy, we need you to be on time this time, ok?”. My reputation there is well, not so good… even though I tell them to cut the time for my session. After being late sooo many times, this face cannot get any thicker. I cringe when I have to answer the dreaded question from them on the phone – “Can I have your name, please?”

Soooooo tempted to say Asma’.

“My name is Vivy,” I’d answer on the phone, palm on forehead while biting my lip.

After getting a troubled “Oh….” reply on the other side, I’ve been so shy to go back there!

But then! But then I find out they opened another outlet. Just like starting your first day in a new school, you can start fresh and have no reputation! I was in dire need of a massage, so I called them up to book an appointment today.

“Sure thing, one hour massage today. Can I have your name, please?”

Pause. Deep breath. “My name is Vivy.”

Pause. Oh no, they know!! They told this outlet too!!

Then, “Sorry I couldn’t hear you. Can you repeat your name, Miss?”

“Vivy. V-I-V-Y.”

“Ok sure let me write that down. D-I-D-Y. Ok, Miss Didy, we will see you later for your massage,” she said in a friendly tone. Whoaaa I felt so bad like I didn’t deserve that friendly tone. But technically, I did not lie. She misheard me, spelled my name wrong, and I did not want to waste any of her time since other customers might be calling! Pretty thoughtful of me, if you ask me.

I walked into the new outlet with a huge smile on my face. I was greeted by someone completely new and she gave me a smile. A smile, guys! Ahhh, fresh start feels so good.

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(in a relaxed whisper tone)

Ok guys, Miss Didy is ready for her massage now. Goodbye.

love

couples fight

Boy meets girl. Butterflies in stomach. Can’t sleep thinking about each other. Phone lights up with a message. Jump over to check if it’s him.

As much as I’d like to think I’m too cool for this, I’ve been here too. With Dean of course. Oh and when I was 15 and thought that college boy was into me. Whatevs #collegeboyswerecoolbackthen. My point is, you’ve been here too, whether or not you’d admit that in public. DON’T YOU LIE AND SAY NO.

Then you get married. And all the butterflies magically disappear and you know so much about each other that a different kind of love emerges. The one with tolerance and patience and such. Hehe. I told myself pre-marriage that Dean will never see me without makeup. Nowadays he has seen more prawn-induced swollen face than my skin doctor. I told myself I would rather pass out than let Dean hear me fart. Nowadays… you get the point. #iamstilltoocooltofartwhatevs #thatwasntmethatwasDaniel.

When you spend your whole life together and you live together, it’s completely different than just going on dates and being over the moon in love. Unless you married a unicorn, there’s bound to be lots of flaws you didn’t know about. And lucky for Dean and I, we have learned to love each other’s flaws to love each other’s goodness more than we dislike each other’s flaws. That’s why, before you get married, CHOOSE THE RIGHT PERSON. Of course easier said than done. So all the best!

Dean showed me this video about couples, and we both thought it was hilarious.

After laughing at how relatable this was, he turned to me, “Okay so seriously, what do you want for dinner?”

“Hmmm…. anything also can, you decide.”

And here we go again.

being a mom love travel tales

a parent’s dilemma

I have never left Daniel even for one night, so when Dean and I have the opportunity to go on a trip overseas we are always really torn. Do we go, do we not go? Selfish me was all like heck yeahhhh we should go! But sappy dad Dean was all like we-cant-leave-Daniel-it-will-scar-him-for-life. -___-”

So, we both agreed to do a practice run. We had some work stuff we wanted to do in Singapore, so we thought ok just one night, let’s go to Singapore and leave Daniel at his grandma’s. At least we leave him with our family and Singapore is near enough for us to get the next flight back in case Daniel doesn’t stop crying missing us (which did not happen, guys. He couldn’t care less if we went to Alaska even). Just one night. If we can get through this, perhaps it’s ok to go on this trip overseas that we want to go for. If we can’t get through this and Daniel suddenly talks and says “Bad Daddy, Bad Mommy!”, then by all means, we will cancel the trip. And confirm that Daniel is a genius.

I was sooo excited to go. Had like 6 outfits planned and 2 bags full of my stuff. Even though it was just for one night, a girl needs options ok. Dean knows who what he married. We kissed Daniel goodbye while he was sleeping in the morning and off to the taxi I skipped excitedly. Dean? He was dragging his feet and kept looking back to see if Daniel had magically woken up and was perched by the window with tears in his eyes (again, did not happen, guys…). On the plane, Dean would stare into nothingness and suddenly quietly sings “One two three four, high five… one two three four, high five…” while wife here rolls her eyes. “Relax, he’s totally fineeeee!” I would remind him.

Anyway, truth be told, this break was what I needed. Singapore was scorching hot and since we were so adventurous to walk everywhere (Malaysians don’t walk, in case you don’t know. This was a big thing for us, using our legs and all…), we were sweating like mad. Had Daniel been there, we would’ve been in such bad moods because we would have to carry him and he would have been uncomfortable in the heat, all those things. But since it was just Dean and I, we enjoyed each other despite the heat, and we held hands and hugged like young lovers. It was really really nice. For dinner, Dean took me to a fancy restaurant and we had a lovely spot in the corner to ourselves. We talked, we reminisced, we shared thoughts and dreams, we ate and drank, and held hands the whole way.

Then, back at the hotel, Dean video-called his mom to speak to Daniel. For the fifth time that day. -___-” Daniel looked a bit sad, and he looked as if he missed us because he kept crying everytime we were going to hang up. And that crushed Dean’s night and broke his heart into pieces. After ending the video call heavy-heartedly, Dean just stared into space and let’s just say he-had-something-caught-in-his-eyes. I didn’t know whether to laugh at him or sympathise with him. I’m pretty sure if I hadn’t comforted him, he would’ve packed up his bags and taken the next flight home. And of course when we turned on the TV, there was a show about babies. Made. It. So. Much. Worse.

 Daniel, you’re very lucky that you have a responsible dad who loves you sooooo much that everything he does he has you in his mind. And the thought of you being even one night without one of your parents pained him because he felt he wasn’t doing his responsibility as a dad. Of course your mom here loves you just as much and worried about you the whole time, but you know… I’m just way cooler than your Daddy. There was nothing “caught in my eye”, unlike your Daddy. I’m cool with giving you your own space sometimes. Haha.

I concluded that parents will always have that dilemma. They want to have a two or three days break away from the children and just be like teenagers in love again, but at the same time the responsibility of being parents and the guilt of leaving your children behind will always be at the back of your mind the whole time. And I think that’s a good thing. All parents should feel this way so that you know where your responsibilities lie. I would say go ahead and have that break because you still need your husband-wife time, but don’t do it too often that the children feel neglected and always check in to see that they’re ok.

 As for my little family, I have accepted the fact that Dean is never going to be that type of dad. It’s just too hard for him, bless his soul. And I thought I was the clingy one! Haaaaave you met Daddy Dean? But either way, I’m thankful that he agreed to this Singapore trip. I had a blast and my pregnancy craving for that awesome roti ice-cream on Orchard Road has been satisfied!

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happy monday!

I’m in Singapore now!

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Wearing a metallic top from Haflins from FashionValet.

My first time in Haji Lane, can you believe it? All the times I’ve been to Singapore, I’ve never set foot in this area. It’s quite nice, sometimes I felt like I was Mexico for some weird reason. Will write more soon.

Wishing everyone a productive week ahead!